Need to vent!!!!Sorry so long!!!

I hate this feeling that I have right now. You know when you just put so much effort and excitement towards your wedding and you've had this picture of what it's going to be like for so long....Your families and friends there sharing in one of your most important days. This day is totally about me and FI, but to be honest, I want all our family and friends there so that they can have an absolutely amazing time. It would make me so happy to know that people came to my wedding and had the time of their lives, ya know.

So, we're here in GA, we're getting married in NY, where I'm from and FI's from Boston. So, I've got people making trips from ALL OVER to be at our wedding...GA, MI, IL, VA, MA, etc. But it makes me so upset to know that FI's own family members in MA can't take a weekend and come to NY to see their family member get married. Believe me, I know I'm asking alot. First of all, it's not cheap!!! Hotel, gift, etc. But the way I look at it, this is family. What is more important than that? I guess it just hurts my feelings. There is a reason for everything though, right? It will be a great day, and the people that matter most to us will be there (atleast most of them will). I feel guilty for feeling selfish like this, but I just can't help it.

My last vent...I PROMISE! One of my BM's...she has been one of my best friends for years. She lives here in GA with me. We've been through so much together. But recently, I feel like she couldn't give two sh*ts about the wedding. I haven't asked her to do nearly anything. In the beginning, I asked her help with the photo cube and candles and stuff, but after talking about it for a while she never really seemed interested to help, nor did she offer. Every conversation we have, I feel like we have nothing to talk about. It's just so odd, and I don't know how, or even if I should, say anything to her?! I told her a week before my 1st fitting about it. She said she would come. I called her the night before to remind her and left a message. I call her the day of, she's not coming b/c she "supposedly" promised her boyfriends sister that she would help her. Are you kidding me? Found out a few days later when we met for lunch that she was CLEANING HER HOUSE! WHAT???? So you couldn't go an hour later to help her, and come to my one and only 1st dress fitting. I was so hurt, and I still am, even after she apologized.

I guess what it comes down to, is that I have no family here in GA, other than FI. My friends are my family!!!! I just feel alone and sad! It's just "one of those days". We all have them I guess. Today is my day.

OK. I have vented enough, and you guys probably haven't even made it down to the end of this post b/c it is so long. So, I apologize for this being so long winded, but I just needed to get it out. Thanks for listening. I appreciate it!

Re: Need to vent!!!!Sorry so long!!!

I know what you're going through! I have no family on LI and I'm expecting my entire family to come to me since I have travelled to them on their big days. There will be ups and downs, but all that matters is that you have your FH, both parents and siblings. Friends and family will be there for support, but I've found that the immediate family means much more! You will always have the support of LIW Brides!

Re: Need to vent!!!!Sorry so long!!!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've recently learned the hard way that family and friends, no matter what the occasion, can let you down. The best thing I can tell you is that on your wedding day, the people that will be there will be the people that matter most to you and who truly care about you and FI. The ones who choose to miss is are not even worth a second thought. It's hard but I promise it will get better.