FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

She finds a way to make FH think I am bothering her...this time I have seriously had it. She and I had it out in a major way last summer and I thought we'd moved past it...clearly she has not. This morning I IMd her to please send her RSVP so that I would have her latest fling's name (she has had 4 boyfriends in 1.5 years...all of whom are totally serious and she'll probably marry if you catch my drift) so since we haven't even met the guy she just starting sleeping with, i thought it would be nice to know his name since he is slated to attend our wedding. i couldnt' have been more polite...i even told her that i needed the names for placecards...which is completely true. some names are mispelled on my original list and the only way to get the correct spellings is via the RSVPs....when we sent out invites, she was SINGLE BTW...she went behind my back and whined to FH about it.....well she got her wish, he's mad. i freakin' hate her!!!!!! she very well knows that she could've emailed, IMd or called me to let me know she'd already sent it....seriously, i can't stand her!!!!!!!!!!! She did this on purpose...she always does stuff like this and he always takes her side, no matter what!!! Ironically, they all know she's like the antichrist of sisters...so why he feels the need to defend the urchin is beyond me. She's too old to start trouble and then go running to her big bro. for protection....

Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

If you hold her down, i will kick her for you. Or if you want we can take my FSIL and your FSIL and lock them up together in a dirty basement in Afghanistan.



BTW I voted for you to rip out her hair!

Message edited 5/3/2006 3:44:36 PM.

Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

Just curious... what's the "demand she ask to not be a bridesmaid" option?

I can't even believe she is being this difficult! I'm so sorry you have to have her as your new family! What happens at holidays? Yikes!

Good luck... try not to fight with your FH about her... that's apparently what she wants. I think it would be best to just make HIM deal with his mom. Does HE realize she's a PITA?

And don't stress about this stuff... just write her name "and guest" and let her be embarrassed that her family doesn't know him. Not your problem!

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i would love to have her NOT be a bridesmaid anymore...she whined about the dress, when and where the wedding was, what i was wearing (no veil...) she's been as helpful as rising gas prices.

yesterday i was telling her that her dress was here and wondering when she was coming home so that we could have her "fitted" and reminded her to have shoes that were either "the ones" or similar to what she plans on wearing so that the hem is right...she went off on me about how she'll wait until july for shoes.

everyone knows she's evil....they just put up with it...i'm the only one who was ever brave enough to stand up to her....and to further irritate her, no one "took her side" when i did.

Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

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Posted by sarahradio5

Just curious... what's the "demand she ask to not be a bridesmaid" option?

I can't even believe she is being this difficult! I'm so sorry you have to have her as your new family! What happens at holidays? Yikes!

Good luck... try not to fight with your FH about her... that's apparently what she wants. I think it would be best to just make HIM deal with his mom. Does HE realize she's a PITA?

And don't stress about this stuff... just write her name "and guest" and let her be embarrassed that her family doesn't know him. Not your problem!

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Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

OMG, the whole time I was reading this I was thinking future MOTHER in law and was SO CONFUSED! I don't understand whay FH takes HER side, though I think you should just be sickeningly sweet to her - it will probably make her MORE mad but she won't be ABLE to complain about it I vote - shower her with fake compliments

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The best part about this??? I have somewhere to go and get this out so that I am not livid when I see FH (or subsequently FSIL when she's around) later. A year ago when I thought I just might "off" her, I did not fully understand the resources or therapuetic benefits of this site.

thanks for letting me vent AND for those who voted for snarky things.....

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Posted by Tracy&Brian

If you hold her down, i will kick her for you. Or if you want we can take my FSIL and your FSIL and lock them up together in a dirty basement in Afghanistan.


can we throw my SIL in there too!??!?!?!?!?!?

YOu eventually have to come to terms with the fact that you have to keep your feelings about her to yourself, because no matter what, she is still his sister, and he will defend her to the death, and then tell you what a PIA she is!!!

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Posted by curliegirl

YOu eventually have to come to terms with the fact that you have to keep your feelings about her to yourself, because no matter what, she is still his sister, and he will defend her to the death, and then tell you what a PIA she is!!!

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Message edited 5/3/2006 4:58:34 PM.

Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

I'd disinvite her as a bridesmaid. I wouldn't need that stress. Why cater to the one woman drama show. If she has to be in the bridal party trade her for one of his groomsman. This way she can hang with your FH all day ... By the end of your wedding he'll probably be asking you where he can hide the body.

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That's annoying...but not too bad, so I say just think the mean thoughts about her for now. She seems a bit immature. Try not to let it get you down.

Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

Wow, it seems like you really don't like her. Sorry about that. But maybe you should just put on a fake smile and keep the peace since it seems like you are the one who gets yelled at or in trouble for arguing. Your FSIL will always be your FH sister and there isn't anything you can do about that. Regardless of how you feel he will always love his sister no matter how evil or immature or whatever. You should just focus on keeping your relationship with your Fh great. Just bite your tongue and complain to us. Don't let anyone else see you sweat. That way you will never look like the bad guy.

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She really needs a good slapping ..

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Posted by Tracy&Brian

If you hold her down, i will kick her for you. Or if you want we can take my FSIL and your FSIL and lock them up together in a dirty basement in Afghanistan.



BTW I voted for you to rip out her hair!

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Posted by curliegirl

YOu eventually have to come to terms with the fact that you have to keep your feelings about her to yourself, because no matter what, she is still his sister, and he will defend her to the death, and then tell you what a PIA she is!!!

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Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

I think this comes down to jealousy. Was she really close with her brother? She is probably jealous of the time you now have with him. I felt that way (when I was 13) when my brother met his first gf. He was 17 and we were close. Within a year though she and I were really good friends and I cried when they broke up. I am assuming FSIL is over 13 though!!

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Posted by Tracy&Brian

If you hold her down, i will kick her for you. Or if you want we can take my FSIL and your FSIL and lock them up together in a dirty basement in Afghanistan.



BTW I voted for you to rip out her hair!

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Re: FSIL wants to ruin our life together...what should i do?? (vent/poll)

Take a picture of her ...tape it on a pillow and punch the hell out of it ..till you feel better . Do this everytime she annoys you. I also picked rip out her hair !!!!

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it is annoying, but i dont think it is that bad. as much as you want to 'rip her hair out and make a necklace out of it' i would just ignore it. she is doing this on purpose to get attention. perhaps she is jealous b/c she isnt getting married yet- is she close in age to your brother? is she at that age where she feels pressure to get married?