yes i think the right word would be annoyed

OK so I am super aggravated! Like 8 people who said they were coming have cancelled, my bridal party is all backing out of our hair appointments because they dont want to pay for it and im still missing about 25 responses. I feel like no one thinks this is important and everyone is backing out of things at the last minute or dont even care enough to send back there response cards! This friggin wedding is in 11 days and I dont even have a final count yet

I just want this STUPID wedding to be over already. This is supposed to be like one of the happiest times of my life and its not. Im annoyed, and hurt and just annoyed yeah that pretty much sums it up!

Message edited 5/13/2008 11:58:23 AM.

Re: yes i think the right work would be annoyed

I know how it feels to have people back out at the last minute, seems to happen to me a lot. Don't worry ... all the planning, worrying, etc will be SO WORTH IT on the 24th!!

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Hang in there! I know it is coming down to the wire and it's getting stressful because of freaking people

Have you mother or MOH call the remaining people to find out if they are a yes or a no.

As for your BM's--That stinks, but I'm sure their hair will look nice even if they do it themselves--or if you have the $ than you can offer to pay for them.

The 8 people that cancelled--IT'S THEIR LOSS!

HTH

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Bran, I'm sorry I'm one of those BM's!!! =(

As for everyone else I'm sorry! I don't know how hard it is for people to RSVP....... And I know my brother is one of those idiots that can't come.. (sorry for him too!)

I'm sorry... forgive me?

Message edited 5/13/2008 12:16:33 PM.

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breathe !
It is really stressful and frustrating ! I would someone else call about the missing people if you are really upset because you do need a final head count!

I would be annoyed at my BM's too if they last min changed their minds about their hair, but don't stress about it. maybe you can split the cost or explain to them how important it is that they do this

Re: yes i think the right word would be annoyed

people just dont get it till they have a wedding themselves- and even then sometimes they still dont get it. its so annoying! I know how you feel. But regardless, the day will come and be amazing! I could say try not to stress, but you will until that day! LOL! But try to enjoy the last few days of planning as well! It will all be fine in the end!!!!!

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Missing responses is just one of those things that happens to all of us, you just have to track the people down and ask them if they're coming or not, just give them a call or have your family call them....are people rude? Yes. It's life. I learned it's apparently way too difficult for some people to drop a self-addressed, stamped envelope back in the mail. So frustrating but you can't let that bother you that much because this is somethign that is beyond your control. The only thing you can do is call them and find out their RSVP status.

As far as your BM's hair, if they backed out of their hair appts because they can't afford it, again, this is beyond your control so you have to breathe. Unless you want to pay for their hair, you can't make them get their hair done. My MOH didn't get her hair done, but I trusted her that it would like nice and neat and she did a gorgeous job on her own and saved herself some money which made me happy.

We also had 4 people cancel w/in 3 days of our wedding. 2 of them were the morning of, we got a phone call from my MIL at 8:30 am that morning saying a couple on her side had to cancel because of health reasons. What can you do? Nothing. You HAVE to relax.

You're almost there so hang in there, this is going to be the most stressful time of your whole wedding planning experience but you CANNOT let things that are out of your control ruin it for you. This is also the most exciting time and looking back I can say that you don't want to let it slip away with all negative emotions. Keep your chin up, focus on your and your FH and don't all these things bother you too much. Think about you and and your beautiful dress and walking down the aisle and dancing with your husband. It will ALL be worth it in the end, trust me!

Message edited 5/13/2008 12:16:30 PM.

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HANG IN THERE!!!!! TRUST ME!!! This time is when everything starts getting crazy!!! It will all be over soon and it will be wonderful!

Re: yes i think the right word would be annoyed

I had the same things happening to me, I totally understand and I was soo bummed out. It suck s that your last few days these people are stressing you out. However, look at the BIG PICTURE! your getting MARRIED! who cares if nobody is there, or wants there hair done etc. ... all I'm trying to say is that I promise you, NOTHING will get you down on your wedding day, so don't let these little things bother you now, because there not worth it

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Stop...Breathe....
everything will work out. Even if your BMs don't take the opportunity to have their hair professionally done I'm sure they're not going to look like they just rolled out of bed.
As for he people who are deciding not to come, or no RSVPing, ohh well, they're going to miss a kick a$$ party! Their loss not yours.