Ladies...I am so out of wedding planning...

I really don't want to do it any more (plan that is) It's just so much and I have NO idea of what to do on some stuff. I don't even know where to begin. but even fh is concerned that we have too much to do in the 4 months we have left.

I need a wedding planning boost...or a tutorial at least. I feel like all of my ideas are too dumb, too "out there" or too expensive...especially for favors. I am just not into it right now but I NEED to be, b/c I am running out of time.

sorry for the vent.

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You should just relax, enjoy th eholidays and then pick it up again in the new year. I know you must still have a ton of things to do, but they will get done. And as for your ideas at least you know you can get a million opinions on here. It will all work out

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I don't want to do anything anymore either. I've had it with wedding planning.

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Jess,

I was like you a while back. Let me know what you need and I will help you! I am here for you sweetie!

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It's very overwhelming right now b/c it's the end of the year which means: Holiday's, closer to the wedding date, and WORK!!!!

I think the best thing for you to do right now is make up a list of what you NEED rather than what you WANT. Once you check them off that "need" list, then you can tackle the "want" list.

I would also try to divert focus on the "theme" which may be overwhelming trying to matchy-matchy everything. If you have colors in mind, stick to that. If you want to do shakesperian - stick to that, but you don't need both.

As far as "expensive" taste - you can find things out there that are in your budget, but it requires sacrifice and compromise.

Don't lose sight of what a wedding is really about. Your guests will be fed and happy and that's what matters - people don't care if your candelabra matches the favor or dress!

And remember - ask friends for help!!!!

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Posted by ChristineAEV

It's very overwhelming right now b/c it's the end of the year which means: Holiday's, closer to the wedding date, and WORK!!!!

I think the best thing for you to do right now is make up a list of what you NEED rather than what you WANT. Once you check them off that "need" list, then you can tackle the "want" list.

I would also try to divert focus on the "theme" which may be overwhelming trying to matchy-matchy everything. If you have colors in mind, stick to that. If you want to do shakesperian - stick to that, but you don't need both.

As far as "expensive" taste - you can find things out there that are in your budget, but it requires sacrifice and compromise.

Don't lose sight of what a wedding is really about. Your guests will be fed and happy and that's what matters - people don't care if your candelabra matches the favor or dress!

And remember - ask friends for help!!!!

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Message edited 12/19/2005 1:56:45 PM.

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Don't worry Jess, I feel the exact same way. I have a lot of little things left to tackle, and I don't feel like doing ANYTHING!!!

I'm clueless on favors also. So I hear you completely.

Just take a break until mid January. By then you should be in the mood to tackle things again. Or handle things a bit at a time. Maybe work on one task per week.

And we're here for you if you need any help!!! Maybe we can organize a DIY GTG!!!

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Chin up girl! Relax for the hoildays and then pick it back up after New Year's.

I was actually going to start a list of all the "little" things left to do like petal cones, menus, place cards, etc. I'll post it once I'm done and maybe we can all help each other!

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Posted by ChristineAEV

It's very overwhelming right now b/c it's the end of the year which means: Holiday's, closer to the wedding date, and WORK!!!!

I think the best thing for you to do right now is make up a list of what you NEED rather than what you WANT. Once you check them off that "need" list, then you can tackle the "want" list.

I would also try to divert focus on the "theme" which may be overwhelming trying to matchy-matchy everything. If you have colors in mind, stick to that. If you want to do shakesperian - stick to that, but you don't need both.

As far as "expensive" taste - you can find things out there that are in your budget, but it requires sacrifice and compromise.

Don't lose sight of what a wedding is really about. Your guests will be fed and happy and that's what matters - people don't care if your candelabra matches the favor or dress!

And remember - ask friends for help!!!!

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my advice... go get a massage, pedicure, manicure and start again Jan 1st!!!!

It will all work out.. people plan whole weddings in 6 months... and there's all of us here to help you!!!!

Re: Ladies...I am so out of wedding planning...

ME TOO

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Jess, why not take some time off from the wedding planning. It can be stressful. Don't worry, I have alot left to do as well and our dates are close to each other

Enjoy the holidays and don't worry about planning for a while

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Take the holidays off! Just try to enjoy until after new yrs. Also first of all your ideas aren't dumb! Its your wedding, do it how you want to do it! Don't let others intimate you. I'm sure you don't have as much as it seems. Favors aren't too hard. You are having an April wedding so choclates, candles, and so on are won't be much and very nice for your wedding. Take a break and just enjoy your last holiday single!

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If you noticed my posts - I am in the same boat as you - everyone tells me just to take a break and take it easy...

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best advice I can give is refrain from comparing what you have to complete against what other brides have done.

and know that it can and will be done in time. There have been plenty of affairs arranged in less time. Definitely don't call your ideas for your wedding dumb! Think positive, be positive. And lastly, LAUGH, have a good time...

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I feel the same way you do right now. I'm going to pick it back up after the holidays, probably mid-January. I think it's completely overwhelming but I'm hoping it will sort of fall into place as I plan.

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Posted by JessicaM.

I really don't want to do it any more (plan that is) It's just so much and I have NO idea of what to do on some stuff. I don't even know where to begin. but even fh is concerned that we have too much to do in the 4 months we have left.

I need a wedding planning boost...or a tutorial at least. I feel like all of my ideas are too dumb, too "out there" or too expensive...especially for favors. I am just not into it right now but I NEED to be, b/c I am running out of time.

sorry for the vent.

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Sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
Take some time to get re-energized about it and then focus on the things that really matter to you and FH about the wedding. I'm only recently engaged and already feeling a little burnt out...so I did some things and am now taking a little break until after the holidays.

Don't forget we are also here to help! I know I'm somewhat of a newbie, but would love to help any way I can!

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You're not alone sweets!!!!

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me too sista...

I want nothing to do with any of it. In fact, I have barely been on here because Im feeling so broke and depressed with the holidays. I am hoping that after they are over we can start saving again and things will pick up.

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I feel the same way chica

I think a couple of mojitos will do the trick

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I have 8 months and don't feel like doing a thing. I am hoping after christams I will get back into the swing of things. I have so much to do before I go to england on January 29th for 5 months. Ughh. The thought of it makes me want to vomit!

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I hear ya!!

I didn't even want the expense and hupla of a NY wedding and have been doing the bulk of the planning myself- tyring to make decisions and balance what FH's family wants b/c their Indian and do things differently (even tho they are Protestant) I can't tell you how many times I have cried and wanted to call of the wedding (not the marriage tho!). FH sees things my way right before we made our 3 rd payment to the hall!! It was basically too late then!

Take a break for the holidays and pick it back up by listing your major vendors that you have to book- worry about the little things later- or forget them!! do you need petal cones? nope! Do you need to have special place cards made? Not at all!!

If you are rejuvinated you may get all of it done- or you may get to where FH and I are and not care!! It'll be OK- you have time!!

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Jess, everything will get done.
It will all fall together.

I totally agree with Christine. She said it best!!!

I am honestly fed up with planning myself. I wish I was done already. You just have to take it day by day. That is what I tell myself.

We are ALL here for you!

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First I want to thank you all for your kind words and support. The best thing about this site is that you know SOMEONE is feeling like you are, and it really helps to get EMPATHY as well as SYMPATHY! thanks my luvlies!!

Second, I was to say that after my little fit, I am feeling much better and have made some decisions. I realized that my ideas cannot be DUMB (I can't even believe I said that ) and that if people don't like it, so what. they can do what they want at THEIR event! I pay= my way!!!

I do require a lot of help and assistance though, so I am hoping that you will all bear with me. I'll need all the help I can get!!

Thanks again to all of you. '06ers really do ROCK!!!