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Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

Posted By
ThongLori CURLIEGIRL Member since 4/03 1713 total posts Wedding Date: 9/16/2004 12:00 AM Wed. Location: Florence, Italy/Harrison House	Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto Ok, here are the basics: -- My shower is this Saturday (obviously not a surprise) -- I invited only closest friends, not every female invited to the wedding, because with the amount of family we have, it's over 50 people already! -- Once of the people who did not make the cut is my FH's business partner's wife -- I have only met FH's business partner's wife about 3 times -- I did bring this up to FH way at the beginning when I made the initial guest list and was cutting peeps, and I remember saying she won't know anyone... cause she won't! But, of course he doesn't remember. LOL Now apparantly, today FH biz partner is asking if I am having a shower, and is his wife going. FH feels awkward, since he has NOTHING to do with the shower, and just said yes Lori is having a shower. Maybe I am wrong, but I don't feel bad about this. I cut people from the list who I am FAR closer to, simply because our numbers were so high as it is. I would rather have my close buds there. FH now just asked me if I could invite her now -- did I mention the shower is this SATURDAY? and my mom has to give final #s to the restaurant this wed. I feel the best way to deal with this at this late date, if it comes up again, is for FH to direct his biz partner to me and explain that we have a HUUUUGE family, and I only invited a small amount of friends to the shower, it was not meant to offend, just logistically I could not invite everyone! Which is all true! WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK? TIA!!!
	Posted 7/26/04 9:43 PM Email to Friend \| Forum Mail \| Edit Post \| Print \| Quote \| Reply \| Report Post

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ThongLori

Member since 4/03

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Wedding Date:
9/16/2004 12:00 AM

Wed. Location:
Florence, Italy/Harrison House

Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

Ok, here are the basics:

-- My shower is this Saturday (obviously not a surprise)
-- I invited only closest friends, not every female invited to the wedding, because with the amount of family we have, it's over 50 people already!
-- Once of the people who did not make the cut is my FH's business partner's wife
-- I have only met FH's business partner's wife about 3 times
-- I did bring this up to FH way at the beginning when I made the initial guest list and was cutting peeps, and I remember saying she won't know anyone... cause she won't! But, of course he doesn't remember. LOL

Now apparantly, today FH biz partner is asking if I am having a shower, and is his wife going. FH feels awkward, since he has NOTHING to do with the shower, and just said yes Lori is having a shower.

Maybe I am wrong, but I don't feel bad about this. I cut people from the list who I am FAR closer to, simply because our numbers were so high as it is. I would rather have my close buds there.

FH now just asked me if I could invite her now -- did I mention the shower is this SATURDAY? and my mom has to give final #s to the restaurant this wed.

I feel the best way to deal with this at this late date, if it comes up again, is for FH to direct his biz partner to me and explain that we have a HUUUUGE family, and I only invited a small amount of friends to the shower, it was not meant to offend, just logistically I could not invite everyone! Which is all true!

WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK? TIA!!!

Posted 7/26/04 9:43 PM

Posted By
julz33 Board Princess Member since 8/03 11396 total posts Wedding Date: 9/24/2004 6:30 PM Wed. Location: Huntington Townhouse	Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto I think your FH should just say this to his partner: " explain that we have a HUUUUGE family, and I only invited a small amount of friends to the shower, it was not meant to offend, just logistically I could not invite everyone! Which is all true!"
	Posted 7/26/04 9:45 PM Email to Friend \| Forum Mail \| Edit Post \| Print \| Quote \| Reply \| Report Post

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Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

I think your FH should just say this to his partner:
" explain that we have a HUUUUGE family, and I only invited a small amount of friends to the shower, it was not meant to offend, just logistically I could not invite everyone! Which is all true!"

Posted 7/26/04 9:45 PM

Posted By
Happybride2005 SPRING IS ALMOST HERE Member since 5/04 1560 total posts Wedding Date: 9/18/2005 3:30 PM Wed. Location: Ariana Waterfall A+++++++++	Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto You could say that the shower is real small with only family being invited.
	Posted 7/26/04 9:46 PM Email to Friend \| Forum Mail \| Edit Post \| Print \| Quote \| Reply \| Report Post

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Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

You could say that the shower is real small with only family being invited.

Posted 7/26/04 9:46 PM

Posted By
Janine24 We could not ask for more... Member since 7/03 3933 total posts Wedding Date: 11/7/2004 3:00 PM Wed. Location: Swan Club...WOW!!!	Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto I agree... you can just expln that your family is so big so you limited the guest list to family only... she will have to understand...
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Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

I agree... you can just expln that your family is so big so you limited the guest list to family only... she will have to understand...

Posted 7/26/04 9:46 PM

Posted By
palebride Intercourse knows no season... Member since 6/03 12359 total posts Wedding Date: 4/3/2004 12:00 PM Wed. Location: Watermill	Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto i agree with you totally......just let them know that it's not that you hate her or don't want her there - it's just that you had to keep the list tight...and lots of people were cut. tell her she can still give you a present though teasing!!!!!!! wouldn't she feel a little odd being invited at this point in time now? and why is thongmatthew's business parnter talking about your shower? does he have nothing masculine to discuss?
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palebride

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Wedding Date:
4/3/2004 12:00 PM

Wed. Location:
Watermill

Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

i agree with you totally......just let them know that it's not that you hate her or don't want her there - it's just that you had to keep the list tight...and lots of people were cut.
tell her she can still give you a present though teasing!!!!!!!

wouldn't she feel a little odd being invited at this point in time now?

and why is thongmatthew's business parnter talking about your shower? does he have nothing masculine to discuss?

Posted 7/26/04 9:47 PM

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ThongLori CURLIEGIRL Member since 4/03 1713 total posts Wedding Date: 9/16/2004 12:00 AM Wed. Location: Florence, Italy/Harrison House	Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto Posted by palebride wouldn't she feel a little odd being invited at this point in time now? this is EXACTLY what I said! Imagine getting an invite on July 27, that says: RSVP by June 30. LOL Thanks girls for your advice, and all of what you are saying is what really happened, so I should not feel bad!
	Posted 7/26/04 9:50 PM Email to Friend \| Forum Mail \| Edit Post \| Print \| Quote \| Reply \| Report Post

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ThongLori

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Wedding Date:
9/16/2004 12:00 AM

Wed. Location:
Florence, Italy/Harrison House

Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

Posted by palebride

wouldn't she feel a little odd being invited at this point in time now?

this is EXACTLY what I said! Imagine getting an invite on July 27, that says: RSVP by June 30. LOL

Thanks girls for your advice, and all of what you are saying is what really happened, so I should not feel bad!

Posted 7/26/04 9:50 PM

Posted By
Nora101004 I love my dress & my BMs dress Member since 8/03 2852 total posts Wedding Date: 10/10/2004 2:30 PM Wed. Location: Sunset Harbour	Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto Blame it on your mom, she didn't know who she was or else she would have invited her. You are sorry though.
	Posted 7/27/04 9:35 AM Email to Friend \| Forum Mail \| Edit Post \| Print \| Quote \| Reply \| Report Post

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Nora101004

I love my dress & my BMs dress

Member since 8/03

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Wedding Date:
10/10/2004 2:30 PM

Wed. Location:
Sunset Harbour

Re: Shower Guest List Emergency -- Need Advice pronto

Blame it on your mom, she didn't know who she was or else she would have invited her. You are sorry though.

Posted 7/27/04 9:35 AM

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