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eleven29bride
getting really nervous...
Member since 8/07 1171 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/29/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Bayview House
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?
this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.
I wrote: Together with our families.....
(just to keep the peace).....
both our parents contributed nominal amounts...
Message edited 9/29/2008 8:57:35 PM.
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gip32680
Board Fanatic
Member since 8/08 271 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/15/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by dana1206
Posted by NickandTara426
Posted by dana1206
Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?
I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.
I was hoping the RH would do them too. I actually joked with my sister's friend about her doing it as part of my gift.
The RH will do it but if it is something a little complicated then you may want to have a close friend there to help set up and make sure they're done right. I am doing something similar with the cylinder vases and submerged flowers and i am going to prep them the night before so all the RH has to do is fill with water and light the floating candle but my close will be there to oversee them.
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Posted 9/29/08 9:08 PM
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dana1206
Board Enthusiast
Member since 8/08 164 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/14/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Carlyle on the Green
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by gip32680
Posted by dana1206
Posted by NickandTara426
Posted by dana1206
Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?
I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.
I was hoping the RH would do them too. I actually joked with my sister's friend about her doing it as part of my gift.
The RH will do it but if it is something a little complicated then you may want to have a close friend there to help set up and make sure they're done right. I am doing something similar with the cylinder vases and submerged flowers and i am going to prep them the night before so all the RH has to do is fill with water and light the floating candle but my close will be there to oversee them.
I was going to try to set them up the night before too. Are you doing real flowers in the cylinders? I'm thinking I can drop them off Friday night since I'm staying at the hotel nearby.
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Posted 9/29/08 9:29 PM
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BarbieGrl10
09 Best Hair! Thanks girls!!
Member since 7/07 6094 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/1/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Bridgeview
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by chicky724
I have a lot of stupid questions that I never feel justify their own post, so I thought if I made one thread then people could just add their Q&A's to it! haha
Ok, Stupid Question #1: Does every ceremony use the unity candle? I wanted to started some of the DIY stuff like that but not if it's something not everyone does. (We're getting married in a church.)
Stupid Question #2:I can't seem to get a straight answer on this - are sparklers legal in NY? I would LOVE to use them at my RH but don't want to bother asking them if they're not legal.
Hmm that's all I can think of for now, I guarantee I'll have more! 
#2 Sparklers are LEGAL. You just have to check with your RH to make sure its ok with them.
Fireworks are not legal without a permit. You need to hire a firework company like Grucci or Bay to help you with the process. You need permits from the town that the RH is in.
Indoor Pryo is not legal in NY. That would be sparklers coming out from the cps and little explosions.
I know this b/c I work with Grucci all the time for my events.
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Posted 9/29/08 9:49 PM
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gina409
i love my garbage man!
Member since 7/08 2850 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2009 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
fox hollow
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
ok here is my first stupid question which i am sure will have many more to come lol...ok onplace cards and invitations u pay someone to write the names,table seating and on invitations the addresses right?where do u go for that?is it where u got ur invitations or do u take blank place cards and invitations somewhere..tia
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Posted 9/29/08 10:09 PM
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beram63
Yes we can!
Member since 8/07 3384 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 6:15 PM
Wed. Location:
West Sayville Country Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
stupid questions #5: receiving lines: do it? don't do it? accept that you can't avoid doing it bc people corner you anyway? how long do you allow yourself to kiss & hug everyone you know?
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Posted 9/30/08 9:42 AM
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beram63
Yes we can!
Member since 8/07 3384 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 6:15 PM
Wed. Location:
West Sayville Country Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
stupid question #6: i hear all this talk about after parties. i gotta say, i've never been to a formal after party, just the typical let's-go-to-the-bar-after-the-wedding business. my reception will likely end at 12:30 or 1. do we arrange for an "after party" or do we just informally ask our favorite people to join us at a bar?
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Posted 9/30/08 9:49 AM
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PrincyJo
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/08 1153 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/5/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid questions #5: receiving lines: do it? don't do it? accept that you can't avoid doing it bc people corner you anyway? how long do you allow yourself to kiss & hug everyone you know?
I think the receiving line is relatively important. Most people will do a quick kiss and tell how you beautiful you look, lol and then move on. I just think it's nice to personally see each and every person that came to your ceremony.
And yeah, w/o it, most people will totally corner you at your reception.
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Posted 9/30/08 9:49 AM
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FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Invites are almost done woohoo
Member since 5/07 10539 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/2/2009 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by gina409
ok here is my first stupid question which i am sure will have many more to come lol...ok onplace cards and invitations u pay someone to write the names,table seating and on invitations the addresses right?where do u go for that?is it where u got ur invitations or do u take blank place cards and invitations somewhere..tia
for the invitations, i'll be printing them through inkspun.com
the seating cards will be handled by my mom who most likely will be printing labels in a fancy script and sticking them to the placecard (i have placecard frames so the labels wouldnt look tacky)
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Posted 9/30/08 9:50 AM
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shell1879
so many vendors so little time
Member since 4/08 3592 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
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Posted 9/30/08 9:52 AM
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PrincyJo
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/08 1153 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/5/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
that's a good one.. I would think yeah, but does anyone know for sure?
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Posted 9/30/08 9:53 AM
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FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Invites are almost done woohoo
Member since 5/07 10539 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/2/2009 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
yes!
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Posted 9/30/08 9:54 AM
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shell1879
so many vendors so little time
Member since 4/08 3592 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid question #6: i hear all this talk about after parties. i gotta say, i've never been to a formal after party, just the typical let's-go-to-the-bar-after-the-wedding business. my reception will likely end at 12:30 or 1. do we arrange for an "after party" or do we just informally ask our favorite people to join us at a bar?
we aren't doing a formal after party....
it is going to be known that we are going........................... and who ever wants to go can go we may put it on our website closer to the wedding.
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Posted 9/30/08 9:57 AM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by gina409
ok here is my first stupid question which i am sure will have many more to come lol...ok onplace cards and invitations u pay someone to write the names,table seating and on invitations the addresses right?where do u go for that?is it where u got ur invitations or do u take blank place cards and invitations somewhere..tia
You can probably take them to a calligrapher too... I don't know how much $$ that is though. LIW has them on their vendor list: http://www.liweddings.com/vendors/calligraphy/
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Posted 9/30/08 9:59 AM
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shell1879
so many vendors so little time
Member since 4/08 3592 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
how about vendors do we pay for them to eat and do they or is it all about the job?
i don't think i ever noticed vendors at weddings i've been to in the past eating but i wasn't really paying attention
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Posted 9/30/08 10:02 AM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
how about vendors do we pay for them to eat and do they or is it all about the job?
i don't think i ever noticed vendors at weddings i've been to in the past eating but i wasn't really paying attention
Most places we went to tell you that vendors eat at half the price of everyone else... and some places if you're using one of their vendors they eat for free.
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Posted 9/30/08 10:04 AM
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PrincyJo
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/08 1153 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/5/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
how about vendors do we pay for them to eat and do they or is it all about the job?
i don't think i ever noticed vendors at weddings i've been to in the past eating but i wasn't really paying attention
They eat.. depending on your RH and which vendors you use, they can be anywhere from 30-50% off.. some places even do free vendors if you use their vendors
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Posted 9/30/08 10:05 AM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
 I didn't even think of that... and on all of my guest list counts I haven't included us!
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Posted 9/30/08 10:07 AM
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littlepixie12
I love Edward Cullen!!
Member since 2/08 3988 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid questions #5: receiving lines: do it? don't do it? accept that you can't avoid doing it bc people corner you anyway? how long do you allow yourself to kiss & hug everyone you know?
I think you only do recieving lines if you are getting married in church but I could be wrong
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Posted 9/30/08 10:08 AM
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littlepixie12
I love Edward Cullen!!
Member since 2/08 3988 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid question #6: i hear all this talk about after parties. i gotta say, i've never been to a formal after party, just the typical let's-go-to-the-bar-after-the-wedding business. my reception will likely end at 12:30 or 1. do we arrange for an "after party" or do we just informally ask our favorite people to join us at a bar?
We arent having a formal after party ... just an after party at like a bar/lounge of the hotel we are staying in that night and blocked rooms ... people do not have to come if they do not want to ... and its cash bar, we arent paying for the drinks ... HTH!
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Posted 9/30/08 10:10 AM
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littlepixie12
I love Edward Cullen!!
Member since 2/08 3988 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by chicky724
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
I didn't even think of that... and on all of my guest list counts I haven't included us!
omg! me either!!
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Posted 9/30/08 10:10 AM
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FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Invites are almost done woohoo
Member since 5/07 10539 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/2/2009 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by chicky724
Posted by gina409
ok here is my first stupid question which i am sure will have many more to come lol...ok onplace cards and invitations u pay someone to write the names,table seating and on invitations the addresses right?where do u go for that?is it where u got ur invitations or do u take blank place cards and invitations somewhere..tia
You can probably take them to a calligrapher too... I don't know how much $$ that is though. LIW has them on their vendor list: http://www.liweddings.com/vendors/calligraphy/
inkspun does it for 39 cents per envelope 
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Posted 9/30/08 10:16 AM
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FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Invites are almost done woohoo
Member since 5/07 10539 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/2/2009 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
Posted by shell1879
here is another stupid question.......
Do FH and I count towards the guest count?
how about vendors do we pay for them to eat and do they or is it all about the job?
i don't think i ever noticed vendors at weddings i've been to in the past eating but i wasn't really paying attention
at my hall, vendors eat for half price and yes you HAVE to feed them... some even specify thisin their contract...
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Posted 9/30/08 10:18 AM
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KittyGags
Board Fanatic
Member since 9/08 412 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2009 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Allegria Hotel
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
I have the dumbest question of all time...Im going to see 2 RH's on Sunday (the first ones I've seen).
What do I ask for/do? I don't have any clue!
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Posted 9/30/08 10:37 AM
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MrsFazz2B
09's Most Thoughtful<3
Member since 11/07 7653 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/17/2009 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Gargiulo's
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by pandafish519
as my FMIL would say, "no question is a stupid question"
so #1 i don't think you HAVE to do the unity candle, i don't think its a 100% must
#2 as far as i know they are legal in NY. there was another post not too long ago and i think they determined that it IS legal.
HTH!
OMG THEYRE ILLEGAL!??!!?! GRRRR
that makes me so mad esp since fh is a big fire works fan!
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Posted 9/30/08 10:39 AM
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