Ladies when giving opinions on reception sites

can we please choose our words carefully?

Lately there have been alot of rude and hurtful comments about people's choice of reception hall, mine included and it is not cool.

I have visited some of the halls on here that were not given the best of reviews and some of them I actually liked, had I listened to some opinions on here I would have never given these places a chance.

Don't mean to start a fight, but we should all try to exercise some tact at times.

Thanks.

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I agree with you 100%

Everyone has different taste. What one bride wants another might hate and vise versa.

Not to mention, everyone has different experiences with these places.

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I agree! It's one thing to not like a reception site, but it is another thing to bash it. I would be extremely hurt to see people bashing my hall Constructive criticism is good, bashing is bad bad bad!

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thanks ladies I really appreciate your comments.

I was worried, I thought I was going to get stoned for this.

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There's nothing like stoning the considerate ones! Wahahahaha.......

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I agree as well!

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I agree! I hate it when one person makes a comment and a bunch of people say "oh well then i wont go visit them!!". They just totally cancel it from their ideas cuz someone else had an opinion on it.

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nrvbrd - I also agree with you 100%.

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There is nothing wrong with what you said. I agree with you 100%

Message edited 5/21/2003 6:02:00 PM.

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I think it's especially hurtful once someone has already booked to hear such things! I agree!

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I agree.

It's better to say, "I saw Name of Place and it wasn't what I was looking for." One person's palace is another person's dump.

On the other hand, if someone truly had a bad experience someplace, I would rather they be honest about it, so I can make a well-informed choice.

Karen

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I think it is good to be honest, but you are right about showing some tact. I have been to weddings where I didn't care for say the decor. That is a matter of taste (and something that cannot be "fixed"), but to say the place is horrible because of that is not right and creates hurt feelings. At the same time, if there was a problem with the service or a particular person working there or even the food, then I would like to know because that can easily be fixed with a phone call to the hall about your concerns. I hope that makes sense.

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i have to tell you guys, I agree 100%. My brother got married at Westbury Manor and we had the "best" time, a few months later someone I know got engaged and went to look at it, then ran around saying the place was ugly, dirty, etc. etc. It was pretty ridiculous and rude, considering that other people might be getting married there. I can honestly say there is not one place that we visited that i hated, just either not in our price range or not our style of decor. These places stay in business for a reason, if they were that bad all the time they wouldn't be around.

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Agree! I will also add on to Kysha's suggestion: I love when someone has something to say but doesn't have any further back up for it. I don't like hear say comments. Tell me YOUR experience not what everyone and their mother experienced. I am a true believer that you really can't criticize, ridicule or comment on anything or anyone until you have experienced it yourself. Just b/c so and so gave negative/positive input about something, doesn't mean its true.

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ITA - I asked for an opinion on my site a few months back & got some not so nice comments.

Its not only tastes that differ - but BUDGETS as well.

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Completely agree Maysie18.
What does ITA mean?

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ITA = I totally agree!

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i guess i will apologize if my opinions were not tactful. i only gave my opinions and i would have wanted people to be honest with me when choosing my reception site.
i honestly didnt mean to offend anyone.

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I agree. I recently read someone bashing a site, and I thought it was sooo mean! Obviously some people have booked the site and they are excited about it!

Now, if there is a service problem (as there was with mine ), I think everyone should know about it so that they can make sure to look out for it if they book the place.

But, to bash a site b/c it doesn't look the way you'd like it, it doesn't have as much "class" as you think it should or because it's below your budget is just plain rude. Not to mention-everyone has different tastes.

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I am glad to see such positive responses.

I do agree with Wanda about reporting info from personal experience not hearsay.

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great thread! it is cool to be honest but the way you go about it is important. everyone has different tastes and your shack could be my castle. there was a hall that i did a search about on here and it was bashed. i visited there and thought it to be quite nice and very affordable. there were little issues but overall very pretty inside. everyone can't afford to be okeha castle, or flowerfield brides and shouldn't be made to feel bad. everyone here is so nice and i'm sure noone does this on purpose. we just need to be mindful on how reviews are given. ok i'll step down from my soapbox now.

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I agree 100%.

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I agree 100%. And I apologize if I am one of the people who may have ever contributed to that. I do tend to be opinionated, but I do try to make sure that no one's feelings get hurt in the process...

I also have seen many differences in opinion, but I suppose that's why there are so many different kinds of caterers in NY!

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I love when we all get along!!!!

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I agree that we should all be respectful of other brides on this board, but sometimes there are bad experiences that can not be and, should not be, downplayed. I think the Videomaker hoopla is a clear example of that. At the time someone first started posting about that there were several brides who were offended because they had booked Marc.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a post that says "I heard (insert bad thing) about (insert vendor). Has anyone had any experiences with (vendor)." That person is looking for positive and negative feedback. Negatice feedback doesn't necessarily equate to a warning to stay away, and I don't think that it should be taken as such.

If I heard something bad about one of my vendors the first place I would come for reassurance is this board. And I would not want a bunch of opinions which were geared only towards being nice - I would want the truth.

I just wouldn't want to discourage anyone from posting a negative experience or concern about a vendor to avoid hurt feelings. If we can't come here for the good, the bad and the ugly then this site looses some of its relevance.