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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Official Stupid Question Thread
I have a lot of stupid questions that I never feel justify their own post, so I thought if I made one thread then people could just add their Q&A's to it! haha
Ok, Stupid Question #1: Does every ceremony use the unity candle? I wanted to started some of the DIY stuff like that but not if it's something not everyone does. (We're getting married in a church.)
Stupid Question #2:I can't seem to get a straight answer on this - are sparklers legal in NY? I would LOVE to use them at my RH but don't want to bother asking them if they're not legal.
Hmm that's all I can think of for now, I guarantee I'll have more! 
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Posted 9/28/08 10:15 PM 
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pandafish519
new found respect for FH :)
Member since 8/08 1122 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2009 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Smithtown Landing Country Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
as my FMIL would say, "no question is a stupid question" 
so #1 i don't think you HAVE to do the unity candle, i don't think its a 100% must
#2 as far as i know they are legal in NY. there was another post not too long ago and i think they determined that it IS legal.
HTH!
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Posted 9/28/08 10:20 PM
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shell1879
so many vendors so little time
Member since 4/08 3592 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
thoes aren't stupid questions at all
1 no not everyone does the unity candle
2 i'm not sure about the sparkelers i would think they were though since they are a form of fireworks
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Posted 9/28/08 10:22 PM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by pandafish519
as my FMIL would say, "no question is a stupid question"
so #1 i don't think you HAVE to do the unity candle, i don't think its a 100% must
#2 as far as i know they are legal in NY. there was another post not too long ago and i think they determined that it IS legal.
HTH!
Haha I personally like "There's no such thing as a stupid question, only stupid people." 
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Posted 9/28/08 10:31 PM
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gina409
i love my garbage man!
Member since 7/08 2850 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2009 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
fox hollow
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
thanks for starting this im sure i will have tons of stupid questions to ask lol
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Posted 9/28/08 10:44 PM
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meara
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Member since 7/08 647 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/7/2009 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Battery Gardens
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
http://www.americanpyro.com/State%20Laws%20(main)/PDFStates/new_york.pdf
I found state laws that said they were illegal but there is also a number to call to ask questions so I think that might be the best route. .
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Posted 9/28/08 10:45 PM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
thoes aren't stupid questions at all
1 no not everyone does the unity candle
2 i'm not sure about the sparkelers i would think they were though since they are a form of fireworks
Hmm... how do I know if I would do a unity candle? Is it my decision or the churches'?
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Posted 9/28/08 10:53 PM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by gina409
thanks for starting this im sure i will have tons of stupid questions to ask lol
LOL I have TONS... I wanted to start slowly though.
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Posted 9/28/08 10:53 PM
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MrsLarrea2B
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Member since 12/07 873 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/14/2009 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Fox Hollow will only use the sparklers on the cake or VH. BUt they wont let the guests or BP play around with them if the event is indoors b.c then they end up burning their linens. Thats all I know.
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Posted 9/28/08 10:57 PM
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shell1879
so many vendors so little time
Member since 4/08 3592 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
ok now this is a STUPID question...
where do you light your tapers from to light the larger unity candle
is there another pre lit candle to light it from or does some one light the tapers that FH and I hold?
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Posted 9/28/08 11:07 PM
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PrincyJo
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/08 1153 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/5/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by shell1879
ok now this is a STUPID question...
where do you light your tapers from to light the larger unity candle
is there another pre lit candle to light it from or does some one light the tapers that FH and I hold?
Our church is going to have a candle up there already. Then my mom and my FMIL will light the tapers and hand them to us, and we will light the unity candle together.
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Posted 9/28/08 11:14 PM
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Reesy
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Member since 9/08 225 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/10/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
YOU CAN PUT A TEA CANDLE (I THINK THAT'S WHAT THEY'RE CALLED: I MEAN THE REALLY SMALL CANDLES), ON THE TABLE THAT WILL BE LIT DURING THE CEREMONY, THEN LIGHT THE SMALLER CANDLES FROM IT TO LIGHT THE UNITY CANDLE.
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Posted 9/29/08 2:38 AM
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Reesy
Board Enthusiast
Member since 9/08 225 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/10/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO A UNITY CANLE, IT'S NOT UP TO THE CHURCH IT'S UP TO YOU....FH AND I WILL BE POURING COLORED SAND (PURPLE AND LAVENDER) INSTEAD.
WHAT DOES THE COUPLE DO WITH THE CANDLE AFTER THE WEDDING? I'VE NEVER SEEN ONE ON DISPLAY IN ANYONE'S HOUSE. I FIGURED THE SAND WOULD LOOK NICE AND WE CAN DISPLAY IT FOREVER.
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Posted 9/29/08 2:41 AM
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beram63
Yes we can!
Member since 8/07 3384 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2009 6:15 PM
Wed. Location:
West Sayville Country Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?
this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.
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Posted 9/29/08 7:04 AM
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Just Cindy
Honeymoon is booked!!!!!
Member since 1/08 1671 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/12/2009 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Beckwith Pointe
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Sparklers are a form of firework and are illegal in NYC. You can however try to use them in the hopes that nobody will care or say anything.
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Posted 9/29/08 7:35 AM
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chicky724
Living in sin as of 12/1!
Member since 3/08 3373 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/24/2009 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?
this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.
Oooh I have a very similar situation too except my mom is paying for 2 vendors, his parents are paying for the RH and we're paying the rest.
On mine I might just put our names and "together with their parents" since my mom is remarried and I don't want to get too complicated.
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Posted 9/29/08 7:46 AM
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Jennmolloy
Rings & HM...Check!!!!!!!
Member since 9/08 1259 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/17/2009 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?
this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.
I would say
Bride & Groom
Together with their Parents ( this way no one feels more important then some one else!!!)
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Posted 9/29/08 9:05 AM
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NikkiR515
Finally got our BM dresses!!
Member since 4/08 1405 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/15/2009 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Larkfield Manor
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
I know my church actually frowns on Unity Candles because of the whole fire hazard business but even still it was left totally up to us.. I am still not sure if I am having one though! So many decisions and so little time!!! 
***Great thread idea by the way!!!
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Posted 9/29/08 9:17 AM
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dana1206
Board Enthusiast
Member since 8/08 164 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/14/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Carlyle on the Green
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?
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Posted 9/29/08 9:30 AM
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NickandTara426
I <3 my bustle! 67-Yes 3-No
Member since 4/08 3182 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/16/2009 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
**Giorgio's**
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by dana1206
Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?
I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.
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Posted 9/29/08 9:32 AM
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Dr Meg
Moving on to incidentals
Member since 9/07 1382 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/6/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Crescent Beach Club
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by beram63
stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?
this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.
I have a similar situation. Both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding. I think on the invites I am going to put: "Meg and Jeff along with their parents" but not mention their specific names.
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Posted 9/29/08 9:45 AM
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littlepixie12
I love Edward Cullen!!
Member since 2/08 3988 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Sparklers are legal in the NY, just fireworks are illegal and you need a permit... RH wont allow them. We bought sparklers and are putting them on the dishes as an extra gfit to the guests but we are saving some for the ceremony ... we are having a gazebo ceremony and want the guests to light the way when we walk down the aisle
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Posted 9/29/08 10:46 AM
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dana1206
Board Enthusiast
Member since 8/08 164 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/14/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Carlyle on the Green
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Message edited 9/29/2008 2:25:24 PM.
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Posted 9/29/08 2:13 PM
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dana1206
Board Enthusiast
Member since 8/08 164 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/14/2009 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Carlyle on the Green
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
Posted by NickandTara426
Posted by dana1206
Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?
I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.
I was hoping the RH would do them too. I actually joked with my sister's friend about her doing it as part of my gift.
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Posted 9/29/08 2:25 PM
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jennaandguy09
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Member since 5/07 828 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/6/2009 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Garden City Hotel
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Re: Official Stupid Question Thread
#! You don't have to use a unity candle, they're not mandatory.
#2 Sparklers are legal in NY as far as I know, we always used them as kids, I don't think they're technically fireworks, so you should be okay
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Posted 9/29/08 7:55 PM
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