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jsta76
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Thanks as always
Thanks as always ladies. I feel sooooooo much better now.
Message edited 1/6/2008 11:59:55 PM.
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Posted 1/6/08 10:25 PM 
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SB7308
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
I dont think he should have a problem saying those words. He's just saying it, he doesn't have to believe what it says. I hope you know what I mean. Its in honor of you, having him read something.
Are you having four people hold the chuppah? If so, include him there?
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Posted 1/6/08 10:29 PM
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akrasner
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
I am having a jewish ceremony too, and we are also asking some of our friends to do the 7 blessings. I would ask the person if he would feel comfortable doing it or not. If he doesnt, I know right before the ceremony we are doing the ketubah and marriage license signing. The witnesses for the ketubah need to be jewish but maybe your friend could sign your actual marriage license. Just an idea...
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Posted 1/6/08 10:29 PM
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Snowflake08
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
well, hard to say since i am jewish
however, if one of my christian friends asked me to do a reading, i would, but not if it said "Jesus"
if it just said G-d or lord, than yes
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Posted 1/6/08 10:29 PM
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jgl
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
i would just ask your friend if he would feel funny or uncomfortable doing the reading.. im sure he would not mind you asking
im catholic.. i dont think i would have minded reading something at a jewish friends wedding if she wanted me too... when we went to my friends wedding who is Jewish FH wore a Yamika (sorry spelling) and sat on the men's side of the temple.. it wasnt a big deal
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Posted 1/6/08 10:30 PM
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jsta76
Wedding + house what next?
Member since 4/07 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 11:30 AM
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Thatched Cottage A
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Posted by SB7308
I dont think he should have a problem saying those words. He's just saying it, he doesn't have to believe what it says. I hope you know what I mean. Its in honor of you, having him read something.
Are you having four people hold the chuppah? If so, include him there?
I know what you mean.
That's what my mom said also, that she doesn't think he should have a problem since as you said he's just saying it.
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Posted 1/6/08 10:31 PM
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jsta76
Wedding + house what next?
Member since 4/07 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 11:30 AM
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Thatched Cottage A
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Posted by akrasner
I am having a jewish ceremony too, and we are also asking some of our friends to do the 7 blessings. I would ask the person if he would feel comfortable doing it or not. If he doesnt, I know right before the ceremony we are doing the ketubah and marriage license signing. The witnesses for the ketubah need to be jewish but maybe your friend could sign your actual marriage license. Just an idea...
That's what FH said, we'll probably just talk to him first before we react....i'm just OVERreacting right now because of all the stress i've been under lately.
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Posted 1/6/08 10:32 PM
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jsta76
Wedding + house what next?
Member since 4/07 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 11:30 AM
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Thatched Cottage A
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Posted by Snowflake08
well, hard to say since i am jewish
however, if one of my christian friends asked me to do a reading, i would, but not if it said "Jesus"
if it just said G-d or lord, than yes
Right...thats exactly why I'm worried because I know i'd be uncomfortable in that situation. I wouldn't mind doing the reading either but I couldn't if it said Jesus.
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Posted 1/6/08 10:34 PM
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Cutechef729
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
I would not be insulted at all. Especially if it were meaningful to the people that I was reading it for.
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Posted 1/6/08 10:35 PM
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SB7308
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Understand the stress, we all are 
If he's a good friend of FH, i'm sure he wouldnt have a problem. I"m sure he would do it for you guys!
Dont worry, i'm sure it will work out!
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Posted 1/6/08 10:35 PM
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LuckyMe
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
First off Im sure they would be more impressed with the fact that you included them in your religious beliefs and it's not like your asking them to go against their beliefs in God. I would be honored and the prayer would be said for you so it's more about what you believe.
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Posted 1/6/08 10:37 PM
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anneandchris
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
I wouldn't stress it too much. just ask -- worst he can say is he doesn't feel comfortable and then that is that.
the sentiment is there -- now it is up to him.
But to answer your question I would not be offended. If a friend of a different faith asked me to do something to be part of their ceremony that encompassed their religion I would have no problem doing it whether it was my belief or not.
Also keep in mind, guys don't put this much thought into things -- we as women tend to over analyze (myself included!)
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Posted 1/6/08 10:38 PM
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Jumbles
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Posted by anneandchris
I wouldn't stress it too much. just ask -- worst he can say is he doesn't feel comfortable and then that is that.
the sentiment is there -- now it is up to him.
But to answer your question I would not be offended. If a friend of a different faith asked me to do something to be part of their ceremony that encompassed their religion I would have no problem doing it whether it was my belief or not.
Also keep in mind, guys don't put this much thought into things -- we as women tend to over analyze (myself included!)
perfectly put , i agree ask and you shall know the answer
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Posted 1/6/08 10:56 PM
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ant n tilde
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
i am catholic and i would be honored to do a reading in a jewish ceremony
and its the same God, so it is OUR God 
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Posted 1/6/08 10:57 PM
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AR31
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
don't stress it.. i think would be an honor for the person to think that you would allow them to read something so important..
just ask the person.. and the worst case is that the person will say no, but i highly doubt it!!
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Posted 1/6/08 11:00 PM
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Mici n KC
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Posted by ant n tilde
i am catholic and i would be honored to do a reading in a jewish ceremony
and its the same God, so it is OUR God
I agree. I'm Lutheran and wouldn't be offended at all. I would be doing it for my friend because it has special meaning to her and her FH. It doesn't need to have any special meaning to me anyway. They just want to include me in their wedding and this is there way of doing it.
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Posted 1/6/08 11:01 PM
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GinaZ
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
If It were me and someone asked me to be apart of their wedding and to do a reading- I would be so happy! I would totally understand that it is a religious ceremony and different from my own beliefs. But it is a ceremony for people who have those beliefs and therefore the reading will reflect that. If this person is as excited to be apart of your day as you made it oun, I would bevery surprised if he is insulted at the religious context of the reading. Im sure he already knows you are jewish and is therefore expecting it. If you are worried about it, you and/or your FH should talk to him about it before you ask him not to participate.
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Posted 1/6/08 11:02 PM
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DavaDay
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
I agree with the general sentiment here - it's an honor to be asked, and since it's the same God, I don't see a problem. If your Christian friend feels uncomfortable, he'll tell you and you'll find someone else, but either way, it's an honor (not an insult to his faith) to be asked.
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Posted 1/6/08 11:04 PM
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bemyyoko
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Posted by ant n tilde
i am catholic and i would be honored to do a reading in a jewish ceremony
and its the same God, so it is OUR God
I was just going to say the same thing.
From what I was taught growing up (please don't get mad, i acknowledge that I could be mistaken) If you are Christian or Jewish, you worship the same God/Lord but do so in different ways.
I remember being told that the Old Testament in the Bible is something that the Christian and Jewish faiths have in common to an extent.
If that's the case, and your friend is Christian, I don't think he should be insulted b/c it's the same God. I know I wouldn't be.
However, if I were Hindu or another non Christian faith, I would not be comfortable reading a blessing like that.
The best thing to do would probably be to speak to him.
Good luck!!
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Posted 1/6/08 11:21 PM
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Rejjie
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
Personally, I have no religion really, but respect what others choose. So, I'd be honored to read for any religion.
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Posted 1/6/08 11:24 PM
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xXxNovember08xXx
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Re: Would you be insulted? (kinda long w/vent)
i woudl mention it to him.. see how it reacts.. adn what he says...
i woudl judge it by that.
good luck
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Posted 1/6/08 11:37 PM
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