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Cool, Calm, And Collected: Beating The Bridezilla Syndrome

by Mia Bolaris-Forget (Staff Writer NYCityWeddings)

It use to be that when a gal got engaged people cheered her on with joy and enthusiasm. And, at least for most of my friends, planning the big day was fun and exciting. In fact, we ALL looked forward to it.

But, brides-to-be have been getting some bad “press” these days. In fact, the news of an engagement often leaves family and friends “cringing” in expectation of her “transformation” into what is commonly known as a Brideszilla.

But, let’s face it and let’s be honest, what girl doesn’t dream of this day her entire life? And, what girl doesn’t want her day to be picture perfect? And, which lady “isn’t” going to do what she has to, to make all her dreams come true.

The answer to most, if not all of these is “not many”. In fact, it’s more likely the opposite is true. And, so when did being meticulous and wanting what you’re paying for become a bad thing? Well, according to experts, when we do it with “attitude”.

Experts even suggest that being explicit in what you expect and “refusing” to accept anything less is admirable and normal. But, it’s getting rude, crude, and abnormally demanding that poses a problem. Lets face it calling your catering hall a few times or even several times over several months or even stopping by to finalize all the fine details makes sense; calling them a few times a day for over a year and “nagging” about specifics is NOT. Neither is bossing around your fiancé, your mom, vendors, sales personnel, or your bridal party and taking this is MY day, I’ll conduct it the way I want and leaving no room for “leniency” or advice.

They add, that being a bride, and wanting your special day to be “flawless”, is NOT license to be disrespectful. And, even if you are, you are only making “enemies” rather than friends, and the outcome may be people less inclined to go that extra mile to ensure your big day is everything you’ve worked and complained so hard to ensure it would be. In fact, they remind brides that you get more with sugar than vinegar.

And, they add, for those in the wedding process, what makes a bride truly beautiful is her attitude. So, keep the stress to a minimum, enjoy the ride and learn how to laugh at frustration (because there will be plenty) and keep a smile on your face, especially when dealing and speaking with vendors and wedding professionals. And, remember, when you smile that whole world smiles with you.