Calling April Brides & Married Girls for advice

How are you feeling? Or how did you feel 2 weeks before the wedding?
I'm a total mess. Literally. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. Don't know why.



I posted last week that I have so much left to do, i got a lot done but I feel like the more i take off my list, somehow magically more things appear on my list.

i just want to enjoy these next 2 weeks and not worry about stupid crap.



i feel like there arent enough minutes in an hour, enough hours in a day, enough days in a week

Message edited 4/2/2008 8:46:13 AM.

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OMG! I feel the same way, we are a week after you and there is soo much to do! New apt, Vegas tomorrow for my B party, wrapping gifts paying vendors, the list goes on..my chest just flutters and then the tears!! UGHHHHHH!!
I wish you all the best you're not alone!

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I hear you girls! I'm not quite a mess yet... but with my hair stylist cancelling on me yesterday I've been a little nervous about finding someone else and getting that taken care of. And there are still a lot of things I haven't done yet... finish buying BM gifts, pick readings, do programs, finalize music with DJ, my final fitting, etc. Trying to coordinate all of these things and hoping they all come together seamlessly is bound to cause some major stress!!! But from what I have read from other brides and girls who are now married, everything will be FINE! We just have to remember that.

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Well put! Thanks!!!
BTW, have you tried Cocobelle (their a LIW vendor) for hair and makeup. I booked them for my girls. Alexandra is soo sweet. HTH!!!

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These last 2 weeks before your wedding are going to be THE most difficult and stressful and tiresome and frustrating. You're going to feel completely overwhelmed and slightly hopeless. Trust me it is COMPLETELY NORMAL. I literally cried every other day, like BAWLED, the 2 weeks before the wedding. I would come home from work and the tears would burst as soon as I walked in the door because I was so overwhelmed and just wanted it to be over.......Then, I would say the day of your rehearsal dinner you'll feel this strange calm overcome you because you know what, at that point what's done is done and you just sit back and enjoy.

I'm not going to tell you to try and relax and not get so worked up because the day after your wedding you're going to look back at all these things you got worked up over and laugh at yourself about how you thought such little things were the end all be all of your wedding when in the end they didn't mean a thing, because even though that's the truth, it's all something we have to go through. It's all part of the whole experience.

What I will say is just try and rest. TRY. You probably will not get much sleep the week of, but at least try. Sleep always helps if you can get it. I didn't get ANY and I know that would have helped me at least a little.

Chin up, it's all over soon!!!!

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Posted by missliss

These last 2 weeks before your wedding are going to be THE most difficult and stressful and tiresome and frustrating. You're going to feel completely overwhelmed and slightly hopeless. Trust me it is COMPLETELY NORMAL. I literally cried every other day, like BAWLED, the 2 weeks before the wedding. I would come home from work and the tears would burst as soon as I walked in the door because I was so overwhelmed and just wanted it to be over.......Then, I would say the day of your rehearsal dinner you'll feel this strange calm overcome you because you know what, at that point what's done is done and you just sit back and enjoy.

I'm not going to tell you to try and relax and not get so worked up because the day after your wedding you're going to look back at all these things you got worked up over and laugh at yourself about how you thought such little things were the end all be all of your wedding when in the end they didn't mean a thing, because even though that's the truth, it's all something we have to go through. It's all part of the whole experience.

What I will say is just try and rest. TRY. You probably will not get much sleep the week of, but at least try. Sleep always helps if you can get it. I didn't get ANY and I know that would have helped me at least a little.

Chin up, it's all over soon!!!!

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thanks ladies

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im taking tomorrow off! to get some things done

im going to stop going to the gym, because that just takes up more of my time, and i cant loose any more weight anyway.
so thats one thing off my list.

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yeah i felt the same way. With 3 days left, I feel worse then I ever did before because of what is going on....i just feel like i can't focus and like I am forgeting something.
Before I got distracted with the death of my cousin, I started to feel depressed because I really did enjoy planning my wedding and I don't know what i'll do with myself when it's all over. We've been living together since december so it's not even like that will be a surprise......just hang in there. Take a break from wedding stuff for a few days then come back to it.

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Posted by gabbie83

im taking tomorrow off! to get some things done

im going to stop going to the gym, because that just takes up more of my time, and i cant loose any more weight anyway.
so thats one thing off my list.

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Posted by 040508Bride

yeah i felt the same way. With 3 days left, I feel worse then I ever did before because of what is going on....i just feel like i can't focus and like I am forgeting something.
Before I got distracted with the death of my cousin, I started to feel depressed because I really did enjoy planning my wedding and I don't know what i'll do with myself when it's all over. We've been living together since december so it's not even like that will be a surprise......just hang in there. Take a break from wedding stuff for a few days then come back to it.

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Posted by Snick n Nick

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Posted by gabbie83

im taking tomorrow off! to get some things done

im going to stop going to the gym, because that just takes up more of my time, and i cant loose any more weight anyway.
so thats one thing off my list.

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good idea to take the day off to get things done, but sometimes I think the gym actually gives you more energy!!

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i hear ya..i was going to sleep at like 2am until i finally had to stop and get some rest. But there is still so much to do and i have 4 days left.

Get as much done now - before the week of. I still have to tie ribbons on my programs and bring them to the RH tonight. Then buy some stuff for the HM and do my nails, etc. I have of tomorrow and fri and the wedding is sun so it shold all get done.

I am usually emotional and I am even more so now- i think its normal.

Hang in there- it will all work out. make a master list and keep checking it off.

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Gabbie, don't worry. I've had knots in my stomach constantly and I'm just exhausted from trying to get everything done. FH called in sick to work today because he is exhausted too.

Honestly, just try to keep a checklist of what you need to finish and try to knock off at least 1 thing a day. It will help you keep focused. Ask for help and assign jobs to FH.

All your major vendors are probably set. So, basically the wedding will run itself at this point. I'm sure what you're worrying about at this point is probably all the small thoughtful details, which, if they don't get done no one will notice but you. Those details are great to have, and trust me, I'm running myself ragged right now trying to work on them too, but no one will miss them if they are not there . Get whatever you can done, and don't sweat the rest of it.

Hang in there! Our big day is soo soon! We're supposed to be enjoying it. Try to look at the big picture and remember that this is a wonderful celebration about the fact that we're marrying our FH's and starting our lives out with them in front of our friends and family. It's a wonderful thing!

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oh ladies - I obviously haven't been in your shoes...yet. and REMIND ME of what I'm about to say come October....Honestly. I want you to invision - sitting on the beach with your feet up on a lounge chair and a drink in your hand....here let me put on a little bob marley for you!!!

"everythings gonna be alright...everthings gonna be alright"
:) :) :)
seriously - if you have that CD go put it on. get in your undies and dance around the house. poor yourself a beer (um - and I absolve you of the 'drinking before noon' stigma! ) and just CHILL!!! think warm beach chill and bob. it ALWAYS helps me when i'm FREAKING OUT about anything!!!!!

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Posted by gabbie83

How are you feeling? Or how did you feel 2 weeks before the wedding?
I'm a total mess. Literally. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. Don't know why.



I posted last week that I have so much left to do, i got a lot done but I feel like the more i take off my list, somehow magically more things appear on my list.

i just want to enjoy these next 2 weeks and not worry about stupid crap.



i feel like there arent enough minutes in an hour, enough hours in a day, enough days in a week

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haha thanks denise and all you ladies
i wont be in bora bora until 5/9 !!!
but its all good.
& yes the bob marley did help as well :)

Well I have to go for a final meeting and final dress fitting 4/9
pay for limos (i have to drive to Royalty)
get license at City Hall (tomorrow)
get dress for bathelorette
get accessories for BM (doing that tomorrow)
call in with final head count and finalize seating chart
give list of play songs for my band
wrap favors (tonight, my BP is coming to help)
gifts for BP
menus
programs
i think im going to skip the cameras on tables and the table numbers with pictures (why give myself extra stress)
im waiting for the cardbox :(
im waiting for the personalized flasks i wanted to give all the girls this weekend at my b-party
i sent out 3/4 of my shower TY today, and i will do the rest tonight
Hmmmm..... What else am I missing?
My FMIL is coming from Poland on Monday!
And I think that's it!

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And yes you all are right, we only notice the small thigns

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Posted by gabbie83

How are you feeling? Or how did you feel 2 weeks before the wedding?
I'm a total mess. Literally. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. Don't know why.



I posted last week that I have so much left to do, i got a lot done but I feel like the more i take off my list, somehow magically more things appear on my list.

i just want to enjoy these next 2 weeks and not worry about stupid crap.



i feel like there arent enough minutes in an hour, enough hours in a day, enough days in a week

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ive heard MANY brides feel this way, its normal so dont worry. I mean we are all going to have such a huge life change its hard not to feel so many emotions.

As far as worrying about getting things done. Did you do all your big things? you have your vendors right? you have a dress, you have an rh booked and have a location booked for ceremony whether a church or also at the rh. SO you are ALREADY set. If you dont get to the menu's, programs, or an other small detail YOU will be the only one who knows and although now you feel these little details will be missing from your wedding day, nobody else will notice anything missing. The small details are for us hahaha. Guests get to a wedding and they care about the food, the drinks and the music. If you think about it, how many weddings have you attended that had personalized menus, programs, customized table numbers? you'll notice that many of them didnt have this and you didnt even think twice about the fact that they didnt have it, you most likely didnt notice. If you get to it fine if not, as far as how your wedding day goes it will be the exact same. A guest wont have less fun without personalized menu's.

if you have other more important things to do then ask for ppl to help you, dont feel bad asking. What big things do you have left?

Just think in 2 weeks you wont have any more planning to do and wont have a bunch of things left to do, you'll be in bora bora relaxing

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Posted by gabbie83

haha thanks denise and all you ladies
i wont be in bora bora until 5/9 !!!
but its all good.
& yes the bob marley did help as well :)

Well I have to go for a final meeting and final dress fitting 4/9
pay for limos (i have to drive to Royalty)
get license at City Hall (tomorrow)
get dress for bathelorette
get accessories for BM (doing that tomorrow)
call in with final head count and finalize seating chart
give list of play songs for my band
wrap favors (tonight, my BP is coming to help)
gifts for BP
menus
programs
i think im going to skip the cameras on tables and the table numbers with pictures (why give myself extra stress)
im waiting for the cardbox :(
im waiting for the personalized flasks i wanted to give all the girls this weekend at my b-party
i sent out 3/4 of my shower TY today, and i will do the rest tonight
Hmmmm..... What else am I missing?
My FMIL is coming from Poland on Monday!
And I think that's it!

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aaaw man. i was originally getting married 4/11/08 unitl a couple months ago. i was just saying to myself...what if i was still getting married in a couple weeks. i would be crying b/c i cry when my feelings are strong.

i hope you guys get through these upcoming weeks in good spirits with aleast a laugh or 2. you'll be seeing me do thid post next year

Best Wishes

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I felt the same way 2 weeks before my wedding.

xanax is your FRIEND...

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OH YEAH....

I lost 5 pounds in the last week or so, I was stressed, I couldn't eat, I fought with DH. I yelled at my dad. I even BOUGHT A NEW DRESS with 2 weeks to go b/c I had a breakdown & decided I hated my dress I was a psycho.

Everything that is happening is TOTALLY normal. You have dreamed of this day since you were a little girl and the thought of it not being perfect is enough to make you snap. But you cannot control the world. Not even on your wedding day. Something might go wrong, and you know what? ITS OK. You'll still be beautiful, you'll still get to marry the man of your dreams & you'll still have a great time. Even if your limo is late or your BM passes out or whatever.

Sit back & enjoy the ride, I wish I had.

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Time is flying by, and there is not enough of it. I think everyone is way more emotional the few weeks before their wedding. I mean you have every emotion going through you in these upcoming days..happy, sad, nervous, loved, stressed, tired, excited..etc. It's hard to stay relaxed and sane! But it will all be worth it when the day comes and it is the best day of your life!

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In 2 weeks I having a civil ceremony and even THAT and all with are stressing me out!@ I think it's normal to go a big crazy before the big day! Good luck! The important thing is the marriage not the wedding.