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The Mating Game: Making Forever Fun And Fabulous

by NYCityWeddings.com

Most people say that love changes over time, and some even claim to lose “that loving feeling” over time. Still, according to experts, what goes away is the anxiety associated with newness, uncertainty and the excitement of the chase and the challenge. Basically the lust, turns into love and that’s when most couples realize that it take work to keep the passion and the relationship both intense and alive.

And, whether you felt like “soul mates” from the start or like you were the perfect example of “opposites attract”, at some point the fun and games became (or will become) routine and that translates into each of you having to do more than you’ve ever done before. And, a willing spirit and good attitude toward “hard” work and compromise when it comes to love, say experts is the key to both personal and mutual success.

Remember when it comes to relationships (of any kind) you can either see the glass as half empty or half full. And, ironically enough we are more likely to hold on to (key) friendships than we are to serious relationships….yet, the fact remains that even our closest friend(s) “will” disappoint or annoy us from time to time. The difference is the value we place on our respective relationships and the emphasis and effort we place on each.

Myself included, I will hold my tongue and take more “trash” from my closest friends than I would from my man. And, I even more willing to overlook and forgive without keeping track of wrongs or holding their errors against them. Sound familiar? According to experts, it should, since most of us operate on this same primary principal….especially when working at it begins to seem like just another “chore” on your daily “to do” list. And, that they say is where the issues begin. In fact, when it comes to love, most of us need a serious attitude adjustment.

Here are just a few suggestions to keep it exciting, fresh, and an ever-lasting success.

· Evaluate you own attitude: Is success and a successful relationship what you really want? Let’s face it, if you’re not completely (for the most part) committed to the idea, you won’t be committed to the work it takes to succeed. Most pro-sports players eat, breath and drink their sport, as do professional musicians and dancers their craft. In fact, it’s their top priority despite all the other interests and priorities on their list. Ask yourself…are you giving it your all? Do you even want to?

· Alter your attitude: Rather than seeing the need to work on your dynamic as drudgery, look at is as an exciting challenge. Remember the (initial) days or weeks of dating, when every contact was exciting and getting dressed up, cooking a meal, of spending time together was “fun”….in fact, you came up with new and creative ways to have fun together when you got together. Well, bring that
excitement and that approach back, and watch your own excitement and love life bounce back.

· Stay “engaged”: From those in the initial, “not much invested yet”, getting to know you phase, to those long-term lovers who’ve grown “comfortably numb”, it’s easy to become “disengaged” from your mate. This is especially true in this day and age, where busy, independent lifestyles can get in the way….and where we each barely have time for ourselves. It’s easy to see how nurturing someone else can prove stressful or get in our plans way. But, say pros, that’s exactly the ingredient that every relationship needs to stay blossoming and in full bloom.

· Talk the talk and walk the walk: Be prepared to say what you mean and mean what you say and to act on it accordingly. Communication is key as is constant reinforcement of feelings and your love. Telling someone you love them never goes out of style, neither does showing them just how much. Just remember to give your mate his or her breathing space, so that you each have something special to share and to keep each of you excited in and about the other.

Last but not least experts say that finding “the one” and staying in love, if you’re each ready, willing, and able to do your part, is easier and more gratifying than you may think.