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futuremrsfab
Final 131 Y, 34N
Member since 3/07 6464 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/12/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
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For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I know this is controversial everytime its brought up & believe me I don't want to start anything & I absolutely looove kids- but we are not able to invite them since ours is a late wedding & because of the cost- so for those of you not inviting kids- how are you/did you let the guests know?
Sorry to bring this up again, but my mom is concerned about this- we have a lot of friends that have small kids & babies and I am not sure how to handle
tia
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Posted 2/27/08 9:58 AM 
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anamaree77
I am MRS. CUCC!!<3
Member since 2/07 2237 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/20/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Beckwith Pointe
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
We're putting Adult Reception on the invite and also Word of Mouth. 
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Posted 2/27/08 10:00 AM
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Espo22
Mrs. Esposito
Member since 11/06 46940 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
i feel the same way, i LOVE kids but if we allow everyone to bring kids we can end up with around 50 kids or so. Plus it is a late night wedding, it ends at 1:30, i really think its inappropriate for a kid. I also really dont understand how ANYBODY can bring their baby to such an event, its not right for the baby.
I am not putting it on the card. To me i just have this whole thing about writing "adult reception" sounds like im having some xxx party , its just this weird thing i have about it. So its word of mouth and already spread the word. Plus since we did no kids for e-party alot of guests already know...were inviting kids about 12-13 years and up. Most of the kids are on fh's side and they said they will handle it and talk to the families.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:03 AM
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jeffamanda080808
2 months down, a LIFETIME 2 go
Member since 2/07 4132 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/8/2008 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Irish Coffee Pub - A+ TIMES INFINITY!!!
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by anamaree77
We're putting Adult Reception on the invite and also Word of Mouth.
Us too.
The event ends at Midnight...possibly later, we just don't feel it's a place for kids.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:05 AM
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MrsK2008
It wasn't me!
Member since 6/07 2720 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/4/2008 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace - Skylight Room
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
this is more difficult for me because I have kids coming to our reception, but certain people children I don't want anywhere near the affair.
Fortunately for me, most people don't even want to bring their kids.
Word of mouth is the best way!
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Posted 2/27/08 10:06 AM
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Emily08
366 Invited ~ 215 yes / 38 no
Member since 6/07 1180 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/14/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Rockleigh
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I am also not inviting kids for the same reasons as you ladies... late reception, already at my guest limit, etc. I didn't write adult reception on my invites. Instead it's been word of mouth and then the way my invites will be addressed "Mr. & Mrs. ..." And the plan is, if anyone sends back an rsvp for more than 2 people (if I'm only expecting a couple), I will give them a call, politely question their rsvp and let them know that we aren't inviting children to the wedding. My family is huge and I can't have all these kids there!
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Posted 2/27/08 10:08 AM
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mariaobride
Happy Halloweenie
Member since 9/07 6405 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/6/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Beckwith Pointe
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by Espo22
i feel the same way, i LOVE kids but if we allow everyone to bring kids we can end up with around 50 kids or so. Plus it is a late night wedding, it ends at 1:30, i really think its inappropriate for a kid. I also really dont understand how ANYBODY can bring their baby to such an event, its not right for the baby.
I am not putting it on the card. To me i just have this whole thing about writing "adult reception" sounds like im having some xxx party , its just this weird thing i have about it. So its word of mouth and already spread the word. Plus since we did no kids for e-party alot of guests already know...were inviting kids about 12-13 years and up. Most of the kids are on fh's side and they said they will handle it and talk to the families.
get your mind out the gutter denise j/k - I never even thought of that
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Posted 2/27/08 10:08 AM
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dannisayz
I'm Mrs. Mahoney
Member since 9/06 2696 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/11/2008 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Caterers
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I would hope most people would know by the way the card is addressed. If it only says Mr. and Mrs. I'd hope they know that it doesn't include their children. Plus, our reception will be over around 1AM.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:09 AM
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cbcf
My shower -12th, My Bday-13th
Member since 10/06 6317 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/20/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace- Dome Room
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I am not putting adult reception. just kinda going by word of mouth. However for the e-party we didnt invite kids so hopefully they will get it haha.
but on the rsvp we are doing
___ seats have been reserved in your honour
(and we are writing the # of seats per the # of people we are inviting that get that invite)
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Posted 2/27/08 10:12 AM
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futuremrsfab
Final 131 Y, 34N
Member since 3/07 6464 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/12/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by cbcf
I am not putting adult reception. just kinda going by word of mouth. However for the e-party we didnt invite kids so hopefully they will get it haha.
but on the rsvp we are doing
___ seats have been reserved in your honour
(and we are writing the # of seats per the # of people we are inviting that get that invite)
i like that idea- thanks!
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Posted 2/27/08 10:20 AM
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Espo22
Mrs. Esposito
Member since 11/06 46940 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by mariaobride
Posted by Espo22
i feel the same way, i LOVE kids but if we allow everyone to bring kids we can end up with around 50 kids or so. Plus it is a late night wedding, it ends at 1:30, i really think its inappropriate for a kid. I also really dont understand how ANYBODY can bring their baby to such an event, its not right for the baby.
I am not putting it on the card. To me i just have this whole thing about writing "adult reception" sounds like im having some xxx party , its just this weird thing i have about it. So its word of mouth and already spread the word. Plus since we did no kids for e-party alot of guests already know...were inviting kids about 12-13 years and up. Most of the kids are on fh's side and they said they will handle it and talk to the families.
get your mind out the gutter denise j/k - I never even thought of that
neither did i , until all these people posted about it on the knot and now its stuck in my head
here is a suggestion for some of you
you can have your rsvp card say:
we have reserved 2 seats in your honour, well you write we have reserved and have a line next to it and you put in the number bc it wont be 2 for everybody
Message edited 2/27/2008 10:23:52 AM.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:22 AM
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Espo22
Mrs. Esposito
Member since 11/06 46940 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by cbcf
I am not putting adult reception. just kinda going by word of mouth. However for the e-party we didnt invite kids so hopefully they will get it haha.
but on the rsvp we are doing
___ seats have been reserved in your honour
(and we are writing the # of seats per the # of people we are inviting that get that invite)
DUH didnt see you already wrote this lol, sorry catie
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Posted 2/27/08 10:24 AM
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minibride08
WHAT AN AMAZING DAY!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/07 3916 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/17/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Metropolitan
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
We are not inviting kids to the Reception. LOVE kids too- but it was either all or none. Anyone who is teenager & above is invited.... We just put the names of who was invited on the inner envelope. On the response card we had a space for the names and yes or no. If someone responds with their kids names, we'll call them individually and explain. Most of my family, I've talked to already and they are more than understanding!!
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Posted 2/27/08 10:25 AM
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futuremrsfab
Final 131 Y, 34N
Member since 3/07 6464 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/12/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Check!
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by futuremrsfab
Posted by cbcf
I am not putting adult reception. just kinda going by word of mouth. However for the e-party we didnt invite kids so hopefully they will get it haha.
but on the rsvp we are doing
___ seats have been reserved in your honour
(and we are writing the # of seats per the # of people we are inviting that get that invite)
i like that idea- thanks!
Ok so I tell FH this idea & he's like great- but we are inviting 2 single moms and a single father & he was like, I bet that they think that the guest is their kid 
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Posted 2/27/08 10:26 AM
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DD628
DD is now DB
Member since 6/07 2130 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/28/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I just had an issue with my Stepfathers cousin.
My mom said she wants my stepdads cousin to bring their kids...they are i think 8 and 10...now, FH has his 1st cousins that are 16 & 15...How do I not invite his first cousins...DO you think thats ok?
Not have the younger kids come, but have the older ones?
I cant tell his cousins they cant come...I love them!
I never even met my stepdads cousins kids...
Help!
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Posted 2/27/08 10:27 AM
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DD628
DD is now DB
Member since 6/07 2130 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/28/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by minibride08
We are not inviting kids to the Reception. LOVE kids too- but it was either all or none. Anyone who is teenager & above is invited.... We just put the names of who was invited on the inner envelope. On the response card we had a space for the names and yes or no. If someone responds with their kids names, we'll call them individually and explain. Most of my family, I've talked to already and they are more than understanding!!
I agree with you on this Lynda!
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Posted 2/27/08 10:27 AM
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cmjd
Love Married Life!
Member since 10/07 1577 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2008 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club A+++++++
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
i wrote adults only. Some people think this may be offensive, but i really dont think so. THe people who are offended by it are probably the ones who were planning on bringing their children without telling me!
Message edited 2/27/2008 10:33:59 AM.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:33 AM
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cherish83
191 Invited; Y:92 N:24
Member since 1/06 12451 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/29/2008 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
CLM
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
We're hoping they notice by what is said on the invite. However, if we get RSVPs back with number including kids, we'll bring it up that its adult only.
That said, we are taking the same protocol for adults adding guests.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:36 AM
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snowcutie82
invited 202; y~90 n~17
Member since 8/06 3161 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/26/2008 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
it's fantabulous
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
we have too many kids in the family...so no kids for us. our families are telling everyone via word of mouth. i also put baby sitter information on our website etc.
like people have said before...u can use the rsvp card to indicate the # of guests
i read this idea on here...you can fill in the guests' names on the rsvp card as well (the line they normally fill in - this was more for the whole single vs and guest thing but it might work in this instance as well).
im hoping everyone gets the point but im expecting to have to call back a few people who rsvpd with extra guests.
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Posted 2/27/08 10:37 AM
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berryxcited
Board Enthusiast
Member since 9/07 98 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/21/2008 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Oheka Castle
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I am also having a hard time with this issue. I of course have my RB, my FG and a Jr. BM. There are some people in my family and FH family who have 3 and 4 kids. I am concerned because that's about maybe 20 kids. I am getting married at Oheka...and I am sure who all know how pricey it is per plate... I am already having 350 people
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Posted 2/27/08 10:38 AM
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DD628
DD is now DB
Member since 6/07 2130 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/28/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
yea we have 2 ring bearers! I dont want to hear anything from anyone that they are there.
LOL
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Posted 2/27/08 10:43 AM
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musicgrl79
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 11/06 1305 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/12/2008 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Estate at East Wind
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
i am not putting it on the card. i am assuming it is implied by whoever's name is on the invite. if they put their kids down as a response i have no problem calling them up and telling them no.
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Posted 2/27/08 11:44 AM
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RadiantBride
SI SE PUEDE!!
Member since 5/07 2703 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/28/2008 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand ?
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
I have done word of mouth. But for those twhich do not have a place to leave their kids. I have hired a baby sitter which will watch them in the hotel next door.
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Posted 2/27/08 11:46 AM
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cbcf
My shower -12th, My Bday-13th
Member since 10/06 6317 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/20/2008 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace- Dome Room
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by futuremrsfab
Posted by cbcf
I am not putting adult reception. just kinda going by word of mouth. However for the e-party we didnt invite kids so hopefully they will get it haha.
but on the rsvp we are doing
___ seats have been reserved in your honour
(and we are writing the # of seats per the # of people we are inviting that get that invite)
i like that idea- thanks!
your welcome!!! i am definitely going to need this because i have a feeling we are going to have problems with who we invite 
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Posted 2/27/08 11:47 AM
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JBoothIn2008
Final: 136 Y / 37 N
Member since 3/07 8235 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/25/2008 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: For people not inviting kids to the wedding
Posted by cbcf
I am not putting adult reception. just kinda going by word of mouth. However for the e-party we didnt invite kids so hopefully they will get it haha.
but on the rsvp we are doing
___ seats have been reserved in your honour
(and we are writing the # of seats per the # of people we are inviting that get that invite)
I am doing this too. I am letting people know that kids are not invited - I have a ton of second cousins and so does FH, but we just don't have the room or money to have them there. He has 5 first cousins who are young, and that may cause a stir with some family (my aunt who doesn't seem to understand that we can't afford to have her 7 grandkids, my cousins, there), but because they are 1st cousins, we hope they will understand.
I kinda feel like writing "adult reception" on the invite underestimates people's ability to see that if their kids names are not on the invite, they are not invited. I dunno, i go back and forth. Maybe I will do all three - word of mouth, adult reception and make the rsvp card clearly state the number of seats reserved ...
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Posted 2/27/08 11:54 AM
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