I want to TTC but hubby doesnt. . . .

Anyone else had this problem, we got married in sept, I am 27 and want 2 babies before I am 30. Me and hubby have been together since 2000 and I want a baby with him so bad, he is worried about finances but I told him that we have 9 months after we conceive to worry about that. I mean I started my own business which has been going pretty well. I am a graphic artist, so i do logo design, invitations, save the dates, announcements, hats, t-shirts, anything printed. And he is a auto-mechanic so I know that we will do fine. He is worried because he knows I will not be making what i am now, I work for CNN i am the lead artist for the headline news network. But I want a baby, now the other problem is my parents the want us to wait a few years before having a baby but I don't want to my hubby said we have to talk but he has yet to talk to me about it. Should I just ask him what's up. . . please someone help me i cry at night cause i feel that my hubby doesn't want to have a baby with me. . . .

Re: I want to TTC but hubby doesnt. . . .

I am going through the same thing right now. We have been married for almost 3 years. I have wanted a baby ever since we got married but we decided to wait. Now I am tired of waiting. My husband says we are not ready because of money but everyone I talk to says your never ready. We both have really good jobs amd I am starting to think its just an excuse. He is nervous now because I have had periods of nausea in the moring and at night. So I know how you feel. I think they think too much!

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Why do they have to think about it so much. I mean i told him once we had a baby things would fall into place. But hes like we need money. I know people who make way less then us who have 2 kids and making it fine they said once the baby comes you make it work no matter what. I wish i knew why he didnt want one. . . im starting to think its me, like maybe he regrets marrying me or something. . . . . .

Re: I want to TTC but hubby doesnt. . . .

I'm actually the other way around...dh wants a baby like yesterday and i want to wait until we are in a better position financially. I also just want to spend time with us being a married couple before we jump right into parenthood. I definitely want children, just want to wait a year or two.

I'm sure its not you. He may just want to wait a bit and savor being married a little longer before starting the next big thing--starting a family.

Don't worry.

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its weird though because before we got married all he talked about was how he wanted a baby and i was like what no wait a little and now that im ready he doesnt want any . . he said he wants no kids ever. . . ahhhh

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I know how you feel...I am older-35 and hubby is 36, and we have a house, both have good jobs, etc...I have wanted to start trying since we got married last May, but he said he wanted to wait, so I agreed. Then I THOUGHT he agreed to start "early this year" and when I asked him about it around January, he said he thought late summer would be good...I have been so mad at him because i want to have 2 children, and he keeps coming up with excuses, and my favorite one is "why the rush?"

i don't wish this on anyone, but i am relieved to hear that others are going through this too...i also get myself upset and cry, but i'm also not sure when a good time to talk to him about it is...

i know that men in general are more afraid of finances, change in lifestyle, etc...but it is very frustrating...

maybe you should just plan a night to have dinner together at home, with a little wine, and just talk to him and see what his timeline is?

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I am so sorry to hear others are going through this. Why can't they just understand that we have no control over wanted one. I never thought it was a big deal but once my cousins and friends and other family members started having babies it hit me. I wanted one of my own. I cry so often about it. I am always sad and no matter what I do I can not cheer up. I love the hubby so much but we are in two different places now. He says he wants kids then he doesnt he is confusing the hell out of me.

I stopped taking the pill because my Dr. said i should be off of the pill a few months before ttc once he heard that its like he is scared to touch me. Ahhhhh this is so frustrating. Well I plan on talking to him on Saturday, I will let you know how it went.