Can MOB wear black?

i went to a wedding and the mom wore black, my FH thought it looked like she was going to a funeral but i know that I love wearing black cause it makes you look thiner and my mom is trying her best, what do you guys think?

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Personally, I don't like either Mom in black. I find it kind of disrespectful - like they're in mourning or something. I just think it sends a bad signal to other people. JMO!!!

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I know that is what I am thinking but figured i'd ask the liweddings crew

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My entire wedding party plus both mothers are in black. I wanted a black and white wedding. I don't find it disrespectful at all. It is your wedding do what you want!!!

My wedding is a Sat night formal affair and that is the ambiance that I wanted so it fit well.

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Well I think if that is what they want to wear why not..

I mean my mother is always in black and I assume she will probally have on black with beads..

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My mom wore black and silver, I think it is perfectly ok.

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I think it depends on the dress.

If she is wearing a funeral dress (all black, sort of plain) then I dont think its particularily fitting. But if its a black evening gown that shows a little skin or is beaded - I think it looks lovely.

In NYC - black is high fashion and never goes out of style.

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I feel like at times I pick and choose when to use old fashioned etiquette rules, but Emily Post etiquette says that neither Mom should wear black b/c it shows a "disapproving MIL." But, again, take the etiquette with a grain of salt. If your Mom really wants to wear black and you and your FI are okay with it, then go for it. Otherwise, how about navy or dark green or cranberry - they are dark, slimming colors.

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Yes for a very elegant wedding that can come off very nice done correctly.

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I totally think she can wear black. I told my mom she could (my mom is a young looking, sexy mom and loves black) but she knew how old-fashioned people would be and was afraid what people would say esp. my traditional in-laws. Edited to say my mom wound up getting a dark plum..almost eggplant. Pretty dark...in some light looked close to black.

Honestly, I think the best dress a mother could wear is one that makes her feel pretty and comfortable!

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My MIL wore a black dress to our wedding and I think she looked elegant. Plus it had some kind of shiny embroidery that made it look even better.

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All the moms and grandmas are wearing black to my wedding. I think it's a classy, fancy color that looks good on mostly everyone. If your mom wants to wear black and you think it's ok then let her.

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My mom wore a black dress with red. I think she looked gorgeous. A lot of people wear black to weddings. There's nothing wrong with it.

What turns my stomach is when someone wears white to a funeral.

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I don't think wearing black is disrespectful! Black is elegant and classy, especially if it is a beaded and stylish gown. As far as looking funeralish, would someone really attend a funeral in a black beaded gown? Now that is disrespectful! As long as the style is flattering and appropriate the color does not matter. This is New York in the year 2002! Wearing black to anything is like our god given right!

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I may not be the best person to ask, but I LOVE black. It is my favorite color next to off white. (I know I have contrasting tastes).

During a Sat night affair, it will be beautiful!!!

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My brother's wedding was black and white, so all the BMs were in black as well as both mothers. It looked very formal and elegant. I think as long as it's not a "boring" gown (my mother had beading on hers) it is fine.

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I think a black dress is very elegant. People feel more comfortable in black because its slimming.

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why not wear black. The only rules you should follow are the one you and your FH set.

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My mom wore black to my sisters wedding, and she never looked more beautiful. I think it has more to do with the style. If mom is wearing a black polyesther turtleneck gown with a pair of flats I'd say it was funeral like. If she's wearing an off the shoulder sheath like my mom wore, it's very elegant. Also, black evening suits with satin or organza, or another dressy material come off elegant as well. Also, get her a really bright corsage or nosegay...makes all the difference!

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I don't think black is an bad for the MOB, but I'd rather mine not in black

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Guess we will see when she starts to try on what looks nice but thanks guys.

november I have to agree,
wearing white is a no no.

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I say black is ok, you Mom should be comfortable and if black is the way then so be it

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I don't think it's bad at all.. it's the 00's!! I've been to soo many weddings where the MOB has worn black and it doesn't look bad at all! I think it looks great!

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MOB can wear black if they like. When my older sister got married, my mom wore a black dress with a black & gold beaded jacket. She looked great!
I think the MOB and MOG should wear anything they want as long as its not white and it isn't the same color as the Bridal party. They should stand out.

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I think it is very elegant!