| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: [1] 2 |
aliwnec10
I love my husband!
Member since 9/05 2164 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/7/2006 5:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Gurneys Inn in Montauk
|
should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Okay ladies... i have another question for you all. 
If you cannot attend a wedding shower, should you still send a gift?
I always have, but a few of my friends from college weren't aware of this 'rule.' They thought you only had to get a gift if you were going. Is this true?
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:15 AM 
|
| |
|
werock0709
More in love than ever!!!
Member since 12/05 8532 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/6/2007 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
SandCastle
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:17 AM
|
| |
|
dianadrw
We're homeowners!
Member since 9/05 3583 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/27/2007 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The North Ritz Club
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by werock0709
I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.
Ditto for me.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:20 AM
|
| |
|
SPITSBRIDE
My Forever
Member since 1/05 4212 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/26/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace A+++++
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Yes, definitely.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:21 AM
|
| |
|
pupidda122505
I'M MARRIED! SPM 7-7-07
Member since 12/05 3598 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/7/2007 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
booked!
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by dianadrw
Posted by werock0709
I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.
Ditto for me.
I agree. It's the same thing as sending a gift even if u can't make the wedding. It might be a smaller gift since you're not going but it's still appropriate to send something.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:22 AM
|
| |
|
Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
Member since 10/05 3105 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Definitely yes.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:23 AM
|
| |
|
Katie&Chris2006
I love Chris
Member since 11/05 5998 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/18/2006 10:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill - A+
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
i always do. i think it's just a nice gesture and a way for the person to know that you really wish you could have been there.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:23 AM
|
| |
|
soon2bmrsdunn
I love my husband!!!
Member since 11/05 6957 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/8/2007 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's - A+
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by dianadrw
Posted by werock0709
I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.
Ditto for me.
Me too!
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:26 AM
|
| |
|
KimberlyBride
How did I get so lucky?
Member since 2/04 8871 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/15/2005 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Yes definitely!
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:27 AM
|
| |
|
SuzBride
The Jack!
Member since 1/05 9762 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/8/2006 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Land's End :) 11!
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I dont think you HAVE to give a gift if you aren't attending, I always do though. Just because I can't make the shower, I still want the new couple to have something from me for their new home/life together!
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:28 AM
|
| |
|
aliwnec10
I love my husband!
Member since 9/05 2164 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/7/2006 5:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Gurneys Inn in Montauk
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
well someone put NO... so i'm curious to anyone's opinion who doesn't think it's necessary.
I mean quite a few of my friends (from Ma & Vt) didn't think it was necessary and it didn't even occur to them... so there must be quite a few people who don't send gifts.
Message edited 1/19/2006 9:30:21 AM.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:28 AM
|
| |
|
Thumballina
Sei l'amore della mia vita
Member since 12/04 2890 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/24/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I always send something if I can't attend...I would feel rude if I didn't...but thats just me
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:29 AM
|
| |
|
Mayflower
Closer and closer...
Member since 9/05 1061 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/27/2006 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by Katie&Chris2006
i always do. i think it's just a nice gesture and a way for the person to know that you really wish you could have been there.
exactly.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:33 AM
|
| |
|
MissingTheBGene
We're homeowners!
Member since 6/05 4547 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/2/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Woodlands
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
It depends on who the person is. Recently, I was invited to a shower that I didn't even know the bride. I was asked at another function, did not receive an actual invite and they didn't even have my name, I was "FI's fiance". I wasn't able to attend, and I did not send a gift.
If it's someone I know, then yes, I would send a gift.
Message edited 1/19/2006 9:36:15 AM.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 9:34 AM
|
| |
|
hocus
Board Fanatic
Member since 4/05 604 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2005 5:30 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
You don't have to. I think it if you are close to someone it is a nice gesture, but not required.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:09 AM
|
| |
|
Fairytale
Wedding Newbie
Member since 10/05 26 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/2/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I always do also.
Message edited 1/19/2006 10:12:42 AM.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:12 AM
|
| |
|
nygirl77
It's over already??
Member since 9/05 1817 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 11:45 AM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by hocus
You don't have to. I think it if you are close to someone it is a nice gesture, but not required.
I feel this way too. However, I do usually send a gift if I can't attend.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:14 AM
|
| |
|
smara
Member since 12/05 3169 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
You aren't required, but it is nice to send something..
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:16 AM
|
| |
|
thumper9878
Board Fanatic
Member since 9/05 678 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/21/2007 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Larkfield Manor, Manor Room
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I always do if I can't attend. My style too. I guess because they invited me, I thought it would still be nice to send something.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:17 AM
|
| |
|
PrincessRose
At least I'm entertaining. ;-)
Member since 9/03 4669 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/29/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I'm torn on this. I always do send a gift if I can't make the shower. However, I had a friend not come to my shower because she couldn't afford the train ticket and a gift. A week later, her gift arrives - it's something very useful, but I know that the cost of buying and shipping it was equal to the cost of the train ticket she couldn't have afforded. If it had been up to me, I would've told her to forego the gift and buy the train ticket instead. Her being at my shower would've meant more to me.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:18 AM
|
| |
|
angel77
Board Fanatic
Member since 1/06 286 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/30/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Commack
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by MissingTheBGene
It depends on who the person is. Recently, I was invited to a shower that I didn't even know the bride. I was asked at another function, did not receive an actual invite and they didn't even have my name, I was "FI's fiance". I wasn't able to attend, and I did not send a gift.
If it's someone I know, then yes, I would send a gift.
I agree, obviously if it is a close friend or family member you definitely have to but if you are invited to someone's that you barely know then I would think you wouldn't have to.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:23 AM
|
| |
|
BlondeJD
La vie en rose
Member since 1/04 4988 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/2003 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
For me, it depends on how close I am to the person.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:23 AM
|
| |
|
tann22
Happily ever after
Member since 1/05 1256 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/21/2005 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
definitely.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:24 AM
|
| |
|
natiepie1028
Board Fanatic
Member since 12/04 571 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/18/2006 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
North Ritz Club
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
I'll be honest. Up until a few years ago, i never knew you had to send a gift. I was really never big on etiquette so i never knew. But now I do give gifts. It a nice gesture to do so. IMO
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:27 AM
|
| |
|
ETAB
I am a MRS!!!
Member since 11/05 1703 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/23/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?
Posted by aliwnec10
well someone put NO... so i'm curious to anyone's opinion who doesn't think it's necessary.
I mean quite a few of my friends (from Ma & Vt) didn't think it was necessary and it didn't even occur to them... so there must be quite a few people who don't send gifts.
I also think people who arent from the tristate area have a different mentality when it comes to weddings. i was in a wedding in Virginia and one of the bridesmaid gave $25.00 as a gift!!! NY weddings are extremely different.
|
|
Posted 1/19/06 10:31 AM
|
| |
|
| Pages: [1] 2 |
