Dressy Bessies: Picking Bridesmaid Dresses That Won’t Break The Bank

by Mia Bolaris-Forget (Staff Writer NYCityWeddings)

Getting married “older” afforded me the opportunity and the finances to “break tradition” when it came to my bridal party and paying for their suits/tuxes and bridesmaid dresses. But, remember, that’s not the norm. In fact, “traditionally” speaking your bridal party, should they accept, should know and fully expect to pay for their own tux or their own dress.

Feel a little “uncomfortable” asking? Don’t, you’re not doing anything out of the ordinary or wrong. Still, you shouldn’t expect that your girls know the protocol. Instead, it’s best to give them a heads up as soon as possible. We recommend telling them when you first request their honour of being in your bridal party; but if not shortly thereafter, especially since some may have to save up for your special occasion and pre-wedding fetes. Instead of picking out tuxes and dresses on your own have the guys accompany the groom while your friends accompany you. Then, after giving them a good idea of what you like, ask them to pick out something that can agree upon and like, reminding them to choose “carefully” since their selection will be on out-of-pocket expense. And, if one of your maids expresses being in dire financial straights, explain that accepting your offer isn’t mandatory or speak to the other girls about pitching in and possibly covering her costs.