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july06bride
Happy First Anniversary to Us!
Member since 12/04 7796 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 2:45 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Estate
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Rehearsal Dinner Question
Is it necessary to have an Open Bar at the rehearsal dinner? Most of the places I am looking at will add about 20.00 to the dinner meal if there is an open bar.
In your HONEST opinion, how do you feel about it? What are you doing? Do you think it is "wrong" to not have it.
All opinions welcome
Message edited 1/18/2006 12:41:17 PM.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:36 PM 
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Beth1210
I want to do it again!
Member since 6/05 4048 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/10/2005 7:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Flowerfield
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I had one-
do you expect people to buy there own drink?
or would you pay the bar bill?
b/c $20 per person isn't that bad if you have big drinkers
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Posted 1/18/06 12:38 PM
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LaurenluvsTJ
Married life is sweet!
Member since 1/05 11868 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
no. we are not doing that or beer and wine. beer and wine was $12pp. If someone wants a drink, they can go to the bar and pay for it. They will have an open bar all day at the wedding the following day.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:39 PM
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july06bride
Happy First Anniversary to Us!
Member since 12/04 7796 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 2:45 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Estate
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
No I wouldnt want them to buy their own drink, I guess I was thinking the beer and wine route or pay the bill. Fh's parents are paying and we are having about 40 people... so I was trying to keep the cost down since they're helping so much with the wedding...
more ideas PLEASE
ETA- I think people will drink, but we do not have BIG drinkers....I dont want people to get wasted that night either!
Message edited 1/18/2006 12:47:17 PM.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:40 PM
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Angel2006
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 3/05 1256 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/1/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau La Mer
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I don't think it necessary... just have them order drinks at the table and make sure you have pitchers of soda and carafs of wine on the table. In my experience most ppl do not get loaded at the RD and they know that the Bride and groom are paying for it and will be considerate about the price.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:40 PM
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nicknmb
can it get any better??
Member since 3/04 2475 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/5/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I don't think it is necessary at all. I think beer, wine, & soda are fine.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:42 PM
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103005FallBride
I married the love of my life
Member since 2/05 7248 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/30/2005 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor A++
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
We didn't have an open bar at our RD. No one looked for it either.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:43 PM
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Beth1210
I want to do it again!
Member since 6/05 4048 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/10/2005 7:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Flowerfield
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
Posted by july06bride
No I wouldnt want them to buy their own drink, I guess I was thinking the beer and wine route or pay the bill. Fh's parents are paying and we are having about 40 people... so I was trying to keep the cost down since there are helping so much with the wedding...
more ideas PLEASE
ETA- I think people will drink, but we do not have BIG drinkers....I dont want people to get wasted that night either!
find out how much beer and wine would be-
then you can run a tab for the other drinks
but IMO- it's a celebration- and a thank you to everyone invloved with the wedding- I think you need to take care of your guests
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Posted 1/18/06 12:44 PM
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JanuaryBride06
boyfriend in my head
Member since 4/05 13018 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/8/2006 12:00 PM
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
We didn't have an open bar; my MIL decided to just run a tab and pay it at the end of the night. It made sense - while at first people went straight to the bar, our guests didn't really drink a lot after the first hour.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:45 PM
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IrishBride-05
Celebrating 1 Year next week!!
Member since 7/04 1838 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Timber Point C.C.
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
We had an open bar, top shelf liquor for 4 hours and IMO it was a bit of a waste of money. Most of our guests didn't stay the full 4 hours.
We had our RD the night before our wedding, so that may have had some impact on it, with people wanting to have an early night. I think beer, wine and soda would be a good option if you want to save $.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:47 PM
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smara
Member since 12/05 3169 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 1:30 PM
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I cant afford open bar.. so they are going to have a choice I think of beer or wine, it depends how the restaurant does it. they should be happy they are getting dinner!!
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Posted 1/18/06 12:49 PM
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06NovBride
We're Married
Member since 11/04 2981 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/24/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
we are having them add any alcoholic drinks ordered to the bill. We really don't have too many drinkers and to pay $15 more a person, when maybe 2 or 3 people will drink isn't worth it.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:49 PM
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Reesa
La La La
Member since 1/05 1174 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/13/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on the Bay
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
We had wine on the tables and paid if someone ordered a drink-- which was not many. I think most people realized other drinks were'nt included and didn't go nuts with it.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:51 PM
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kellwolfe
It's An Obsession
Member since 12/04 4122 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/8/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet WindWatchA+++++++++++++++++++
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I dont think that you have to ......We are paying for ours ourselves so im not - Im doing beer and white ....and I think that everyone will be ok with that
Im sure that there are going to be those who disagree but ya know what -- but the buck has to stop somewhere -
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Posted 1/18/06 12:51 PM
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hmm8191
Am I still a newlywed?
Member since 3/04 2180 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/19/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Metropolitan
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
We just had wine at our rehersal dinner (I think) and everyone was fine with that. It may have been beer too though!
edited to say we're all big drinkers!
Message edited 1/18/2006 12:55:44 PM.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:53 PM
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LaurenluvsTJ
Married life is sweet!
Member since 1/05 11868 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
Posted by smara
I cant afford open bar.. so they are going to have a choice I think of beer or wine, it depends how the restaurant does it. they should be happy they are getting dinner!!
exactly~~
Just to add beer and wine is expensive IMO. OUr dinner is also at 5pm, we should be done by 8. Its too bad we can't just buy some bottles of wine, it would be a lot cheaper.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:54 PM
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jackiez
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Member since 5/05 551 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/12/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Woodlands
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I definitely think beer and wine is fine. I think we had beer and wine on the tables and then we paid the tab for those people that ordered drinks. But most people just stuck to the beer or wine, so the bill was not that high.
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Posted 1/18/06 12:55 PM
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Sweetpea130000
TIME IS FLYING!!!!
Member since 7/04 4165 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/19/2005 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Riviera @ Massapequa A++++++++++
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
we had beer and wine (it was in the parish hall) and everyone was fine with that
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Posted 1/18/06 12:56 PM
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TimmysGirl
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Member since 4/05 471 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/22/2005 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
Posted by 103005FallBride
We didn't have an open bar at our RD. No one looked for it either.
Same Here!!! Everyone just got WASTED at the wedding!
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Posted 1/18/06 12:56 PM
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nov06
I'M MARRIED!!!!
Member since 11/05 1550 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/4/2006 12:00 PM
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
Why don't you have the FIL's pay for the RD and you and your FI pay the bar tab. I'm not a big drinker either but I don't think your bridal party should have to pay for their own drinks. JMO
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Posted 1/18/06 12:58 PM
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MrsFudge
LOVE MY HUBBY!!!!
Member since 4/05 2039 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/8/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
This is a tough question. IMHO I don't think that people should have to pay for alcohol when you invite them to a dinner party.
We are having only beer and wine because we FH and I are picking up the cost of the RD and we simply cannot afford to have an open bar.
I am hoping that people will be not be offended if they are at least offered beer and wine which is why we are going this way.
HTH!
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Posted 1/18/06 12:59 PM
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smara
Member since 12/05 3169 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 1:30 PM
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
Posted by smara
I cant afford open bar.. so they are going to have a choice I think of beer or wine, it depends how the restaurant does it. they should be happy they are getting dinner!!
exactly~~
Just to add beer and wine is expensive IMO. OUr dinner is also at 5pm, we should be done by 8. Its too bad we can't just buy some bottles of wine, it would be a lot cheaper.
I agree with you there.. maybe we can do a BYOB (bring your own Beer)...
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Posted 1/18/06 1:08 PM
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SummerBride06
SummerBaby08 on the way!!
Member since 5/05 3936 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/8/2006 10:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor A+
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
Posted by Beth1210
but IMO- it's a celebration- and a thank you to everyone invloved with the wedding- I think you need to take care of your guests
that's nice and well if you're rich but $20 a person with 40 people is $800 plus tax and tip!!! they don't need to get trashed because it's a celebration. i think it's unneccessary especially since the dinner will cost $50.
get what you can. it's not neccessary to do open bar--beer, wine and soda is more than enough
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Posted 1/18/06 1:08 PM
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kam29
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Wedding Date:
4/29/2006 6:00 PM
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
We're having beer and wine and running a separate tab for anything else.
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Posted 1/18/06 1:08 PM
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Summer05
We're Married!!!!
Member since 5/04 3789 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/21/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question
I dont think that it is necessary, you could do just beer and wine
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Posted 1/18/06 1:10 PM
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