Invitation including deceased parent?

I'm looking for some advice!

My mother past away 7 years ago and my father just remarried this past fall. I don't know if it is proper to include her name on the invitations as well as my father's with his new wife?

Of course my mom will be mentioned at the church, on the programs and I will have pictures of her at the reception but I'm unsure about the invitation and how I would word it. I don't want to offend or upset anyone.

Please help! Thanks

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I am sorry for your loss. As for the advice, I think giving your mom recognition on the program, at the church, and with pictures is a perfect way to honor her. That being said, I do think that you should not mention her on the invitation. However, if it is really important to you I would do it. Im not sure where your opinion lies. I dont think these options would offend anyone though.

Best of luck

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You could use this wording:

Bride's Name
Daughter of Mr. ___ and the late ___
and
Groom's Name
Son of ____

My Emily Post book says that it's ok to include a deceased parent's name on the invitation as long as you don't word is so it sounds like the deceased parent is extending the invitation (you wouldn't want to say, Mr. ____ and the late Mrs. ___ request the honour of your presence....)

Hope that makes sense....

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Message edited 3/12/2006 2:38:11 PM.

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Posted by Boston&NY2006

You could use this wording:

Bride's Name
Daughter of Mr. ___ and the late ___
and
Groom's Name
Son of ____

My Emily Post book says that it's ok to include a deceased parent's name on the invitation as long as you don't word is so it sounds like the deceased parent is extending the invitation (you wouldn't want to say, Mr. ____ and the late Mrs. ___ request the honour of your presence....)

Hope that makes sense....

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FH's father just passed away recently... and we wanted to include his name on the invitations, so this is the wording:

The Late Mr. ___________
and Mrs. _____________

and
Mr. and Mrs. ______________

request the honour of your prayers and presence
at the marriage uniting their children

________ and _________

HTH

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So sorry for your loss. FH's mom passed away years ago and his dad is remarried. We are paying for the wedding but wanted to include parents names. Our invite reads:

Bride's Name
Daughter of dad and mom
and
Groom's Name
Son of dad
and the late mom
invite you to share our joy........

Not one person was offended and his mom's sisters were thrilled to see the invites with her name listed

Message edited 3/12/2006 10:45:51 PM.

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My dad is gone 6yrs. now and was very important to me. This is the way we are going to word the invites.

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My FH husband's father passed away and we are having on the invites son of Mrs. Catherine G and the late Dr. Joseph G

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My FH's dad passed on years ago and this helps me with words. Thanks for the thread R-n-R.

Re: Invitation including deceased parent?

I'm so sorry for your loss -- I'm in the same boat as you and that makes this a very bittersweet time, I know.

IMO, I would leave your mom off of the invites because I think its depressing to have "the late _____" on something that celebrates a happy occasion. But that's just my opinion -- I don't want you or anyone else to take offense to that.

I think there are many other ways to include your mom, and you've listed several which I think are great. Another idea (I'm doing this), cut a small piece of your mom's wedding dress off and sew it to the inside of yours.