Wedding no-shows?

I know this is probably a touchy subject, but it happens to almost everyone. How many people didn't show the day of the wedding?..after of course RSVPing yes.

I believe I had 3. And they were all family members. My cousin & his wife didn't show - supposedly b/c they got into a fight.?! I still haven't heard anything from them. And another cousin didn't show b/c she just didn't feel like going at the last minute. I didn't care so much the day of... I was having too much fun, but its sooo annoying! They could have at least called after & said sorry or made something up. Oh well, what goes around comes around

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I had 5 no shows!!! I still don't have a reason!!!

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i had 4 no shows. Both couples from canada that missed their flight!
They have not called us to this day and never sent a card nor gift.

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We had 2 no shows - and have yet to hear from them or receive a card. I just don't understand some people.


But another couple - get this - came to the wedding, sat through the first hour of the reception (ordered their dinner), then said they had to go because they had an early flight. Now come on - they could have at least stayed and eaten the dinner I paid for!!! Right?


It's just plain rude, but you're right - it happens at almost every wedding.

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i honestly don't even know! i think everyoen showed up.

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We had one.....a friend of DH's from college. It's funny because out of everyone....he was the one I had this gut feeling wouldn't show!

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2 -- and there are not enough words for me to express how muthafuking pisssssed off i was. cause i initially did NOT want to invite them (cousin and her hubby that i NEVER EVER see) and my parents made big stink about inviting them.

then they had moved and NO ONE knew that and the invite was returned, had to send another one---my dad called and my cousin said she'd send the RSVP soon. fast fwd to the WEEK OF THE FUKING WEDDING and i STILL had not heard from them. couldn't finish seating -- and a friend was doing my place cards for me -- and FINALLY my dad called them and they said "yes" they would be attending. well lo and behold they were a no-show that day

and what pissssses me off most? after all that drama i asked my parents to call my cousin and find out why she didn't come...their response? "we're not calling her -- she didn't come...oh well"

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we had only 2 no-shows

BUT we had 6 last minute ppl that called and sd that they couldn't make it.

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I had 6 people. The best part was I invited my DH's aunt and her husband. When she RSVP'd she included her daughter. Even though that is extremely rude...I let it slide. Well...guess who never showed up, never called nor sent a gift. His aunt, uncle and the uninvited daughter. Needless to say I will no longer be speaking to them.

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I was once a no-show to a wedding of a good friend. I had a huge, ugly fight with my then boyfriend. I sent her a card and gift and I called her the next day. She was totally understanding and forgiving.

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I had 5 people that could not come. All the people had good reasons:
My friend had her date cancel on her the last minute. She came alone. I was glad she came who needs that flaky boy

A family friend in Maryland came down with the flu. he actually called CLM telling Nick the BM not to charge us for 2 people, he was asking him what we were paying per person and wanted Nick to charge his credit card.

My cousins wife had to fly home to Canada the night before because her parents were watching their 2 year old and they said he was acting up. To this day she is so mad about it. She said her son was just tired and if her parents had put him down for a nap that day instead of keeping him up he would have been fine.

My cousins wife was sick she stayed home he came alone.

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we had five total. so rude! atleast call after. onewas my own uncle! no card of phone call either! hes definately old enough to know better!

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we had none thank goodness

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I had 2. One was my brother's date, it didn't bother me so much as the bride but I was upset for him bc he would've asked someone else to go with him if she was just going to not-show!! The other person was my cousin's bf, I didn't even know he was missing until she approached me and apologized for him not being there.

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We had 6 back out the week of our wedding. Some had completely understandable reasons though. 2 had a funeral; 1 had a dying mother in the hospital. I forget why the other 3 backed out.

Then the day of, we had 5 no-shows: 2 of them came to the ceremony & then told us they had to leave. Their teenage daughter ran away the night before and they had to go find her. So sad My mom had their dinner wrapped up & brought them over to them after the wedding.

The other 3 are on my sh!t list.

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We had about 8 people not show up that RSVPd yes. I was so upset, that is just so rude!!

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2 - if no one told me i don't think i would have noticed.

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I had 5. one no call no show no card. i havent called her and wont. 2 called the hall the day of and said they couldnt make it their kids were sick or something. no card.
2 were dh's mother's friends and apparantly one was sick. no card.

don't people get that you paid for them in advance??? if you can't make it fine, but your dinner was paid for. hello!

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We had two. Both were people who left early (before dinner) due to illness. Technically, not no shows, but they were in our headcount and we paid for them. Since they were sick, it was definitely understandable.

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I had 18....but it was not there fault...we had an ice storm 2 days before the wedding and everyones flights where cancelled.

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Hmmm essentially I only had about 3 - my friend's husband, an uncle that was sick and SIL's date (saw THAT one coming a mile away! ). There was a couple we found out about a week or two ago that couldn't come after all. Didn't really effect us, especially since we made our minimum exactly!

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we had 9 no-show, but it was OK, because we were over by 9 people anyway.

one of the 9 that didn't show was a friend of dh, he called us the week before the wedding to say that they would be there, and still didn't show up.

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5 no shows. 2 had a legitmate reason- there was a huge storm the weekend of our wedding and their house was flooding. The rest, don't get me started. It still makes me angry.

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We had 4 last-minute cancellations:
-My co-workers told me the Thursday before the wedding that they had to go to PA for a christening. They didn't know that in advance? No card, no gift.
-DH's friend who is a NYC cop had to work overtime due to fleet week. No card, no gift.
-My friend's wife couldn't come b/c they "couldn't afford the trip." Yeah, he drove from SC and I'm sure they could have split the cost on the hotel. No card, no gift.

And 4 complete no-shows:
-My cousin's husband who was "too busy" to come At least she gave us a card/gift from both of them.
-DH's friend from college who didn't RSVP until the last minute, then when DH called him he promised that he would be there (and his roommate, another of DH's friends, was coming). That night he wasn't there and left the BM a message that he "had to stay late at work." Um, we had a Saturday night wedding. Who works on Saturday nights??? He never called or emailed DH, no card, nothing. DH and his BM aren't speaking to him anymore.

The saddest one:
-I noticed our friend and her girlfriend weren't there, and the next morning we had an email from them. Their dog got really sick the day before so they'd spent the entire day at the emergency animal hospital. It turned out their pup had cancer and had to be put to sleep a few weeks later. They not only sent the message, they also sent a gift, have apologized profusely, and we're having lunch next week to look at the wedding album. This broke my heart, especially since I love pups so much!

But all the others make me want to

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I had one, two, three, four oh hell I think there were 10 that missed out on the best wedding ever. What pisses me of is not even the no card- no gift it is the fact that the one couple acts like nothing ever happend.