huge fight with my mom!! Kind of long!

So girls I am an emotional wreck. I just had the biggest fight with my mom! She got mad because I ask my two sisters my (MOH"S ) to go with me to Bed Bath and Beyond to do my weddings registry. I thought it would be a great time for us to bond. My mom says that she feels like Iam not including her in things. I try! I called her to help me with the save the dates and she asked "why would you need my help?" She said that she just wants to be a guest, send her invitation. It really hurts I was not trying to disclude her but I know this weekend she is going to Ac and the next for weekends she is going to ct, new hampsire, than florida. Am i supposed to wait on her to do things? Iam in the early stages of planning and if this is the stress and stupidity I have to deal with I dont want it!

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It will be okay, people around you tend to get crazy, but she will come around.

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i always thought registering was a thing to do with the FH so im not even sure why she should even be upset about that aspect of planning... as long as you make sure to take her along for like gown shopping and the more important mother daughter things ... and no i dont think you should wait around for her, esp for things where you dont necessarily need her opinion

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

i always thought registering was a thing to do with the FH so im not even sure why she should even be upset about that aspect of planning... as long as you make sure to take her along for like gown shopping and the more important mother daughter things ... and no i dont think you should wait around for her, esp for things where you dont necessarily need her opinion

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Posted by Sweeteey51

It will be okay, people around you tend to get crazy, but she will come around.

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Re: huge fight with my mom!! Kind of long!

Wedding planning can bring out the worst in families...at least in my experience. It gets better. My mom and I had a huge fight over the photographer I choose and now she acts like it never happend- Try to let it go...hopefully she will come around!

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Things can be difficult with families, especially your mom. She may have different expectations than you do, so you may want to ask her what she wants to be involved with. She may assume that you want to do certain things yourself and she may expect to help with certain things. If you talk about it upfront, it will make the whole process easier. You can ask her what she is looking forward to participating in, and you can ask her for help with things you need. That way both of you will be on the same page.

I had difficulties in the beginning, but, after we had a long discussion, things have gotten better. Part of it is that our Mom's are from a different generation that followed different traditions. Now, since things are done differently, you may want help with things that she doesn't even know about. Also, it is possible that she is going through some personal stuff that may be interfearing, especially if she is divorced. It may bring around her own concerns about relationships but she may not even realize that is what is bothering her. Hang in there, and try to enjoy yourself.

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Hmm... I dont really know why she would get upset since usually its something that the fw and fh do together. So if you asked your sisters to tag along, the only person who should have been mad is your fh! lol

Just let it go. Moms get strange at this time of their lives... their babys may have babies soon which means they are now old...

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my stepmom was the same way. she said she was hurt that i did most of the planning with my moh who is my best friend and i do everything with to begin with. so i just asked her what she wanted to be included in the most, and found out that she really just wanted to help pick out my dress. so i've only gone dress shopping with her and that's like special thing that we did together.

ask her what part of the planning she wants to be a part of, and tell her you have to get things done asap and can't wait. i'm sure there is something she can do to help that will make you both happy. maybe you can put her in charge of something, like putting together the favors or something.

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Give it a day and then callher and tell her how important it is that she's a part of the process but you just are so excited to get planning and she wasn't around so you asked your sisters. She might feel better then.

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It's very difficult to please everybody when you're planning a wedding, do what's best for you and eventually your mom will come around. Don't stress too much, just enjoy being engaged