Ex-boyfriends and weddings

ok anyone actually inviting former ex-boyfriends or guys they sorta dated but ended up just being friends with and now you feel ackward and considering inviting them to the wedding? I had 1 guy I dated who invited himself to my wedding (he's not invited!) and said he was devastated that I won't be single anymore!! lol.

Just curious what you gals have done w/ this scenario...do you include or exclude? what if they were already hitched to someone else, would you change your mind?

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I don't talk to any of my ex-boyfriends anymore. Well ok maybe my very first boyfriend, but that was like 5th grade....and yes I'm inviting him, he's actually like a distant brother to me. But real ex-boyfriends, nope.

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In my book, ex is a big no-no, with the exception being if you are truly JUST the best of friends. If you're just slightly friends or acquaintances, I say no. On your wedding day (AND FH's day too, remember that) no one should be in the audience that brings any memories of love past, jmo.

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I only talk to one of my ex's and we dated when we were like 13, so yes he will be invited because he is more like a brother to me now..

But as far as serious ex;s NO WAY! lol

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My 9th grade bf became one of my best friends ever, so he was invited. He's friends with my DH now too. Any recent boyfriends, definitely NOT!

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I agree with both ladies above.

I want a marriage not a Jerry Springer episode or potential argument in the future for real bf....... if my FH did that to me, I WOULD BE PISSED... so my answer is NO for past serious relationships

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Well first of all im surprised this post even exist..lol
I dont talk to any of my ex's, that were recent resulting in Grown people LOVE... so they could NEVER assume they would be invited to a wedding of mine. Then making comments that -he's upset that you wont be single anymore! Wow!

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Posted by Bklyn27

Well first of all im surprised this post even exist..lol
I dont talk to any of my ex's... so they could NEVER assume they would be invited to a wedding of mine. Then making comments that -he's upset that you wont be single anymore! Wow!

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Im being forced to invite one of my exes....he's my future brother in law. Its not really that awkward bc we decided that we're better off as friends and we've been friends since...but its still kind of meh. The FH thinks its funny.

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yeah this post is mostly food for thought..I'm not inviting any ex'es or guys I just had casual flings with, or anyone I seriously viewed romantically..

.I know 1 friend who invited someone she did dated years ago but they became friends and he also got married and invited her to his wedding, and she did the same...and of course, you have the guys you thought you were crazy about but turned out to be gay, so FH isn't threatened at all..

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Posted by Halo

I agree with both ladies above.

I want a marriage not a Jerry Springer episode or potential argument in the future for real bf....... If my FH did that to me, I WOULD BE PISSED... so my answer is NO for past serious relationships

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def not!

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No wayy

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No way no how. Maybe an ex-fling? Even that FH doesn't like, but too bad.

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No ex's are invited cause FH doesnt have any and i have 1, that im just not really good friends with anymore... buuut... we both hooked up with quite a few people before we started dating... and quite a few of them will be invited...

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I invited one. Years ago we were best friends, then we dated for two months and went back to being best friends. He's 3000 miles away now but still one of my closest friends. DH felt funny about it until he met him when we visited California and he saying he was his favorite friend of mine and he wished he could have made the wedding.

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Posted by Halo

I agree with both ladies above.

I want a marriage not a Jerry Springer episode or potential argument in the future for real bf....... If my FH did that to me, I WOULD BE PISSED... so my answer is NO for past serious relationships

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Hello say it again!

If my husband did that to me I would be pissed too! The day is about u and your future , not a person from the past. Especially with the ex Looking at you from the audience-wishing it was him up there//smiling in your soon to be husbands face... lol

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Capital N-O!

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I don't know why, this post made me laugh hysterical!!

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Negative....I never stayed friends w/them and I know a few of them are married now so I'm sure their wives wouldnt appreciate the invite

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Not only am i not inviting my ex- i am not even getting married in my church cause I am afraid he may show up!!

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Nope no Exe's. I am not friends with them anymore, but I think it would just be to weird.

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I used to be friends w/benefits with our Best Man LMAO...we were never romantically interested in each other, just used to boink like bunnies for the better part of a year (like 5 years ago)...he's always stayed one of my best friends and FH really clicked with him since he's been here (they're actually a lot alike in some ways).

sooooo yeah I guess I'm MORE than inviting an ex

P.S. - FH knows all about our past and is totally fine with it.

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OMG! Imagine if your FH invited one of his exes to the wedding and you didn't know until she was there assuming the unknown name was a distant cousin??

I would go from zero to ghetto in 0.2 seconds!! LMAO

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Neither of us are inviting any ex's, but that's because nother of us have remained friends with any of our respective ex's.

I think the assumption that inviting an ex immediately results in them pining for their former while watching the vows take place is a little too . Everyone's situation is different.