engagement party- register?

Ladies,
Im having an engagement party late september, and I thought registering might be tacky. But people are asking the moms where were registered...should I go? Or maybe if I dont say anything...Ill get some $$ (which is what I really need!) Tips?

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You might want to register for a few things. Some people like to purchase a gift for your engagement, and if you are not registered they may purchase items for you that you might not necessarily want.

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Do it~

Register for some stuff now and go back and add on later. As much as people will give you guys $$$ they will also want to get gifts. I got tons of frames, crystal etc. That way if you do get gifts you will get something you really like .

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We registered before our e-party and I am glad we did. We got stuff we really needed, whereas we probably would've gotten things we didn't had we not registered.

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I was wondering the same thing. My mom wants to have an e-party this fall but I won't be getting married until 2008. Do I really need to register?

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my friend didnt on purpose and she got tons of cash!

if you reg too early...its a bad idea....things will be discountued and you will have to go back and start over or delete and replace items!!

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We registered. We got a lot of nice gifts and keepsakes. Some people prefer giving gifts over money.

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we didn't register until Jan 2006 cause we were afraid that some of the items that we registered for would be discontinued... We ended up getting a lot of money that we really needed,... Our mom's told them that we weren't registering until after the new year and if they want to give us a gift give gift certificate or money.. cause we really needed money...

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When I had my e-party I did not register. We ended up getting cash and a few giftcards.

But, registering lets you receive gifts you want and then for your shower, you can add on additional items like extra towels, bedsheets, etc. That way your home will be fully stocked!!!!!

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I think you should register...at least you'll get things that you asked for instead of getting something you don't want at all. A good place to start off is Bed Bath and Beyond.

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Posted by NY031978

my friend didnt on purpose and she got tons of cash!

if you reg too early...its a bad idea....things will be discountued and you will have to go back and start over or delete and replace items!!

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i would definitely register. this way, if people ask, you can tell them. otherwise you'll just get a whole bunch of stuff you don't want.

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I didn't have an e-party but if I did, my Dad did not want me to register because he wanted me to get cash!!!!

I think it's a preference but if you register for everything now, you may get a lot of stuff at your bridal shower that you dont' want b/c there may not be a lot left on the registery.

I think most people give $$$ for engagement parties and gifts for showers - that's just my experience/opinion

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People who will give cash will do so no matter what, and people who will give gifts, will do so no matter what. Save yourself some grief and register for kitchen items, or other items that wont be discontinued. Me and FI registered for everthing except bed and bath stuffs, and we got a lot of stuff off the registry, we also got money as well. Only a few people did not buy off the registry and needless to say we will be returning that stuff.

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Posted by fins428

You might want to register for a few things. Some people like to purchase a gift for your engagement, and if you are not registered they may purchase items for you that you might not necessarily want.

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YES!!!!! REGISTER!!!!

Or else you might end up with endless amounts of RANDOM crap!!! That's what happened to me. Well, sorta: I registered for everything under the sun but I listened to a few random people who told me that "it's not proper etiquette" to put the registry cards in with the e-party invites (which I know it is not but after getting all that stuff i hated- i would love to go back and do it anyway, regardless of what people might have said). So I didn't put the cards in and just hoped that people would ask my mom or FMIL-- but a lot didn't and instead of just giving money, I got random crap! LOL it was pretty bad-- most with no receipts, no box of where it came from, NO idea where to return it to. A lot of them I still have and I don't know what to do with them (garage sale!!!).

So if I were you I would register... if you don't need that much stuff then register at a great place like Bed, Bath and Beyond that gives you back CASH when you return something!!! CA--CHING!!!!!!!

That's my best advice HTH!!!!

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FH and I said we werent going to but then on the Sunday before the party (6 days before). We caved. We got alot of much needed money but the ppl that want to buy you presents will, whether you registar of not.

Just register for a few things.

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We registered and we got a ton of stuff and a great deal of money as well. People like my great aunts wanted to get us something and I prefered it to be something we needed.

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People asked us to register for it so we did.; and we got EVEYTHING Off our registry plus a lot of money.. I was happy we registered though.. we just moved into a new place at that time and got a lot of stuf we need! You will be happy if you do!

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Posted by leshellem

People who will give cash will do so no matter what, and people who will give gifts, will do so no matter what. Save yourself some grief and register for kitchen items, or other items that wont be discontinued. Me and FI registered for everthing except bed and bath stuffs, and we got a lot of stuff off the registry, we also got money as well. Only a few people did not buy off the registry and needless to say we will be returning that stuff.

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we didnt reg for our eparts ad we ended up getti gall cash except for 2 or 3 gifts...we got 5500 dollars it was very helpful as we had just boght a house

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I am not registering for my e-party. I am having it in november and if people buy gifts the people coming know what I like. i wouldnt worry about that. Since I am not gettin married until 2008 I will register when it is closer so when i have my shower that is when people get gifts. I dont think it is tacky to register if you want but me and FH discussed it and we think it is better to wait. hope this helps!

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Register, it is the lesser of two evils. Most will give you what you really need which is moulah but some will give gifts. Which at least will be what you picked out. And you can always add to your registry!

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We didn't register for our engagement party. Actually, I was hoping for mostly money that I could put towards the wedding. We did get a few gifts though but at least they were nice gift.

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Thanks ladies for all the advice! I think Im gonna register for a FEW things tomorrow. I wish I knew how to register for CASH!!!