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kam0813
FH <3's my punk sensibilities
Member since 7/05 4867 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2010 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor<3<3<3
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Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
After doing a lot of thinking and soul searching I realized that this wedding is turning into this thing that I never envisioned for myself. I wanted small and intimate on a beach with just our families and close friends but instead it turned into this 250 person monster. I'm not happy and my parents have given me a lot of problems and stress and grief because of this wedding. They've said a lot of things to me that are valid and make sense and it made me re-think my priorities and what i really wanted for myself, and I realized that this big wedding was never what I wanted. I was only doing it to please FH's parents (both their daughters never got married and probably never will) and everyone who kept asking us when we were having a wedding.
So finally I took FH aside and told him everything I just wrote and he understood and agreed with me. He only wanted a traditional wedding because that was the only kind of wedding he's ever been exposed too, but once he knew how I was really feeling he and I came to an agreement, we'd try to get our deposits back and if we could...we'd plan to have our wedding at Sandal's. If we can't get our deposits back well..we'd keep the wedding and everything exactly the same but cut down the guest list significantly.
I just wanted to let you ladies, my friends, know what's been going on and let you know why I haven't really responded as much to posts and what not. And I wanted to thank you all for your undying support and encouragement.
If anyone wants to book Fox Hollow for Feb. 9th, 2007 let me know! Maybe we can go there together and work something out with the people there so that way I can get my deposit back.
Also if anyone wants to use my vendors: Flower Michele, Royalty, Twelfth Night Photography, Wild Rose Videography, High Voltage. Also let me know, maybe, if I have difficulty getting my deposits back and you're interested in booking them they'll be willing to refund knowing you'll take the date.
Thanks everyone for listening while I vented. 
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Posted 2/4/06 10:01 PM 
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PaddysGirl15
CIA
Member since 10/05 3532 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/17/2007 8:00 AM
Wed. Location:
210 invited: 175?!?Y 35N
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
aw Kam- I wish I could help you- but it is good that you know what you guys want- and I am so glad that your FH and you are on the same page!!!
Good Luck!!!
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Posted 2/4/06 10:03 PM
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Bobbysgirl
I am a wife!
Member since 10/05 1329 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/27/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
WOW Kam... your wedding should be everything that you want. I wish you nothing but the best!
GOOD LUCK and keep posting!
WE LUV YA!
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Posted 2/4/06 10:07 PM
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kam0813
FH <3's my punk sensibilities
Member since 7/05 4867 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2010 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor<3<3<3
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Posted by Bobbysgirl
WOW Kam... your wedding should be everything that you want. I wish you nothing but the best!
GOOD LUCK and keep posting!
WE LUV YA!
i'll never stop posting!!! we're not even sure we're going to be able to get our deposits back...if we can't then it'll be wedding as usual and nothing will change...but if we can then hello jamaica!! 
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Posted 2/4/06 10:14 PM
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kam0813
FH <3's my punk sensibilities
Member since 7/05 4867 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2010 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor<3<3<3
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Posted by PaddysGirl15
aw Kam- I wish I could help you- but it is good that you know what you guys want- and I am so glad that your FH and you are on the same page!!!
Good Luck!!!
hehe thanks girlie!!
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Posted 2/4/06 10:14 PM
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prinses777
Married Woman!!!!
Member since 7/05 3431 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/7/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
deSeversky Mansion- A++
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
I am so happy that you and your FH talked and you are toing to try to do things the way YOU and your FH wants to...
Your FH and your parents have to realize that this is the start of a new beginning for you two and you need to do things the way you want. You are not their baby anymore and you can think for your own... I know its tough for them to realize but if you just sit down and talk to them I am sure they will won't care after they hear what you really want. They just want you guys to be happy.
Good Luck!
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Posted 2/4/06 10:18 PM
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jnrrb
1 1/2 months to go :-)
Member since 1/06 1054 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/18/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Good for you. I am sorry you went to all of the trouble booking all of these vendors.
Good luck
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Posted 2/4/06 10:20 PM
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kris15198
It's An Obsession
Member since 1/05 3263 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/3/2010 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Good luck with everything. Hopefully you can get the deposits back and have the wedding you want. I don't think is should be that bad since it's still early.
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Posted 2/4/06 10:41 PM
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soon2bmrsdunn
I love my husband!!!
Member since 11/05 6958 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/8/2007 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's - A+
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
I am glad that you were able to tslk to FH about how you were feeling. Which is the way it should be. I hope you are able to get all of your deposits back and that you have the wedding of YOUR dreams!!!! Good luck to you.
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Posted 2/4/06 10:47 PM
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wematched
4 months till "I do!"
Member since 10/05 2100 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/10/2007 7:45 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Good for you!!!
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Posted 2/4/06 11:00 PM
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BklynItaliana
I <3 BRIAN
Member since 11/05 2352 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/16/2007 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
BEAUTIFUL
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
omg.. i hope everythingthing works the way you want it to.. and i wish you and FH nothing but happiness...
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Posted 2/5/06 12:27 AM
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Nina
I did.
Member since 11/05 11626 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/3/2007 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on the Bay
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Oh Kamilley Poo!! I am here for you and support you 100%.......
I kind of know what you're going through...sometimes I rethink how much money is going into this and how out of hand it is getting....and I start to think...our initial idea of a small wedding in Puerto Rico was not all that bad of an idea. I doubt sometimes as well...but then I come on this website and I know I'm doing the right thing and what I really want..
What is meant to be is already laid out and predestined for you sweetie.....it will all work itself out and you will be happy in the end..
Its all about you and FH sweetie
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Posted 2/5/06 12:41 AM
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charliesbride
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/05 1388 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/21/2007 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Estate at East Wind
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
I am glad your FH understood and agreed with all your feelings!!! I hope you get your deposits back and you are able to have the wedding you always dreamed...but i know whether its on the beach or at fox hollow it will be a beautiful wedding!
good luck
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Posted 2/5/06 12:48 AM
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PegaLega
Lets Get This!!!!!
Member since 6/05 29825 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/25/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Glad that you guys talked about it-it can get ugly when people push their opinions on you. I hope you are able to get your deposits back and have your wedding the way you want it!
Good Luck!
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Posted 2/5/06 1:39 AM
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espresso
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/05 1319 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/31/2007 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
done
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
good luck! I think everything you said makes a lot of sense! i hope the deposit thing works out for you. either way though im sure it'll turn out great!
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Posted 2/5/06 1:56 AM
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enjft
I am married!
Member since 7/05 8806 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/2/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Ah Kammie! You guys are so much in love that things will work out for the best. Make sure you have the wedding that u always dreamed of since this is your BIG day.
I am here if you need me
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Posted 2/5/06 8:07 AM
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werock0709
More in love than ever!!!
Member since 12/05 8533 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/6/2007 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
SandCastle
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
First of all, it's great that you guys have that open line of communication, no matter what the situation. I commend you both on that!! And as far as your wedding, it will work out the way it was meant to be. So long as you have your soulmate by your side, the rest of your worries will be carried away. Good Luck Kam.
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Posted 2/5/06 9:34 AM
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Lissy3077
1 year already!!!
Member since 9/05 6260 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/30/2007 2:45 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
i'm really happy that you and your FH came to an agreement, and it is what u both want. The best of luck to both of you...
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Posted 2/5/06 9:43 AM
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Ser29
Joe's girl
Member since 1/05 1513 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/14/2007 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
good luck to you and from being on the board i've seen some people try to sell their deposits.. like the next couple can pay you for the deposit working through the company as well.. good luck whatever you decided to do
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Posted 2/5/06 9:51 AM
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Athee07
One year down a lifetime to go
Member since 5/05 7982 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/14/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Kamille, Im happy that you took the initiative and decided to do what YOU want to do. You are a type of person to try and make everyone happy and sometimes you forget about yourself (ahem BM dresses! )
Im proud of you and like I told you before whatever the outcome is- its whats meant to be! Either way you will be a gorgeous skinny @ss bride, and your wedding will fabulous! Whatever decision you two make you know im here for support!!!
BTW How was Thomas Knoell?! 
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Posted 2/5/06 10:45 AM
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snowcat
Beautiful St. John!
Member since 1/06 1807 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/1/2007 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked!!!
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Good luck!
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Posted 2/5/06 10:52 AM
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marymoon
Someday Bride
Member since 2/04 12229 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/31/2013 7:30 PM
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Best of luck sweetheart! Whether you end up having it at FH or at Sandals, you can STILL make it your own, no matter what!
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Posted 2/5/06 11:29 AM
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bride2b24
~Married and loving it!~
Member since 12/05 4402 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/28/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonards of Great Neck
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
its so crazy how getting caught in the wedding planning can take over what you really want.....its really great that you realized that while it was soon enough....best of luck !
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Posted 2/5/06 11:56 AM
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kam0813
FH <3's my punk sensibilities
Member since 7/05 4867 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2010 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor<3<3<3
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Posted by Athee07
Kamille, Im happy that you took the initiative and decided to do what YOU want to do. You are a type of person to try and make everyone happy and sometimes you forget about yourself (ahem BM dresses! )
Im proud of you and like I told you before whatever the outcome is- its whats meant to be! Either way you will be a gorgeous skinny @ss bride, and your wedding will fabulous! Whatever decision you two make you know im here for support!!!
BTW How was Thomas Knoell?!
First off, thanks to all you girls for your support I really appreciate the words of encouragement. We're probably going to sit down with his parents tomorrow (since today is Super Bowl) and have a serious talk. I'm nervous but I know no matter what as long as I stay true to what I really want it'll all be ok. My mom is happy that we're thinking about doing this (she wanted us to have a tiny wedding and save our money for a nice apartment and our move to california). My mom took some of our contracts to have her lawyer bosses look at to see if there's anyway we could get a full refund (or at least most of our money back) since we're cancelling with so much time left. I just wish Nassau county had that same cancellation law that Suffolk county has, then I wouldn't have to worry about having to get mean. I'll keep you all updated on everything that happens with the hall and vendor's. If they won't refund my money than I'm definitely going to try and sell our deposits and stuff. Here's the website for where I would love to have the wedding: Royal Plantation
Oh Athena...Thomas Knoell was AMAZING!!!!!!!..I found a headpiece I LOVE and ADORE!!!!!!!...I can't wait to go back and put the deposit down on it. I actually met with Thomas Knoell and he's the nicest coolest guy! Didn't pressure me at all, the prices for the ones I liked were about the same and the price of the one I bought from David's Bridal. The store is so cute and feels so fancy, it was an awesome experience. You should come with me when I go to put the deposit down!
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Posted 2/5/06 1:00 PM
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JazzyT
Party Like a Rock Star!!
Member since 11/05 7204 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/27/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
El Caribe
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Re: Well ladies..FH and I have done some serious talking..
Aww Kam I will miss you, but good luck and I'm happy you guys got your focus back.
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