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PurpleGrl156
Board Fanatic
Member since 3/06 266 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/27/2007 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Majestic Gardens - AWESOME!
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Need Advice - what would you do?
I have been working at the same company for over 7 years. I am a specialist in the Human Resource department which requires me to interface with many different employees at all levels at the company.
Since I have been here so long, I have become aquainted with many of the women in various departments and many of which know that I am getting married, many of which want to come to the 'church' part of my wedding and for me to let them know when it is. This would be all fine and dandy if we were getting married at a church, but we are not. We are getting married on-site in the (very private) gardens of Majestic Gardens.
Since the setting is so intimate, and the plan is for everyone to move into Cocktail Hour immediately after the cermony, I am concerned that those whom I didn't invite but want to come to the ceremony may feel 'put out' or even worse mosey on into the reception assuming they are invited because they went to the ceremony.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy chit chatting at work with these women, and enjoy their company, but can only afford to invite my department to my small, but expensive 100 person wedding.
How would you handle these requests? I have told many of them that I am not getting married in a church, indicating that we are getting married on-site, but I am not sure what is the appropriate way to handle this is...
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Posted 10/2/06 1:09 PM 
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MissMaster13
CONGRATS MARISA AND TOM
Member since 7/06 1854 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/3/2007 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Windows on the Lake
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
I would do the "Awe I wish you could be there but.." then tell them it will be videotapped and they could borrow it as soon as it comes in
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Posted 10/2/06 1:21 PM
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Michy
LOVE BEING A WIFE!!!
Member since 1/06 1859 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/15/2007 10:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Miller Place Inn
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
Just tell them that you are not getting married at a church and only having a short ceremony before the cocktail hour. Most people will know that they can't go and just tell them that you will bring all the pictures in so that they can see.
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Posted 10/2/06 1:23 PM
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jennd311
I love being married!
Member since 3/06 1619 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
I would tell them that you are getting married right before your CH at the place, but you'll bring pics in to share as soon as you get back from your honeymoon. I am sure most women would understand.
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Posted 10/2/06 1:25 PM
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MnM52607
Forever & Always
Member since 3/06 4856 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/26/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
El Caribe
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
Just tell her you aren't getting married in a church.
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Posted 10/2/06 1:29 PM
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jenafee
Baby girl coming July 2008!!!!
Member since 1/06 4422 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/12/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Water's Edge A+++++++++++
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
Posted by jennd311
I would tell them that you are getting married right before your CH at the place, but you'll bring pics in to share as soon as you get back from your honeymoon. I am sure most women would understand.
I totally agree with Jenn, but sometimes these women are nuts and do not realize what you're actually trying to say. Just be short, sweet and to the point and I hope they get it! 
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Posted 10/2/06 1:44 PM
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sunflower13
Board Fanatic
Member since 8/06 587 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/13/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Inn Carriage House
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
Posted by Michy
Just tell them that you are not getting married at a church and only having a short ceremony before the cocktail hour. Most people will know that they can't go and just tell them that you will bring all the pictures in so that they can see.
I agree
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Posted 10/2/06 3:37 PM
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betani
i'm married!!
Member since 8/06 1652 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/5/2008 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
the irish coffee pub
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
just tell them you appreciate their asking (it really is sweet that they want to be there for you and didn't ask/assume they were invited to the rh) but you're having a very private, small wedding. they should get the hint. if not, explain that it will be only family for personal reasons and leave it at that.
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Posted 10/2/06 5:53 PM
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Marly
I Love being Mrs.G!!!!
Member since 5/06 4415 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/29/2007 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Holiday Inn Plainview-A++++
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
Posted by Michy
Just tell them that you are not getting married at a church and only having a short ceremony before the cocktail hour. Most people will know that they can't go and just tell them that you will bring all the pictures in so that they can see.
I agree Michy.
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Posted 10/2/06 6:05 PM
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daniebc16
DONE!
Member since 7/06 1793 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2007 2:45 PM
Wed. Location:
check
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Re: Need Advice - what would you do?
Posted by MissMaster13
I would do the "Awe I wish you could be there but.." then tell them it will be videotapped and they could borrow it as soon as it comes in
That is perfect...most people understand that it is impossible and very BAD etiquite to go a ceremony that is at the site.
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Posted 10/2/06 9:43 PM
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