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enjft
I am married!
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9/2/2007 3:00 PM
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Catholic Brides question
Are you able to say your own vows at the church?
Are you having full mass?
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Posted 3/1/06 10:26 PM 
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bride2b24
~Married and loving it!~
Member since 12/05 4401 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/28/2007 3:00 PM
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Leonards of Great Neck
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Re: Catholic Brides question
i believe you can........im not having a full mass....
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Posted 3/1/06 10:31 PM
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donegal419
I'm a Mrs. !!!
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Wedding Date:
2/17/2007 11:00 AM
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Stewart Manor Country Club
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Re: Catholic Brides question
From what I understand your vows are the Catholic Church standard vows. You cannot write your own. But, you might want to double check with your priest on this one, perhaps there are slight variations??? I know for a fact however, you cannot aid things like "I promise to always make your favorite dinner and walk the dog" type of things... LOL They also will guide you on the readings and the psalm....
Also, I am having the full Mass.... wouldn't have it any other way. A good friend is playing the organ, another is cantoring, FH's friend is a priest and is marrying us, my friend's son is our altar boy and friends of mine will be the eucharistic ministers. In fact, it really is the Mass that I am most looking forward to on my wedding day.
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Posted 3/1/06 10:31 PM
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werock0709
More in love than ever!!!
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5/6/2007 6:30 PM
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SandCastle
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Re: Catholic Brides question
No mass for us, just ceremony. As far as vows are concerned, we're doing the traditional vows, and then Darren will be saying his own vows to my son Lucas, as well as an exchange of rings. Our church allows this! I know it's going to be beautiful
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Posted 3/2/06 7:57 AM
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olivia30
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8/11/2008 11:00 AM
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Wolfgang Puck Downtown Disney
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Re: Catholic Brides question
Posted by enjft
Are you able to say your own vows at the church?
Are you having full mass?
I am Catholic so I have many friends who have been married in church. A full mass takes about 45 mins to 1 hr. No mass is like 20-30mins. I think both bride and groom have to be catholic for a full mass (??). Some said their own vows or stayed with the traditional vows. My sister went to pre-cana and she got a book with different variations on the traditional vows, but her DH wanted to write his own. I have had friends who were not allowed to change anything at all, so it depends on the church you attend. My pastor is pretty flexible.
Hope that helps
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Posted 3/2/06 9:02 AM
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Love4Eva
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Wedding Date:
6/23/2007 2:00 PM
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Watermill Caterers
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Re: Catholic Brides question
My friend recently got married .. . and her church mader her say the traditional vows, and then after that - they had their own. I dont know if im doing that
I will be having a full mass.
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Posted 3/2/06 9:15 AM
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sugarkube4
2 Crazy Peas in a Pod
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Wedding Date:
4/29/2007 4:00 PM
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Westbury Manor
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Re: Catholic Brides question
I am not having a full mass, but I am sure it wouldn't be a problem to say our own vows..
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Posted 3/2/06 9:20 AM
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chellynyc
WE'RE FINALLY MARRIED!!!!!!!!!
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Wedding Date:
11/3/2007 2:30 PM
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Floral Terrace
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Re: Catholic Brides question
I'm having a full mass and I'm thinking you would have to stick w/the traditional Catholic vows.
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Posted 3/2/06 9:42 AM
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Caligirl
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Wedding Date:
7/30/2006 3:00 PM
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Nassau County
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Re: Catholic Brides question
I'm not sure about the vow thing, but I'm not; I wouldn't be able to get it out, I'm way too emotional
At first we were going to have just a ceremony, but changed it to a full mass
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Posted 3/2/06 9:48 AM
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BklynItaliana
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6/16/2007 1:00 PM
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Re: Catholic Brides question
i asked our priest and they said we can't change the vows they are the standard.. he did say that we could add soemthing after we say the traditional vows.
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Posted 3/2/06 10:14 AM
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thelilacone
It's almost here!!
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Wedding Date:
7/7/2007 1:30 PM
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Leonards of Great Neck
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Re: Catholic Brides question
I think I would be too nervous to try and say my own vows, and FH agrees with me, So we're going to stick with traditional vows. We're also going to have a full mass.
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Posted 3/2/06 11:49 AM
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mtdr1106
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11/11/2006 12:00 AM
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leonards - A++
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Re: Catholic Brides question
i dont think you can say your own vows in the catholic church. i am having a full mass - but you can just have the ceremony if you like.
call your church and ask - they will be able to tell you.
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Posted 3/2/06 12:44 PM
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ksl268
Fall is here!
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11/23/2007 4:00 PM
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North Ritz Club
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Re: Catholic Brides question
I'm having a full mass and taking traditional vows. I think there are 2 sets of traditional vows to choose from.
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Posted 3/2/06 12:50 PM
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TreAnt425
Always and Forever
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4/27/2007 3:00 PM
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East Wind - Estate - A+
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Re: Catholic Brides question
My FH is not Catholic - but we will be having a full mass and saying the standard vows. I would be too nervous to have to say my own.
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Posted 3/2/06 2:16 PM
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Unapearla
I love being married
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Wedding Date:
7/1/2007 3:30 PM
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Villa Lombardi's - A+
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Re: Catholic Brides question
We are saying the traditional vows. We are not having a full mass, just a ceremony.
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Posted 3/2/06 2:18 PM
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MrsMichel07
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5/12/2007 12:00 PM
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A place where we will Celebrate Our Love.
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Re: Catholic Brides question
Posted by Caligirl
I'm not sure about the vow thing, but I'm not; I wouldn't be able to get it out, I'm way too emotional
At first we were going to have just a ceremony, but changed it to a full mass
Just kidding Daphny.... I can't wait to see u....
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Posted 3/2/06 10:14 PM
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Nina
I did.
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Wedding Date:
9/3/2007 2:00 PM
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Russo's on the Bay
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Re: Catholic Brides question
Traditional vow...we are not that creative anyways.
And yup..you guessed it , full mass.....as I've said before and I'll say again...
Kneel, Sit, Kneel, Sit, Stand, Kneel, Sit, Kneel, Stand and then get drunk
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Posted 3/2/06 10:16 PM
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Danacm80
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6/29/2007 3:30 PM
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The Carltun
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Re: Catholic Brides question
You can write your own vows... I just had my last night of pre cana last night and we went over that... unless it differs from church to church. We're using the standard vows.. i'll be way too nervous to deal with that haha... We're not having a full mass... just the wedding ceremony.
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Posted 3/2/06 10:19 PM
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JazzyT
Party Like a Rock Star!!
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5/27/2007 3:00 PM
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El Caribe
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Re: Catholic Brides question
The vows don't vary much from the traditional vows...I think they took out obey but basically you have to say their vows...Sometimes if you have a good relationship with your priest they will let you say your own. AS far as a full mass I'm not having one being that FH is not Catholic but the only aspect missing form a full mass and the cermony is the communion.... Everything else is done its like 45 minutes.
Both me and FH felt that people are there to see us get married not really to attend a church service so we wanted it this way anyway.
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Posted 3/2/06 10:21 PM
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JennyAl
My tropical wedding!!!!!
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Wedding Date:
5/6/2007 6:30 PM
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Crescent Beach Club
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Re: Catholic Brides question
we're not having a full mass b/c its on a sunday....but we would like to say our own vows after the traditional.....
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Posted 3/2/06 11:18 PM
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olivia30
Lurkers Need Love Too!
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8/11/2008 11:00 AM
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Wolfgang Puck Downtown Disney
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Re: Catholic Brides question
Posted by JennyAl
we're not having a full mass b/c its on a sunday....but we would like to say our own vows after the traditional.....
If you want a mass on Sunday, talk to your pastor. It can be done with a special dispensation if he is willing to get one. My sister had a mass on a Sunday.
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Posted 3/3/06 9:26 AM
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tracy2246
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11/3/2006 4:00 PM
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Re: Catholic Brides question
You can not write your own vows in most churches...they want the standard said.
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Posted 3/3/06 9:27 AM
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Nina
I did.
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Wedding Date:
9/3/2007 2:00 PM
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Russo's on the Bay
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Re: Catholic Brides question
Looks like we are getting mixed reviews on whether you can or can't do your own vows in the church. I'm wondering if it goes on a church by church or priest by priest standard?
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Posted 3/3/06 10:18 AM
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leshellem
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Wedding Date:
7/3/2007 2:00 PM
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The Swan Club
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Re: Catholic Brides question
If you go to the Diocese of Rockville Centre (drvc.org), it will give you all the information needed if you are getting married in a catholic church on long island. Stated in the diocese home page states that you must use their own vows, but that you may use your own vows after using theirs.
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Posted 3/3/06 11:41 AM
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StreetDoc6531
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9/2/2006 5:00 PM
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Re: Catholic Brides question
Posted by donegal419
From what I understand your vows are the Catholic Church standard vows. You cannot write your own.
It depends on the Church and also on the Priest. In Pre-Cana that actually give you a book that has different vows to choose from that vary from standard vows.
HTH
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Posted 3/3/06 11:46 AM
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