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DebsNY
Me and the MEN
Member since 8/04 7390 total posts
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8/7/2005 11:30 AM
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Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
From a friend who just got married about a month ago herself... first, i mentioned at lunch that i was told to drink water, and the immediate response was "Are you pregnant?" noooo... i just had a massage, and was told to hydrate :P
Then, later that same night, she starts bugging me to find out when we are going to start trying because she wants to get pregnant together 
I was like, um, 4 years.
DH looked at her, bugged eyed, and said "twice in one day? Stop that!"
Can't believe I actually made it 4 1/2 months without getting 'the question'  
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Posted 12/30/05 6:38 PM 
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SomethingBlu
Enjoying the journey...
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5/27/2005 3:00 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
The same person asked you twice?
And the whole getting pregnant together thing is creepy...geesh, people need to mind their bizness! 
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Posted 12/30/05 6:43 PM
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DebsNY
Me and the MEN
Member since 8/04 7390 total posts
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8/7/2005 11:30 AM
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Meadow Club
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
it didn't really bother me that much, just suprised that it was brought up twice in one day.
Most of our family and friends aready know that we're waiting a few years (we're only 23 and 24), so I haven't gotten asked yet, so it kind of threw me.
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Posted 12/30/05 6:47 PM
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KimberlyBride
How did I get so lucky?
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10/15/2005 1:00 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
I know it soooooo annoying.
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Posted 12/30/05 8:45 PM
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Ronkonkomonga
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10/16/2005 12:00 AM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by KimberlyBride
I know it soooooo annoying.
hey - I haven't gotten that yet... but I was curiously offended when a co worker asked me if I already had kids.... Yup I'm a weirdo!
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Posted 12/30/05 10:23 PM
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palebride
Intercourse knows no season...
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4/3/2004 12:00 PM
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Watermill
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
you're lucky!
i was first asked by one of my parent's friends while in the receiving line AT our wedding!!!!
i was tempted to invite her back to the hotel so she could watch!!!
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Posted 12/30/05 10:31 PM
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WedHead
"I'm Addicted"
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
My mom asked me if I had any "annoucements" on Christmas Eve- so I just pointed to the glass of wine in one hand, and the cigarette in the other, and said, "what do you think?". She said, "oh, guess not".
Message edited 12/31/2005 10:20:33 AM.
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Posted 12/31/05 10:20 AM
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103005FallBride
I married the love of my life
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Wedding Date:
10/30/2005 11:00 AM
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Westbury Manor A++
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Ugh! If I hear that one more time from my ILs...they're going to....to.... 
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Posted 12/31/05 1:07 PM
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Mrs. dleeny
My most beautiful day ever
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11/6/2005 5:00 PM
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Swan Club A+
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by WedHead
My mom asked me if I had any "annoucements" on Christmas Eve- so I just pointed to the glass of wine in one hand, and the cigarette in the other, and said, "what do you think?". She said, "oh, guess not".
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Posted 12/31/05 1:15 PM
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prncssrachel
One happy family!
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7/3/2005 3:30 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
That's ok, JT kind of had an opposite experience the other night. I know my friend didn't think before she spoke, but we were at a party, and having recently gotten married herself, she blurts out, "I don't know why ANYONE would want to have a baby right after they got married!" I wasn't there to hear the whole thing, but JT was, he got really upset. It's just hard because on the one hand, people keep asking all of you girls when, and with us, people keep asking us WHY are we having a baby right away.  So be grateful they're just asking when because it's A LOT more hurtful when people ask you WHY you're having a child only months after being married.
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Posted 1/1/06 10:10 AM
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JLP
^ Not my initials anymore!
Member since 4/04 1099 total posts
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3/12/2005 11:00 AM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by prncssrachel
That's ok, JT kind of had an opposite experience the other night. I know my friend didn't think before she spoke, but we were at a party, and having recently gotten married herself, she blurts out, "I don't know why ANYONE would want to have a baby right after they got married!" I wasn't there to hear the whole thing, but JT was, he got really upset. It's just hard because on the one hand, people keep asking all of you girls when, and with us, people keep asking us WHY are we having a baby right away. So be grateful they're just asking when because it's A LOT more hurtful when people ask you WHY you're having a child only months after being married.
I'm sorry... People should just mind their own business. You are lovingly bringing a child into this world; you should not be asked to defend this decision. EVER. Your child will have loving parents and is wanted. Unfortunately, not all children have that.
IMO, having a child is the most beautiful expression of love you can share with your husband. Congrats to you on your pregnancy. Best wishes and Happy New Year!
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Posted 1/1/06 1:05 PM
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prncssrachel
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by JLP
I'm sorry... People should just mind their own business. You are lovingly bringing a child into this world; you should not be asked to defend this decision. EVER. Your child will have loving parents and is wanted. Unfortunately, not all children have that.
IMO, having a child is the most beautiful expression of love you can share with your husband. Congrats to you on your pregnancy. Best wishes and Happy New Year!
Thank you, that was very sweet of you!
I'm excited we're having a baby, and everyone close to me is excited we're having a baby, but some people just don't know how to keep their mouths shut. I got it before I was married too, from people who would say, "WHY do you want to get married?! Don't get married!" It's like, are you kidding me? Just because YOU'RE miserable, doesn't mean we'll all be! Anyway, sorry to hijack the thread.
What bothers me about people asking couples when they're going to have a baby is that you don't know if they ARE trying to have one, but are having trouble. But I think people generally just need something to be excited over, and once the wedding is over, I guess the next thing they feel they can get excited over is a baby.
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Posted 1/1/06 2:00 PM
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Love_my_Freddybear
I love my Freddybear!!!
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12/3/2005 3:00 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by WedHead
My mom asked me if I had any "annoucements" on Christmas Eve- so I just pointed to the glass of wine in one hand, and the cigarette in the other, and said, "what do you think?". She said, "oh, guess not".
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Posted 1/1/06 7:10 PM
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DebsNY
Me and the MEN
Member since 8/04 7390 total posts
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8/7/2005 11:30 AM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by prncssrachel
Posted by JLP
I'm sorry... People should just mind their own business. You are lovingly bringing a child into this world; you should not be asked to defend this decision. EVER. Your child will have loving parents and is wanted. Unfortunately, not all children have that.
IMO, having a child is the most beautiful expression of love you can share with your husband. Congrats to you on your pregnancy. Best wishes and Happy New Year!
Thank you, that was very sweet of you!
I'm excited we're having a baby, and everyone close to me is excited we're having a baby, but some people just don't know how to keep their mouths shut. I got it before I was married too, from people who would say, "WHY do you want to get married?! Don't get married!" It's like, are you kidding me? Just because YOU'RE miserable, doesn't mean we'll all be! Anyway, sorry to hijack the thread.
What bothers me about people asking couples when they're going to have a baby is that you don't know if they ARE trying to have one, but are having trouble. But I think people generally just need something to be excited over, and once the wedding is over, I guess the next thing they feel they can get excited over is a baby.
That's so sad that they said that too you!
I do get the 'why are you getting married?" question so many times. Mostly because we're young (even though most of the people that said we were too young were married at our age our younger ).
But congratulations to you, Rachel, on your pregnancy! Don't listen to other people. That girl was probably just jealous that you have a wonderful husband and are starting a family.
Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy!  
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Posted 1/1/06 10:01 PM
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m&m
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
My DH"s grandmother pointed at my stomach two days after we got back from our honeymoon and asked if there was a baby in there yet?!?! Then the other day while she was at our house for new years, she kept folding up our blankets into little baby doll things and handing them to me or my DH!
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Posted 1/2/06 7:22 PM
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Mrs. dleeny
My most beautiful day ever
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11/6/2005 5:00 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by prncssrachel
It's just hard because on the one hand, people keep asking all of you girls when, and with us, people keep asking us WHY are we having a baby right away.
you just CAN'T WIN! people need to learn to MYOB!
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Posted 1/2/06 7:44 PM
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peabody
LET'S DO IT AGAIN!!!
Member since 7/03 3197 total posts
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10/1/2004 4:00 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
I get it all the time!! I don't mind though, I don't know why. It will happen when I am ready and when I am ready I will let everyone know.
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Posted 1/2/06 10:38 PM
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peabody
LET'S DO IT AGAIN!!!
Member since 7/03 3197 total posts
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10/1/2004 4:00 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by WedHead
My mom asked me if I had any "annoucements" on Christmas Eve- so I just pointed to the glass of wine in one hand, and the cigarette in the other, and said, "what do you think?". She said, "oh, guess not".
I love this, people are definitely going to know when I stop drinking wine. I LOVE WINE!!!
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Posted 1/2/06 10:39 PM
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neeniebean86
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by peabody
Posted by WedHead
My mom asked me if I had any "annoucements" on Christmas Eve- so I just pointed to the glass of wine in one hand, and the cigarette in the other, and said, "what do you think?". She said, "oh, guess not".
I love this, people are definitely going to know when I stop drinking...
same here!!
i think that could be a reason why i don't get the question that often- i usually have a cigarette in one hand, and a bud light in the other
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Posted 1/2/06 10:58 PM
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lishbone
"I'm Addicted"
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10/9/2005 6:30 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Posted by prncssrachel
Posted by JLP
I'm sorry... People should just mind their own business. You are lovingly bringing a child into this world; you should not be asked to defend this decision. EVER. Your child will have loving parents and is wanted. Unfortunately, not all children have that.
IMO, having a child is the most beautiful expression of love you can share with your husband. Congrats to you on your pregnancy. Best wishes and Happy New Year!
Thank you, that was very sweet of you!
I'm excited we're having a baby, and everyone close to me is excited we're having a baby, but some people just don't know how to keep their mouths shut. I got it before I was married too, from people who would say, "WHY do you want to get married?! Don't get married!" It's like, are you kidding me? Just because YOU'RE miserable, doesn't mean we'll all be! Anyway, sorry to hijack the thread.
What bothers me about people asking couples when they're going to have a baby is that you don't know if they ARE trying to have one, but are having trouble. But I think people generally just need something to be excited over, and once the wedding is over, I guess the next thing they feel they can get excited over is a baby.
I AGREE TOTALLY WITH YOU..and congrats by the way!! i am also pregnant!! i went on my honeymoon and literallycame home pregnant..we said we wanted a honeymoon baby..i reallydidnt think it would happen but i am so happy it did..but you are right about people asking and not knowing if the couple is trying..my sil is trying and is going through allof these tests...i feel so bad for her..i know it will happen for her but i know its hard for her..i see what she has to go through to have a baby..and i wish i could help her..but it is rude when people ask when are you gonna start trying..it could take my sil years before she does..and it is hurting her when people ask..she doesnt want to feel like she has to explain herself to everyone..RUDE !!!! but again congrats to you!! how far along are you?
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Posted 1/3/06 12:11 PM
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nferrandi
We did it!
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10/9/2004 6:30 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
i think that could be a reason why i don't get the question that often- i usually have a cigarette in one hand, and a bud light in the other
That's me to a T. But even the beer and butts didn't keep people from asking.
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Posted 1/3/06 1:49 PM
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Beth1210
I want to do it again!
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12/10/2005 7:30 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
I got asked at my cocktail hour- you made it pretty long!
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Posted 1/4/06 11:52 AM
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keohime
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
Lishbone, so weird my best friend too - in fact when i first read your post, i thought you were her because you and she were marrie on the same day. When's your due date?
Congrats!
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Posted 1/7/06 7:55 AM
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jesslangen
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9/17/2005 12:00 AM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
My MIL was asking when "grandbabies" were coming BEFORE the wedding!! It's insane. A lot of people have been asking when are we going to have kids. DH and I are only 24 and 22 respectively so we are in NO rush!
MIL keeps pulling the guilt trip card on us. She says she will just have to accept Peanut, our Pomeranian, is the only grandaughter she will ever see. I'm like "Lady you're only 48!
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Posted 1/8/06 9:35 PM
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FallBride05
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11/13/2005 12:30 PM
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Re: Got my first "When are you going to have a baby" question yesterday...
My grandmother was asking for great grandbabies this weekend! This time last year she was asking DH what he was waiting for (proposing to me) and now she's asking what we're waiting for with babies!! We haven't even been married two months yet!
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