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PreshusSmurf
Beyond Obsession
Member since 5/06 7725 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/10/2007 7:30 PM
Wed. Location:
North Ritz Club
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I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
I hope you ladies don't take this the wrong way (I know there are a number of you who post here who feel very strongly about your religion and the Church) .... Keep in mind that I am Jewish ... and that I chose not to "rate" or "grade" any vendors, for my own personal reasons.
I was reading through some reviews on the Brides Review board, and noticed that so many girls who got married in a Church, and gave "grades" or "ratings" for all their other vendors, did NOT do the same for their church.
And I'm wondering why that is?!?!?
I mean, sure, it IS a church and all.
But if I'm not mistaken, there are couples who just pick a church because its convenient, etc. They don't necessarily have an affiliation to that particular church. So wouldn't that information help them make an informed decision about whether they want to use that particular church?
Can't Churches, and the people who work there, be considered easy or difficult to work with? Aren't there "rateable" factors in a couple's experience with getting married in a Church?
I think if I had my ceremony in a Synagogue, and if I had rated my vendors, that I would have considered them just as "rateable" as the other people and places I interacted with while planning.
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Posted 3/26/08 3:15 AM 
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jtgarsik
CrAzY 'BoUt tHe HubBy :)
Member since 11/05 8744 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/1/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
in all honesty i completely forgot! i did a pretty extensive review too.... lol it'll probably get pulled anyway 'cause I had the most aweful experience EVER with my church and i'm just going to have to rant on them..... but i'm gonna add it later on today and see! i honestly just forgot!
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Posted 3/26/08 8:12 AM
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jtgarsik
CrAzY 'BoUt tHe HubBy :)
Member since 11/05 8744 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/1/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
ps: a lot of couples these days get married at the reception hall - that could be why...
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Posted 3/26/08 8:13 AM
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Cpt2007
Back to life, back to reality
Member since 1/07 4974 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/8/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Danford's on the Sound
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
I understand your point, and perhaps for those girls who "shopped around" for a church could rate them. But for those of us who got married in our own churches, the ones we grew up in or attend now, I'm not sure it's appropriate in the larger sense. I take the tact of "you deal with the hand you are dealt" and for better or for worse, you get married in your family's church. Not everyone feels that way, certainly, and I was lucky in that I have a wonderful parish. But it just seems weird to me to "rate" a house of God.
jmo. I'm curious to see what others think. Good topic Jess! 
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Posted 3/26/08 8:45 AM
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DeannaNDave07
Waiting for my miracle
Member since 8/07 5709 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/8/2007 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
i agree with Liz
i didnt do my review yet.. and if i did get married at my church i would not rate it.. i just cant see rating my place of worship..
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Posted 3/26/08 8:56 AM
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ant n tilde
Team Jacob! <3
Member since 6/06 14127 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/12/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
i just gave my church an A+ but not bc of my experience with them REALLY
Honestly, they were a little hard to get in touch with and there were a few minor mishaps. . .
i gave them an A+ bc its my place of worship - I received my baptism, communion, reconciliation and confirmation there. . . I go every Sunday AND of course I got married there. . .
so A+ was really just a symbolic overall grade and I totally understand why some girls don't rate their church.
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Posted 3/26/08 10:09 AM
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Colette
Change *I* Can Believe In!
Member since 6/07 2722 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/24/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Castle on the Hudson
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
Hi ladies,
And I think technically your church/place of worship cannot be considered a "vendor" - i.e. it's not a contractual relationship, so a rating would not be appropriate.
Basically you agree to give a "donation" (they suggest the amount) to the church in exchange for having your mass/ceremony there. Its not a "fee" per se.
We got married in my parish church, and I have a friend of the family who works there, so she made the whole process very smooth for us, I know some other brides weren't that lucky though!!
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Posted 3/26/08 10:12 AM
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thelastresort
My true companion
Member since 4/06 3385 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/11/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
North Ritz Club - A+
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
IMO, I think the majority of people who get married in the church get married in their "home" parish. Most times its not a choice, like a vendor is, so you are basically stuck with what you get.
In addition to that, churches have certain rules with regard to how things are to be done in that particular parish and those rules can be found to be restrictive, annoying, etc. but the reasons for the rules are to protect the integrity of the church. In seeing how some brides rate their church, they often mention how they were annoyed by these rules.
I think it would be hard to rate a church on your experience with them because it's not like it's a vendor, where you would or would not recommend using them based upon your experience. Had I seen a horrible review of my church prior to my wedding, or 10 horrible reviews for that matter, I would have still gotten married there. That's JMO
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Posted 3/26/08 10:17 AM
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PegaLega
Lets Get This!!!!!
Member since 6/05 29825 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/25/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
I rated my church but then again that is more b/c an 07 bride was biitchin and moaning about them when in fact she just didnt want to do the leg work
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Posted 3/26/08 10:20 AM
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Mizzdimple
Finally in Contract!
Member since 3/07 10176 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/22/2008 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
RuSsO's on Da BaY!
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
I DIDnt do my review yet but I think we should all be honest and rate our church...i know i would proably give my Priest an A+++++ b/c he gave a beautiful ceremony and was very helpful to DH and I.
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Posted 3/26/08 10:21 AM
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PreshusSmurf
Beyond Obsession
Member since 5/06 7725 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/10/2007 7:30 PM
Wed. Location:
North Ritz Club
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
Posted by jtgarsik
ps: a lot of couples these days get married at the reception hall - that could be why...
we were one of those couples, who did not get married in a house of worship -- mostly because we are interfaith.
but i was really just talking about the brides who had their ceremonies in a church, the majority of them do not seem to want to (or feel it is appropriate to) rate their church.
i thought i'd ask you ladies in the hopes of getting good & honest answers ... glad i didn't come back to flames for it 
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Posted 3/26/08 2:19 PM
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gemmifer
Enjoying 1yr :) & change...
Member since 1/08 4374 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/13/2007 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jedediah Hawkins Inn&Morgan's Penthouse NYC 11/30
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
i thought i'd ask you ladies in the hopes of getting good & honest answers ... glad i didn't come back to flames for it
I wouldn't put you in Flames Jess.. b/c I have them now myself with 'FIRECROTCH' 
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Posted 3/26/08 2:38 PM
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carolinebr
Hello ladies
Member since 9/06 3167 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/2/2007 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Atlantica
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Re: I'm curious. Question re: Bride's Reviews and giving ratings to Churches ...
I might be inclined to think (and I am assuming here) that people who didn't rate their churches
1 - were afraid of going to hell if they put a bad rating
2 - feel uncomfortable rating a church or a religion, since it is such a personal choice.
I'm just guessing here.
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Posted 3/26/08 2:41 PM
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