On Your Mark, Get Set, Go! Rules For A Shorter Than Normal Engagement.

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On Your Mark, Get Set, Go! Rules For A Shorter Than Normal Engagement.

by Mia Bolaris-Forget (Staff Writer NYCityWeddings)

While lots of couples these days have lengthy engagements to finish school, save up for a house, or just to be able to afford the wedding, there’s no rule that says you have to (wait). In fact, if you look at history and tradition, most couples got married shortly after they got engaged (and of course informed family and friends).

Yes, times have changed. People are waiting longer (to get married), weddings are getting more elaborate and more expensive and parents (especially with more than one child) simply can’t afford to foot the entire bill.

So, it would seem that waiting at least a year (if not two) would be a good idea. In fact, it may almost seem “advisable”; and for many reasons, according to experts, it IS.

Holding off on having your celebration “immediately” after your engagement means having to work fast and to consider and be open to lots of compromises, while waiting will more likely than not ensure you have the wedding of your dreams. Not only will you have more money in the bank (and/or to spend) but sites and vendors will probably be more able to accommodate you, you won’t worry about things not being prepared on time, you can “enjoy” the process, and you give your guests more time to save up for and plan for your affair.

On the other hand, people’s life situations may change, your friends may get married or move away. Perhaps even start a family of their own, limiting their availability for such things as bridal showers, out-of-town bachelorette parties, and partying (at your wedding) all night long. Also, older relatives (and/or friends) may also not be able to make it as easily to share in your special day.

Remember, life is what happens while YOU’RE busy making plans. With that said, experts suggest a comfortable “compromise” of about one year as ideal for arranging your nuptials and celebration. However, they remind brides and grooms that if your flexible, easy-going and understanding with a variety of tastes and options (for your special day) hosting a successful affair in less time is “doable”. Just remember to keep your mind and your options open; and don’t forget to have fun along the way.