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Well it's about time, I never thought you would get married.

My FMIL - Ha-ha it looks like its going to rain on Friday the day of your wedding.

My FMIL - I don't need to wear a dress, I AM NOT the Mother of the Bride

My FMIL - What do you mean your parents aren't paying for the wedding. We paid for X and X.

MY FMIL - Well if you would have gotten married in your 20's we would have paid for the wedding

My FMIL - I never said I was giving you our dining room set, unless you moved next door to us.

My FMIL - Why do they have more people on THEIR side then our side? BECAUSE I AM FOOTING THE BILL B*TCH!

My FSIL - This entire wedding is costing me $3,000

For the money you spent on this wedding you could have bought a house

The money you are spending in rent, you should be buying a house -- OK WITH WHAT MONEY!

SHALL I GO ON?!

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Hmmm let's see

MIL- what do you think of this dress for me for your wedding * it was a F-ING wedding gown *

SIL- it's because of her isn't it? (this was used for anything that was bothering her at the time)

and this one is after the wedding
Your how many months pregnant? And how long have you been married?

Message edited 5/12/2003 8:23:13 PM.

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ok here I GO...

a so called friend said if I am not your MOH don't even bother to invite me to the wedding(ok , we won't you B****) BTW she is NOT my MOH

My dad-why don't you just take the money and buy a house.
My Dad again-We can have it here at the house and I'll make all the food.
Dad's girlfriend-Oh, now I see why the guest list is so big, you invited all of your mother's side. ( she negelcted to see that I invited her whole family as well)
Everyone-When are the kids coming!

And my favorite:
Why are you waiting two years?
BECAUSE THIS WHOLE WEDDING THING IS EXPENSIVE.
DUH
Truly I could go on and on and on and......

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Message edited 7/15/2004 6:31:16 PM.

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I have so many I have to spread them out or it will drive me crazy.

Ok FFIL and FSMIL - "oh are you having a formal black tie event?" Yes" Oh well I don't want to wear a tux, and I don't want to wear a dress I will just wear a casual pant suit"

FFIL and FSMIL- Oh you are having children at the wedding - hmmm the only ones you should have are FH's neices and nephew - and they must be IN the wedding b/c that is the only way you can control them. If they are not the center of attention they are uncontrollable and the only one who can control them is their Father - (our BM) so if they are not up in the front with him then there will be real problems - oh and if there are any of the other children at the wedding it will be completely ruined. (never mind the fact that that the kids in my family are 1) very well behaved and 2) we will lose half my family if people can't bring their kids (my family is all out of state in Washington state, california, Virgina, and Texas.

FSMIL to my mother - oh will there be children at the e-party - my mother - No it is an adult restaurant and the kids won't have anywhere to run so they really won't have a good time. FSMIL - Oh that is the best decision we have heard about the wedding so far.

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"why are you waiting so long to get married?"

"so how long are you going to wait after you're married to have kids"

my cousin & BM:
"how do you plan on paying for your wedding?"
"dying shoes to match the BM dress is so 80's"
"so are you getting stressed yet"
"so are you getting stressed yet"
"so are you getting stressed yet"
(not a typo, she keeps asking)

my aunt "I'll come see you in the morning at your house and just jump in the limo with the BMs to the church"

Hair Salon (not my hairdresser though) "why do you girls get married so freaking early! (my wedding is at 11am)

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Everytime I mention a new idea of what I want to my mom or my FMIL I tend to get the response "Really honey, I hope your not serious." or "I guess its not my wedding and I really don't have much say, do I?" Way to make a bride feel special.

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A few friends said this after finding we got engaged - you know, since we've been together for 6 years: "It's about time!"

From one of FHs employees: "The wife wants me to look at your ring so I can tell her what it looks like. Holy sh!t - that thing's a rock!"

And the icing on the cake:

From same employee later that week: "What I want to know, is how he's able to pay for that car AND that rock."

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WOW some people are BALLSY !!!!

This is when you need to open your mouth and just answer some of these people right back !

None of you should have to be put in such awkward positions !!!



The nerve !!

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I haven't had any really rude comments about the wedding and how much my ring cost or how much the wedding will cost, but I did have two rather presumptuous questions

From my boss: So will my daughter be invited? (she is 11 years old and I have met her twice)

From one of my friends: So will my sister and her two year old daughter be invited? (I don't see her sister on a regular basis, have never been close to her and don't want children under 12 at the wedding)

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From one of my co-workers, at least once a day - "You know marriage is the leading cause of divorce"

And my other favorite, from pretty much everyone - "Well where are you going to live? You're not still going to live at home now are you?" Well, PARDON ME, people, but FH's dad is quite literally dying which is why I had to plan this whole thing in 3 months and which is why we're not moving out! (Besides, it's easier to save for a house that way)

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LOLOL...thanks for the laughter everyone!!! I can't think of anything TOO horrible yet, but I have plenty to look forward to....the week before my sister's wedding, my mom and my sister had a fight over who should be more stressed...and my mom was honestly convinced it was her!! The only thing i've really gotten was:

"Two years!? Why so long?" (b/c i'm in grad school and we're still young and poor!)

Oh, and there's my mom who said "You're going about 20 friends there right?" (you should have seen her face when i said it was more like 50)

and there's just my mom's overall concern that my friends won't spend "enough" on our presents...personally, I just care that my friends are there!

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THese are hysterical - here are some of my "gems"

FMIL when I showed her my BM dresses, "Oh, they are so plain".

FMIL seeing me in my dress, "Oh, its so......you"

FMIL when I brought her to the hall, "Oh, its not gaudy at all" (Apparently b/c I am italian I like gaudy things).

My mom (god love her) - Flowerfield, that is so far (Ok, I live in Commack, the hall is in Saint James, 15 minutes away from the house).

Photographer who I have since terminated my contract with, "wow, you're getting married at Flowerfield, you must have money". Haa, haa - if that guy only knew how NOT rich I am.

These are my favorites but I have plenty more. But thank god more good stuff than bad!

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I saw mistyeyed posted that she hoped none of her guests were awake now - well so will the next story on here be - FMIL saying how will you make sure we don't get sick

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The mother of my MOH says to me the WEEK before the wedding(MOH's whole family was invited to my wedding): " I just don't know how we're all going to be able to get out there...we only have one car, I think I'll tell aunt XXXX to stay home!"

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these were really funny to read. some people are just crazy! i really don't have anything to share. my family has been really supportive (or just knows how to keep their mouths shut at the right time). my coworkers would tease me at first b/c they said my ring was blinding them from being too sparkly. but that was all in good fun.

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I forgot one -
Let me preface this by saying that we are not having kids - not a FG not a ring bearer - NONE. There were just too freakin many...and if you invite one, you have to invite them all.

Anyway my cousin has two gorgeous little girls (ages 9 and 5 by the time we get married) whom I adore and who adore me. Not asking them to be FGS tore me up, but it was a decision FH and I made together and that's it.

I go visit them in Texas last year, after making it clear to their mother that we were not having children...and a few minutes into some Barbie play with them, I get these adoring big brown eyes and a drape across my lap.... "Aunt Rachel, are you gonna ask us to be your flower girls?" I'm going "BEOTCH BEOTCH BEOTCH" mentally to my cousin and I said "I don't think so sweetie...you guys will be in school..." and so the little one, my angel, goes "Well then do you know any other big girls whose wedding we can be in?" It would have been cute if I wasn't so dayum angry with their mother for siccing them on me.

OH yeah - FH's cousin is having a baby like, now (our wedding is in Sept) and when FMIL told her we weren't having children at the wedding she goes "But it's a BABY! An infant! What's the big deal!" Then she goes "Oh well, I know you'll take care of it Aunt ____. You'll clear it with them for me to bring the baby." HELLO! Two of our freakin groomsmen are going to have newborns by the time we get married and they aren't bring THEIRS! Not to mention that 10 couples on our guest list- yes 10 - have gotten pregnant and will deliver before our wedding since we got engaged and none of them are bringing their babies either!

THE GALL!

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I remembered more!

From my mom's boyfriend when I told my mom that FH had told him he was going to propose: "He didn't believe him, he thought he never would!"
so this schmuck thinks my FH is a liar?!?

And the same as above from my MOH's Grandmother-in-law, plus she said that I needed someone different, he wasn't my type - (translation: he didn't make enough $$$$and she wanted to set me up with "a nice jewish boy")

Give me another day and I'll remember another rude SOB who said something stupid when I got engaged!

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Bumping for more stories

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I got the same from alot of my co-workers, "Over Two Years. By the time the engagement might be over". Thanks for making me feel so good about having a long engagement.

Two of my good friends on we having all my vendors and almost everything taken care of: "YOu better be careful. They might close before you get married and then you will be out all that money and have nothing". Thanks for making me worry about other things.

My FIL and FSIL about the BM dress: "That is the dress. That is the color. Catherine (FI's niece) does not like strapless". My FI than explains to them that we are adding spahetti straps and a shawl. They tell him "She does not like spaghetti straps. She needs a jacket. She does like to have her arms exposed. Don't worry she will make her own jacket". After this problem, FI put his foot down and told them that this is the dress, she is not making her own jacket and if you and her do not like it than she does not have to be in the BP. When she saw the dress in person (since she had only seen a picture), loved the dress and the color.

I hate when people put their two cents in about everything.

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Somebody in my family (who shall remain nameless) told me that I needed to invite less of MY friends and more of my parents friends because they would be more likely to give us nice gifts!! HELLO!

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This was such a great thread. I've really enjoyed reading everyone's responses. We should all get together and write a book!

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these are soo funny!!!!

I have a couple..

My mom and sister, while planning my *surprise* shower, which is still a surprise, I dunno when it is BUT, they've bugged me about everything.. tell me "you really think people are going to buy you anything off your registry.. you registered for such expensive things, you should have really out some cheaper things on there!" ***!?! and to think that I think I did a good job...

or on the subject of kids at the wedding.

well where are the kids going to go? will you be providing a room for them and getting a clown? R U KIDDING ME? lock them in the trunk for all I care. NO KIDS AT THE WEDDING..

at work about the ring.

"WHOAH! you just blinded me with that.... what does your fiance do for a living again?"
or

"can you take it off so I can take a look at it closer!" LOL !! from an attorney here..

or if you ever see my wife here, turn your ring around, I'll get alot of sh it.. from another attorney here, mind you who is one of the top producers here...also from a coworker, "I'm so jealous of you, you have what? 1 year until you quit?" I was like no, why? well, I just figured that rich (yeah, real rich lol) fiance of yours would make you quit your job!" todd would keal over if I didn't work b/c I'd drive him crazy or broke lol

from FMIL on the phone talking to someone about the hall "well, it is beautiful, but you know they would not be having it there if I didn't think it was" lol

FMIL about the e-party, we were going to have it at this local yacht club and have it catered.. we didn't want anything big..

"what will everyone think about you having it here.. this place is so low class." none of my family will come here lol

so instead we ended up with Fox Hollow and having a wedding-y e-party.

I love this thread.. some of them are really funny!

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Best one that really made my blood boil was when my MIL said to us on the day we made the final payment at Milleridge, week from the wedding:

"Why didn't you have a smaller wedding? You two are spending way to much money."

I was totally p*&%ed off b/c we wanted to get married the summer of 2002 but b/c we had no $$ help we had to do it in March 2003.

What is wrong with people?

Can't they mind their own business.

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I remember another one while I was reading some of the other posts.

From FMIL at the time:
Nobody is going to buy you a glass that cost $30 a piece.
Just like to say that not only did I get all 12 of the wine and goblets but my cousin got me an additional six of each. Thank you very much.