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070306
That was the best day ever!!!!
Member since 7/05 1123 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht Club A++++++++
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
When I went looking at invites I was told who ever is paying goes on. Leave his parents off.
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Posted 6/18/06 11:02 PM 
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MrsStefan
We're MARRIED!!!
Member since 1/05 5990 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2006 10:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's A++++++
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
My parents are covering the hall and the band. FH and I are paying for the rest. I put... "Son of Mr. and Mrs. James XXX" on the invite. I think it is only fair. Although they arent paying, they are still his parents and I felt they needed to be recognized
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Posted 6/18/06 11:17 PM
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Deedlebug126
I love my little girl
Member since 4/05 1264 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/29/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Larkfield Manor A++++++++
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I am not putting FH's parents names on my invites. Only because they have no respect for me!
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Posted 6/18/06 11:23 PM
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PrincessRose
At least I'm entertaining. ;-)
Member since 9/03 4669 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/29/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
Posted by Goldi1021
My IL's didnt contribute but their names were on the invite. My mother's name was the first line and their names followed DH's. I felt that DH's parents deserved the acknowledgement and that people should know the family from which DH came from. The wedding was not just about who shelled out the money - it was the joining of two familes. Everyone knew my family paid for the wedding anyway.
Exactly.
Especially the last part, because my BIL actually MENTIONED THAT in his BM toast!!! 
In all seriousness, I completely understand where you're coming from - my ILs went on FOUR $$$$$$$$$ Vacations in the year after we got married, but while we were planning they cried abject poverty. Nevertheless, they gave my DH life, and I can at the very least thank them for that.
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Posted 6/18/06 11:39 PM
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espresso
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/05 1319 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/31/2007 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
done
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
Posted by Goldi1021
My IL's didnt contribute but their names were on the invite. My mother's name was the first line and their names followed DH's. I felt that DH's parents deserved the acknowledgement and that people should know the family from which DH came from. The wedding was not just about who shelled out the money - it was the joining of two familes. Everyone knew my family paid for the wedding anyway.
yes i TOTALLY agree. leave it in!
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Posted 6/19/06 12:16 AM
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diamondgrlie
Board Princess
Member since 2/04 10473 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club - A+
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
We were in this situation and did not mention the in laws in the invitation.
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Posted 6/19/06 10:41 AM
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ahall04
Baby, Baby, Baby!!!!!
Member since 2/06 1229 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/21/2006 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Metropolitan
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
We did not include FH's parents names on our invites. It was not important to FH, and since my parents are paying, we just kept it simple with my parents on top.
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Posted 6/19/06 10:49 AM
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jeanla4c
THREE YEARS already!
Member since 8/04 5242 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/9/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau La Mer
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I think either is completely fine---I have seen it both ways for people in similar sitations. My parents and us paid and we left it out.
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Posted 6/19/06 10:55 AM
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OctoberPrincess2006
~Hello~
Member since 12/05 1279 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/28/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonards- A+
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
Although my parents are only helping us pay for the wedding, we decided to put "together with our parents"... we did not want to use the traditional format, so we decided on this.
BUT in your situation, it's tricky. I would leave it how you have it with both parent names. It still makes the statement that your parents are paying, while honoring his parents who raised him.
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Posted 6/19/06 11:03 AM
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JCam695
Married my True Love
Member since 8/05 1479 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/24/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
DeSeversky - B+
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
My side is paying for the reception (THANK GOD!)
and his parents are paying for the RD and the brunch.
We did the "son of" line. I think it is really nice to acknowledge his parents too.
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Posted 6/19/06 11:28 AM
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Sunrise813
I had the time of my LIFE!!
Member since 10/05 1413 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/3/2000 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
DONE
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I say leave it in. Because as a guest receiving the invite and not knowing any of the back story as to who is paying, It would be very clear to me by the wording that your parents are paying for the wedding and that your FH’s mom is just being acknowledged because she is the Mother of the groom.
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Posted 6/19/06 12:13 PM
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tomsgirl07
We're married!!
Member since 4/06 1552 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/23/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I'd say leave it in. The way it's written makes it seem as if your parents are paying for the wedding, and you're only saying that FH is the son of his parents- it doesn't give any credit to them for actually paying for the wedding. And this way it won't rock the boat with the FIL's. We're going to do the same thing...
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Posted 6/19/06 12:28 PM
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ecarr11380
Wedding Newbie
Member since 6/06 9 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/17/2006
Wed. Location:
The Swan Club
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
My parents are paying for my wedding to and at first I wasn't going to put my FH's parents on it. But, I discussed it with my parents and my mother thought that it was the right thing to do. So, I think that you should dicuss the wording with your parents and if they say no then I wouldn't whether my FH likes it or not.
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Posted 6/19/06 1:07 PM
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stephanielyse
It's An Obsession
Member since 9/05 3059 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/1/2006 11:30 AM
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
My family paid for everything, but we worded ours similar to this:
Mr. and Mrs. "my parents"
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
me
to
FH
son of FH's mom and the late FH's dad
It is very clear from this wording that the bride's family is paying, but I think it is nice to honor your FH's parents (who will become your family). Ultimately it's up to you, but I think it's a nice thing to do.
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Posted 6/19/06 1:55 PM
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PKG06
Board Enthusiast
Member since 3/05 59 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/1/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
CLM
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I think the wording is perfect as well. It clearly indicates who is paying, and makes you look as if you were kind enough to include his parents on the invite even though they're not giving a dime.
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Posted 6/19/06 2:18 PM
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bridy06
An amazing wedding!!!!
Member since 1/06 1384 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/2/2001 3:00 PM
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I wrote his parent's names on our invite.
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Posted 6/19/06 2:31 PM
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smurray
My Twin....Half of My Life....
Member since 8/05 2578 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/31/2007 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Nassau County Museum of Art
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
Posted by Goldi1021
My IL's didnt contribute but their names were on the invite. My mother's name was the first line and their names followed DH's. I felt that DH's parents deserved the acknowledgement and that people should know the family from which DH came from. The wedding was not just about who shelled out the money - it was the joining of two familes. Everyone knew my family paid for the wedding anyway.
Leslie, This was so well put. I agree w/ everything stated above. I personally could care less who has paid for what, I feel they deserve to be put on the invites b/c they are his parents.
FH, and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, so should that mean neither of our parents should be on the invites b/c neither paid???
JMO
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Posted 6/19/06 3:28 PM
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ccraz
Board Fanatic
Member since 7/05 486 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/20/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Land's End
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
Unfortunately, I didn't think too much on this one since my parents and us as well, are paying..and FH didn't mind. I didn't put them on it, and as I read this long post I feel bad b/c I didn't do it to cause waves at all..I just hope they aren't feeling upset over it
I was under the impression that you use the names of those who are paying,but I guess like many other things, it's your own choice to make..decisions, decisions!
Message edited 6/19/2006 3:29:50 PM.
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Posted 6/19/06 3:29 PM
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Blu-ize
My House
Member since 8/04 8305 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/28/1998 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Meadow Jewish Center
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
why do we have to demonstrate who's paying?
Both of our parents helped us a bit but both were listed as equals on the invite.
It's a joining of families not a credit card receipt!
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Posted 6/19/06 3:37 PM
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reenielady
Happiness is Bliss
Member since 12/05 1117 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/28/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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Re: Brides... if only YOUR parents are paying... are you putting your FH's parents' names on invite?
I would leave the line in. The invitation clearly states your parents are inviting them. The mention of FH's parents is a sign of respect. She is still his mother and deserves recognintion. We all should keep in mind the wedding isn't about who is paying for what, but uniting with your fh in marriage. It is about family coming together not anything else. JMO
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Posted 6/19/06 3:53 PM
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