the idea of leaving home

i just wanted to see if any of you girls are in the same boat as me. i am really excited about marrying the love of my life and i can't wait to walk down the aisle and start my life with him, but lately i've been feeling really sad and emotional when i think of the idea of leaving home. it's starting to hit me all at once just how much i'm gonna miss my parents and my sister. yesterday i was on the bus, listening to my ipod on the way home from work and tearing up because i was thinking that this xmas will be the last time i'll wake up with my sister and run down the stairs with her to open gifts as a family. i know i probably sound silly but i can just imagine now how emotional i'm gonna be the day my dad walks me down the aisle and dances with me. i really never thought it would be this hard on me to leave home - i just don't wanna be sad for the next year and a half

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I don't think you are being silly at all. I would probably feel the same way as you but my parents own a 2 family home and we will be living in the apartment above theirs for a few years. I'll let you know how I feel when we buy our house.

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awww - dont be sad Santina!! For me its the total opposite, bc my sister and brother are older than me - and its just me and my parents in my house ... and plus me and Fh have been together for 4.5 yrs - so it's been a while since my parents have been "expecting it" ( i kno you'll understand bc your italian)

But - your not gonna move to another state, and your still gonna see them, and if anything you might grow closer to your parents bc you wont see them everyday(that happened to my sister). im sure you will see them often too (my brother and sis eat over at least once a week), so it wont be that bad!! and - as far as your sister goes, im sure she will visit you alot, and let you know of all the things going on in her life, and in your house.

Dont be sad, its a new chapter in your life. I'm sure it will take getting used to, but you'll be fine!!

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Not silly at all!! I go through different phases. Sometimes I get upset and scared, but I know that even though I am sad I won't be with my family, I will be starting my own family to do all the silly little traditions with. I too wake up with my sister on christmas morning bright and early and run to look at our gifts! But just think how much fun it will be to do this with FH! You can start your own traditions like hiding your gifts so that Christmas morning you have to go and find them or something fun like that!! It is upsetting, because you are leaving your known world behind, but believe me you won't be sad every day from now until the day you get married! You will go through phases. At least that is what I am experiencing! Sometime I am sad and sometime I am not. But no matter how sad I am I am still happy. It is a very weird feeling of emotions. And just think that you can always visit!! It might help!

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I know exactly how you feel. I go thru phases too where I'm really sad about moving out. I'm moving in w/ FH this May and while I'm really excited to start my life w/ him I'm also sad to leave my parents. But I think it's a normal feeling. Oh and FH already knows that we are sleeping over my parent's house on Christmas eve so we are there Christmas morning -- at least until we have kiddies of our own.

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I know how you feel! I was thinking about this xmas being the last time i'll be with my family on xmas morning and I won't be seeing them everyday anymore, as I do know, when I move out. I'm a little sad about leaving home but really excited about starting my new life with FH.

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I think it's totally normally to feel this way! Especially if you're close with your family. I think it's a transitional time in our lives so it's bound to be emotional. I know I'll be sad, but what will make me happy is the fact that I'm starting my own family.

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I can understand the nostalgia of it all.. it's a big big transition.. but it's a good transition.. I moved out 3 years ago on my own and FH and I live together now.. AND we are moving again.. There's an adjustment period FOR SURE but it's nice coming home to someone and having dinner together and snuggling late and night.. it's awesome!!!

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thanks for all your support girls and kind words This is probably a phase that I'll go thru periodically throughout this entire process. it's just hard leaving behind the only world you've known for so many years, no matter how prepared i thought i was i never imagined feeling like this so soon. but u girls are right, most likely i'll become even more close to my family and sister now that i won't live with them anymore and i'll be living very close by so whenever i feel nostalgic or just need a lil piece of home i know the door will always be open for me. thanks again for your advice

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you are not alone!!! i left home when i was 17 and was gone for 5 yrs. but i think returned back when i was 22 after a lot of soul searching and unnecessary partying. now i've been living with my parents for nearly the past 4 yrs. i love them and sometimes it can be tough being at home -- but in the end i do like having my mom & dad around. even just hanging with them on a wed. night watching t.v. with the dog makes me smile. and the idea that in about a year, when FH and i move in together and start our life, that i will have to adjust to that.

when kid's leave home--the adults have the 'empty nest' syndrome...but i think that it works the other way too! we have our own version of it, being away from them. a part of me is scared of the idea that i'm no longer JUST gonna be their daughter, but instead i'll be someone's WIFE, and have my own home. but at the same time i know i can come and visit, and now it's our turn to start our own traditions, stories, families, get togethers, etc.

this feeling will take some time to get used to--but try to remember that you may be losing one part of your life--you are gaining sooo much more!!

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I moved out this past June, and this would have been my first Christmas not waking up home....but my siblings and I decided to do it one last time...we all slept home, stayed up for hours talking, had a big slumber party, and woke up christmas morning in my mom's house!! it was so much fun and now I am so ready to wake up christmas morning next to my hunny!!

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Dont be sad. Ive already moved away from home and we arent even married yet. It was tough leaving all my friends and all my family-but in the end it makes you a stronger person and it makes your relationship stronger b/c you have to communicate with each other. FH will be your strength in the end. FH keeps me sane, and if I wasnt with him I probably would still be hitch-hiking back to NY to get the Heck out of here.

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I totally understand where youre coming from- I feel the same way- Ill miss being with my sister and my room, my parents and my cats !! It will def take some time getting used to.

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def not silly! ive been away from home for a while now but i did feel very empty when i left for college

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I've heard of other people feeling this way. I've lived away from home for awhile, in college, part of law school and now I live with fh. It was a little tough at first I mean my first night in the house I lived in last year, I was weepy but I got over it and enjoyed the benefits of living on my own and now the benefits of living with fh.

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I think about it sometimes

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i feel the same way as u do. sometimes i just sit around and i start thinking and i start to tear up. my family and i are soooooooo incredibly close. i won;t see them everyday anymore, i won't sit and watch movies with my sister and talk everyday anymore. i know its hard, but i think about my future too, and i also want to start a family, and the only way to do it is by getting married and leaving home. But i feel you, everything that u are saying, i'm in the same boat,

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I was sad when I left my own apartment, a little different, because when I left home, there was no one there but me & mommy. I think I was sad when I left my apartment because it was a place I called my own. Living with my FI now, IS indeed different, but now I couldn't imagine being alone ever again.