Question:
My fiance has a daughter that by the wedding she will be 9 yrs. old. How old is too old for a flower girl? And how can we include her in the wedding cermony?

Answer:
While “hardcore” rules for who can and can’t be in your bridal party are becoming more a matter of personal preference rather than steadfast “principles”. But, when it comes to flower girls, there do seem to be some “rules to live” by, mostly dealing with age. Ideally flower girls should be old enough to handle the responsibility without being old enough to be part of the main bridal party. According to experts they should be between four and eight years old, although some “sophisticated” tots of two or three can be just as “professional”, especially with the help of a parent or an older sibling. If the young lady in question is older than 8 (especially if she is 10 or older) you may want to reconsider her for a different position, such as junior bridesmaid, and if she’s a teen, she can even be part of the main bridal party. Either way, she should wear a similar style of dress to the other bridal party members (only more subdues to suit her age) and within the same color family. Also, whether she’s part of the party or a junior bridesmaid, she is expected to walk down the aisle in the procession and stand at the alter along with the other attendants.