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lmavolio
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Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
My church fee is $1000!! That seems really high to me. Of all places I need to fork over money, this is at least the one that I least mind paying for, but in anyone's experience who is getting married in a church, are they flexible on the pricing??? Thanks for your help 
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Posted 2/18/06 4:39 PM 
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sr081906
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
I never heard of fee negotiations for a church. I thought the fee was fixed.
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Posted 2/18/06 4:42 PM
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lmavolio
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
I think "negotiate" was a poor choice of wording on my part - I guess I mean are they flexible if you ask them about it??
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Posted 2/18/06 4:43 PM
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MrsMichel07
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
IMO... 1K is alot of money.
I almost paid 1K plus for a church FH and I loved but then decided not to b/c of distance from RH.
(We are doing the RH now for 500.... which eith decorations and officiant fee will still be are 1k anyway.
1K+ was for memebers and
2K+ was for non- memebers
This fee had included alot but I still felt it was really high- churches should NOT be charging that much money!!!!!
JMHO
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Posted 2/18/06 4:52 PM
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BklynItaliana
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6/16/2007 1:00 PM
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
mine is 1K also i didn't think to negotiate.. but what would you negotiate.. our church practicaly didn't even come w/ anything
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Posted 2/18/06 5:14 PM
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Calimali
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
Posted by lmavolio
My church fee is $1000!! That seems really high to me. Of all places I need to fork over money, this is at least the one that I least mind paying for, but in anyone's experience who is getting married in a church, are they flexible on the pricing??? Thanks for your help
I know how you feel. . . my church fee is 700, plus 250 for pre cana! It's insane. I mentioned something about it being a lot to the women incharge of pre cana and she replied "Well how much are you paying for the rest of your wedding" " I bet if you considered that, it wouldnt look like a lot" From that comment, I didnt think they would be flexible on the price. It is a very steep price though, espeically since I have been a member of th parish since I was 5 years old!
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Posted 2/18/06 5:15 PM
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ML110
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
that does seem like alot... we paid $1200 for our church- but the church we used was a community non demoninational chapel... they do several weddings a day, and the fee included a coordinator chick to take care of things that day and before, the organist, and 3 or 4 big flower arrangements for the alter.... it was an adorable church, and we weren't going nuts with the rest of the wedding, so we fit it into our budget.... but i don't think the price of the church is negotiable or flexible.... like someone else posted, when you think about what your paying for the rest of the wedding its not bad, and it IS the most important part....
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Posted 2/18/06 5:22 PM
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bride2b24
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7/28/2007 3:00 PM
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
holy sh@$#@ wow .... i thought you just gave a donation!
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Posted 2/18/06 5:55 PM
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Junebride06
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
It is technically a donation.....they give you a recommended fee, but you "technically" don't have to pay it (if you are a member of the parish). BUT, wouldn't you feel kinda funny paying so much for all of your other wedding stuff and then saying that you can't afford the church fee??? My point is, if it's your parish and you really don't have the money, they will still marry you anyway.
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Posted 2/18/06 6:13 PM
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xcalystax
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11/17/2006 2:00 PM
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
We were asked for $500 which we thought was alot...I had no idea some churches request 2K!!!
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Posted 2/18/06 6:20 PM
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dbleplay17
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
OMG
my church fee is 625 and precana is 30 bucks
I thought 625 was high but Damn!
I would feel funny asking my church to bend on the price. But it would hurt to ask since it is so high
but how would you go about asking that?!
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Posted 2/18/06 7:16 PM
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Shorty McBride
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
Mine is $750, including a singer, an organist, and pre-cana.
$1k is a lot, imo- If I was in your situation, I think I'd call the parish center "anonymously", and ask if they're flexible on the fee. It's worth a shot!
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Posted 2/18/06 7:31 PM
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jnrrb
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
You can write your church off on your taxes, Whatever amount it is. 
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Posted 2/18/06 8:39 PM
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MJDoc12
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
Posted by jnrrb
You can write your church off on your taxes, Whatever amount it is.
just an FYI--you can only do this if you ITEMIZE you deductions. if you use a standard deduction then church donations don't mean anything.
i get many many clients that come to my office showing me that they donated like $3000 to church all year, and they don't qualify for a itemized deductions, and are upset that they can't use that amount---since no one at their church mentions this fact to them.
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Posted 2/18/06 8:43 PM
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ABGS06
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
Are you or your family members of the church? Do you give offerings to the church?
The reason why I am asking is because my church gave us a deal because my family goes to mass practically every Sunday and gives an offering at collection time.
I am getting married in the same church that I was baptized in. My family have been members for at least 26 years. When I met with the priest for the first time he told me that since my family gives to the church he took $150 off the price.
This is something that you can mention to the church. But I definitely think that $1,000 is a lot of money.
I hope this helps.
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Posted 2/18/06 10:05 PM
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cberry109
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
DAMN I am so glad I am not getting married at the church but the priest is still charging us $300 just to marry us. We have the room reserved for the ceremony at the RH for only a half hour and they are charging us $400 just for the room. This is just crazy! I am going to try and "negotiate" with the priest because $300 is a lot for a 15 minute ceremony
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Posted 6/26/08 6:50 PM
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Future_Farrell
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
Posted by cberry109
DAMN I am so glad I am not getting married at the church but the priest is still charging us $300 just to marry us. We have the room reserved for the ceremony at the RH for only a half hour and they are charging us $400 just for the room. This is just crazy! I am going to try and "negotiate" with the priest because $300 is a lot for a 15 minute ceremony
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Posted 6/26/08 8:09 PM
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FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
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Posted by cberry109
DAMN I am so glad I am not getting married at the church but the priest is still charging us $300 just to marry us. We have the room reserved for the ceremony at the RH for only a half hour and they are charging us $400 just for the room. This is just crazy! I am going to try and "negotiate" with the priest because $300 is a lot for a 15 minute ceremony
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shes a newbie... i think we all made this mistake... lets cut em some slack
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Posted 6/26/08 8:26 PM
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littlepixie12
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7/3/2009 6:30 PM
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Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
usually non flexible
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Posted 6/26/08 9:29 PM
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cberry109
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11/16/2008 6:00 PM
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
Thanks...i didnt even see the post date. i was just searching for info on this stuff. This wedding is driving me nuts! I wish we would elope instead but what's done is done....
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Posted 6/27/08 1:17 PM
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LatinaVix
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7/18/2009 7:00 PM
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Re: Weird Question, but can you negotiate your church fee?
My church doesn't charge a fee to members. All we are paying is $200 for the organist.. Non members of the church only pay $500.
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Posted 6/27/08 1:23 PM
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