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DINAAMATUCCIO
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8 things no one tells you about marriage...
I found this on Z100's website and thought maybe you ladies would like it ......http://z100.elvisduran.com/pages/p2article.html?feed=240173&article=4195948
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Posted 9/24/08 9:20 AM 
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Espo22
Mrs. Espo
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
WOW that was actually really good, didnt expect to read that on Z100 hahaha. But all the advice was right on. This was one thing that took me years to realize, when i realized this a few years ago, it helped out alot. It wasnt easy to get over the whole "but im right" thing. But this sentence from the article says ALOT
realization that the more "right" I was, the more discontented my husband and I were as a couple.
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Posted 9/24/08 9:29 AM
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ELluvsMB
Totally in Love!!!
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
I'm actually shocked too how true this all is...this is the one that made me really think the most.
"Human beings, you may have noticed, are not simple creatures. Your man has mysterious, unplumbed depths — and from where he sits, you're pretty complicated, too. You have to learn each other the same way that you once learned earth science or world geography. And getting married doesn't mean you're done — it just means you've advanced to graduate-level studies. That's because every time you think you've mastered the material, he'll change a bit. And so will you. As two people grow and evolve, the real work of marriage is finding a way to relate to and nurture each other in the process."
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Posted 9/24/08 9:42 AM
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vicky1125
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
so true.
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Posted 9/24/08 9:42 AM
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Espo22
Mrs. Espo
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Posted by ELluvsMB
I'm actually shocked too how true this all is...this is the one that made me really think the most.
"Human beings, you may have noticed, are not simple creatures. Your man has mysterious, unplumbed depths — and from where he sits, you're pretty complicated, too. You have to learn each other the same way that you once learned earth science or world geography. And getting married doesn't mean you're done — it just means you've advanced to graduate-level studies. That's because every time you think you've mastered the material, he'll change a bit. And so will you. As two people grow and evolve, the real work of marriage is finding a way to relate to and nurture each other in the process."
yeah that part is so true. I think that might be one of the biggest problems in relationships. As years go by you both will change, and that is inevitable. Sometimes what you may have wanted will change and now you two can be on a completely different page. This happened with my ex. We were together from teenagers, but as i got older i was different and wanted different things, and the whole relationship just changes. Its a good thing because i am alot happier now than i ever was and so glad i found DH.
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Posted 9/24/08 9:45 AM
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Autumnbride03
Florist next!
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Posted by Espo22
WOW that was actually really good, didnt expect to read that on Z100 hahaha. But all the advice was right on. This was one thing that took me years to realize, when i realized this a few years ago, it helped out alot. It wasnt easy to get over the whole "but im right" thing. But this sentence from the article says ALOT
realization that the more "right" I was, the more discontented my husband and I were as a couple.
I totally agree! Both of us have big issues with having to "be right". i don't think it would be as big of a deal if we both actually listened to the other and wern't so concerned with our point of view. We both realize this though and We're working on it .
T4P!!
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Posted 9/24/08 9:52 AM
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Espo22
Mrs. Espo
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Posted by Autumnbride03
Posted by Espo22
WOW that was actually really good, didnt expect to read that on Z100 hahaha. But all the advice was right on. This was one thing that took me years to realize, when i realized this a few years ago, it helped out alot. It wasnt easy to get over the whole "but im right" thing. But this sentence from the article says ALOT
realization that the more "right" I was, the more discontented my husband and I were as a couple.
I totally agree! Both of us have big issues with having to "be right". i don't think it would be as big of a deal if we both actually listened to the other and wern't so concerned with our point of view. We both realize this though and We're working on it .
T4P!!
that is something that is VERY hard to let go of. It took me a LOOONG time, the only good thing is that i finally got it and it was before i met DH. I was always the person that couldn't let anyone get away with anything, even stupid small stuff. If i felt i was disrespected in any way or just didnt like something i had to let that be known and no matter who was around. After a while i realized i was miserable lol. And people dont look at it as "oh shes always right" people after a while just saw it as me being a b itch or just always having to argue. I see that now, bc i know others who do this and when they act this way, i dont think "oh shes sticking up for herself or shes always right" i just think "oh god do you always have to argue, its really annoying" people want to be around positive ppl. Now this doesnt apply to everyone who always has to be right but for my situation i was doing these things. Ever since i stopped thinking i have to win every arguement i have been alot happier. now its about "ok so lets find a solution" instead of well let me prove you wrong.
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Posted 9/24/08 9:58 AM
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baba022
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
this is actually really great!! I was just on the site and didnt even notice this.....its so true....
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Posted 9/24/08 10:05 AM
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DINAAMATUCCIO
He makes me nuts! but I <3 him
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Posted by Espo22
WOW that was actually really good, didnt expect to read that on Z100 hahaha. But all the advice was right on. This was one thing that took me years to realize, when i realized this a few years ago, it helped out alot. It wasnt easy to get over the whole "but im right" thing. But this sentence from the article says ALOT
realization that the more "right" I was, the more discontented my husband and I were as a couple.
I agree with you too .. thats why i wanted to post this and because once you understand these things you can understand your relationship better.. I am glad you ladies like it so far!
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Posted 9/24/08 10:20 AM
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littlepixie12
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
I love z100!! thanks .. I dont know how i missed this, I listen to them every morning
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Posted 9/24/08 10:42 AM
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shell1879
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Posted by littlepixie12
I love z100!! thanks .. I dont know how i missed this, I listen to them every morning
me too
buffalo radio is crap compared to LI/NYC radio
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Posted 9/24/08 10:50 AM
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FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Invites are almost done woohoo
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
FCUKKKKK just wrote this whole long thing and POOF gone...
well to sum it up:
#3 is great.... dont go to bed angry is a bunch of bull and i always said it was and many girls on here believe that you shouldnt (i know bc we've had these discussions on here before) .... waking up in the morn, gives me a clearer mind and i can sort things out better than i did the night before...  to the writer for this one!
the last one is a very good piece of advice... get to know yourself more and how you interact with your hubby bc you can change yourself... not others... when FH and I were going through a breakup, i got myself a self-help book... i figured it would be the best time to work on me so that when we could get back together after sortin out issues... i'd be able to relate differently and make us better... that book saved our relationship
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Posted 9/24/08 11:14 AM
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NikkiR515
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
This is a great column! Thank you so much for sharing it with us! There are definitely a few of those points that I need to work on myself!
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Posted 9/24/08 2:06 PM
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aimerlena01
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Wow...great advice!
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Posted 9/24/08 2:48 PM
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SoonToBeMrsR
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Thanks for sharing this!
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Posted 9/24/08 3:22 PM
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MrsLarrea2B
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3/14/2009 7:00 PM
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
I am sending this to FH right now. That was a great link. thanks!
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Posted 9/24/08 4:45 PM
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Summertimegal424
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7/2/2009 6:00 PM
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
thats awesome dina! thanks
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Posted 9/24/08 4:56 PM
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jennaandguy09
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Re: 8 things no one tells you about marriage...
Thanks Dina, you never think you'd see that on z100, but wow, that was really good, kinda deep!!! But it makes you feel better, knowing that you're in this together with fh and you're going to do all you can to make sure things go well for the rest of your lives, I'm all for that!!!!!!! 
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Posted 9/24/08 9:10 PM
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