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Girls who's FH's went to them for their bachelor party-and were not OK w/it.....

Did you set some rules-such as no full nudity or no lap dances?

Did they listen? lol

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I told him this:
Lap Dances are shady. It's dry humping. If he would be OK with me, dry humping some other guy, then he can get a lap dance.
I know that it might happen. Because no guy wants to be the stick in the mud. But I had better not ever learn of it. Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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I don't set rules for my DH, he knows what to do and what not to do, I could not imagine saying to him "Now Kevin, no full nude lap dances, ok?"

I am not his mama......

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Posted by Naunie

I told him this:
Lap Dances are shady. It's dry humping. If he would be OK with me, dry humping some other guy, then he can get a lap dance.
I know that it might happen. Because no guy wants to be the stick in the mud. But I had better not ever learn of it. Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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Posted by Naunie

Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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hahaha you ladies are so funny.

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I set a huge ground rule...

Go to a strip club and he can be the one to tell his family and mine why we aren't getting married.

He knows my personal feelings on strip clubs and not only that, I know how he would feel if I went to a strip club and it would be the same way as me.

He has no interest though... he wants to go to a car race.

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Posted by Naunie

I told him this:
Lap Dances are shady. It's dry humping. If he would be OK with me, dry humping some other guy, then he can get a lap dance.
I know that it might happen. Because no guy wants to be the stick in the mud. But I had better not ever learn of it. Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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Posted by kittythestray

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Posted by Naunie

Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! I think this is the funniest thing I EVER read on LIW I LOVE it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's a tough call because you can ASK him not to but you'll never really know either way... I guess you'd just have to trust that he would respect your wishes on it. Maybe just run over the quick 'I want you to go and have a good time but I am really NOT OK with this so please remember how I feel and respect me by not getting any lap dances...'

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Posted by metmymatch

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Posted by Naunie

I told him this:
Lap Dances are shady. It's dry humping. If he would be OK with me, dry humping some other guy, then he can get a lap dance.
I know that it might happen. Because no guy wants to be the stick in the mud. But I had better not ever learn of it. Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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omg, thank you for posting this. my fi and i have debated the merits (lol) of strip clubs many times and he just never gets my point. the thought of me dry humping a guy at a bar might just bring my point home.

as far as how we're handling this.... i told him that it was his choice as to whether or not he went to a strip club (regardless of type, location, vip room, etc.). but that he had to realize that if he did go, it was going to be a sore point between us for the rest of our lives. i think (or rather hope) he's smart enough to realize that one nite of "fun" is not worth a lifetime of pain.

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Posted by Smiles111

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Posted by kittythestray

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Posted by Naunie

Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! I think this is the funniest thing I EVER read on LIW I LOVE it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's a tough call because you can ASK him not to but you'll never really know either way... I guess you'd just have to trust that he would respect your wishes on it. Maybe just run over the quick 'I want you to go and have a good time but I am really NOT OK with this so please remember how I feel and respect me by not getting any lap dances...'

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Agree!!!!! totally awesome response!
I'm going to tell FH the same thing. It's not that i think he wants a lap dance, it's that i think his GM are going to egg him on so I feel it's important to let him know how i feel about it. and saying that you will dry hump the first guy you see is language any guy can understand! brilliant!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Naunie

I told him this:
Lap Dances are shady. It's dry humping. If he would be OK with me, dry humping some other guy, then he can get a lap dance.
I know that it might happen. Because no guy wants to be the stick in the mud. But I had better not ever learn of it. Or I will dry hump the first guy I see

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omg, thank you for posting this. my fi and i have debated the merits (lol) of strip clubs many times and he just never gets my point. the thought of me dry humping a guy at a bar might just bring my point home.

as far as how we're handling this.... i told him that it was his choice as to whether or not he went to a strip club (regardless of type, location, vip room, etc.). but that he had to realize that if he did go, it was going to be a sore point between us for the rest of our lives. i think (or rather hope) he's smart enough to realize that one nite of "fun" is not worth a lifetime of pain.

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Funny replies. I haven't set rules per se, but my "feelings and thoughts" are well known. It's hard to set rules because who knows what could happen. As long as you tell your man what you are NOT comfortable with, then it should be heeded.

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This is a touchy topic for me. I want my FH to tell me everything and I don't tell him what to do but I do tell him how I feel about it.

Do I want him to go to strip clubs - no. Does he go on his friends BP and go to strip clubs - yes and I understand this. I don't think there is any reason to get lap dances at all.

He didn't go to one for his BP because he didn't suggest it and didn't care to go but if his friends took him I would understand. I have friends to and they want you to have these types of experiences before you get married. It is what is it I guess....

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I am not a big fan...but If I make a big stink about it I feel like he will want to do it more...I HATE lap dances...It just skeaves me out!

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I THINK its dry humping too!!! LOL
I told him the same exact thing.

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Yeah I feel pretty strongly about FH NOT going to a strip club. I told him if he goes to one then it is only fair that I should be able to strip. So I told him I would put up a sign at the firehouse (fh is a volunteer firefighter) and the first guy to call would get a strip tease!! I just really hope that he respects my wishes and skips the stripper thing

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my FH's is on Sat...the only thing I told him was no private parties in the back room. Also, no touching these girls...no matter how close they get.

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i really have no problems with strip clubs - i always tease my FH that those girls wouldnt go home with him anyway so he can stare all he wants lol jk

he has been to them before for other bachelor parties and he is not really all that into them . . . i dont care if he goes but i have this stupid theory in my head that if he goes to an "expensive" Manhattan strip club - nothing really bad will happen but if he goes to some "discount" strip club in the Bronx of something then the girls may be willing to do more than they should be doing!!

i would never tell him that he cant do something - especially if he is going to be with his friends. . . but i am sure he knows

my Bachelor party rule is no prostitutes LOL ewwwwwwww

also - jeanine please dont worry about this! you are such a calm bride - you are my inspiration!

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i kind of agree with ant n tilde, i know he's not really into it but they wil probably go to one, i told him its his bp he better get a lap dance now cause its his only free pass, i totally trust him and know he's coming home to me, just take a shower first lol

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Hi All,

I work for a strip club in the city- Penthouse Executive Club- I do all the events and marketing here.

So, I've seen MANY parties come through here, as I plan the majority of the bachelor parties.

Me personally (and I'm female, in case you were wondering)- I don't give a crap if my fiance goes to strip clubs. They are completely harmless, in my opinion. So what if it's dry humping? I guess it just doesn't bother me, I'm totally immune to the whole thing.
I definitely do understand all you guys freaking out a little bit, but since I work here and see what's going on, it doesn't bother me. You have to understand, that the 'strippers' aren't working here to find a boyfriend. THEY WANT MONEY! So, they are giving lap dances to take your man's cash! So, let the guys blow their money to get a false sense of attraction. Believe me, the whole time these girls are giving lap dances, they are thinking about doing their laundry, the errands they have to run, finding a baby sitter, etc.
All I told my FH is to get out of NYC, I don't want him to be here. Oh, and I just said no physical contact- like, I don't care if they hire strippers/hookers/girl-on-girl shows--- just NO contact. I trust my FH, and if he enjoys that, then go for it! It'll be the last time he gets to party like that, for sure.

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Posted by nychaos99

Hi All,

I work for a strip club in the city- Penthouse Executive Club- I do all the events and marketing here.

So, I've seen MANY parties come through here, as I plan the majority of the bachelor parties.

Me personally (and I'm female, in case you were wondering)- I don't give a crap if my fiance goes to strip clubs. They are completely harmless, in my opinion. So what if it's dry humping? I guess it just doesn't bother me, I'm totally immune to the whole thing.
I definitely do understand all you guys freaking out a little bit, but since I work here and see what's going on, it doesn't bother me. You have to understand, that the 'strippers' aren't working here to find a boyfriend. THEY WANT MONEY! So, they are giving lap dances to take your man's cash! So, let the guys blow their money to get a false sense of attraction. Believe me, the whole time these girls are giving lap dances, they are thinking about doing their laundry, the errands they have to run, finding a baby sitter, etc.
All I told my FH is to get out of NYC, I don't want him to be here. Oh, and I just said no physical contact- like, I don't care if they hire strippers/hookers/girl-on-girl shows--- just NO contact. I trust my FH, and if he enjoys that, then go for it! It'll be the last time he gets to party like that, for sure.

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I told mine that I would go to the bank and get him some singles....Oh, I forgot to mention, both my 6 foot 4inch brothers will be there too!

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I don't think any woman on here thinks they're going to lose their FH to a stripper. What I believe is that they just don't want another woman touching their FH's. Just as their FH's wouldn't want another man rubbing her breasts or lower, etc, most women don't want another woman 'dry humping' on the guy's lap.

My FH wouldn't do it because he thinks it's cheating & disrespectful to me, and that's the type of respect for me that makes me love him.