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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by Blu-ize
There's more here than the ring. Work out the reason you are upset about the ring first. Then after that, you can talk about an upgrade.
If you have broken up and gotten back together a few times maybe there's some issues you guys have to discuss.
I would be a little annoyed at the lack of effort about the purchase of the ring. Are you throwing a big wedding? If there's money for that, there should be money for a ring.
we have never broken up but there have been times. we want to have a big wedding.
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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
winter already?
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by Ser29
Im sorry you feel that way. You asked for an opinion and that is all I gave. Love should be sacred, and should not be measured in the size of a diamond. It took me a long time to save up money for the ring I bought my FW, Especially longer since I was only making pennies a day!
Good Luck!
I did ask for an opinion. but i never thought i would get this response
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Posted 11/11/05 11:02 AM
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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
winter already?
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by mava61
It sounds a little bit like your situation is a little more deep-routed than just "the engagement ring." I think it's safe to assume that when your fi proposed to you he did it out of love and the desire to spend the rest of his life with you. But if you are unsure of this - you need to speak with him. No one is judging you, just giving their opinions.
Personally, I adore my ring - but its the fact that my fi went out of his way to pledge his love for me. When I think back to the day we got engaged I think of the way I felt when I realized how lucky I was to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved more than anything - and to know that he felt the same exact way - the fact that we were about to "officially" begin our lives together - not the way the ring looked.
If you are going to display a post (especially one as controversial as this) you have to expect some adverse opinions. Consider it constructive criticism and take it for what its worth - all these people are trying to help you.
I never thought that this post would be so controversial.
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Posted 11/11/05 11:03 AM
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Blu-ize
My House
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by Blu-ize
There's more here than the ring. Work out the reason you are upset about the ring first. Then after that, you can talk about an upgrade.
If you have broken up and gotten back together a few times maybe there's some issues you guys have to discuss.
I would be a little annoyed at the lack of effort about the purchase of the ring. Are you throwing a big wedding? If there's money for that, there should be money for a ring.
we have never broken up but there have been times. we want to have a big wedding.
Well then girl, I think you should get the ring you want within reason if money is not the issue. What is the issue?
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Posted 11/11/05 11:04 AM
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Mrs. Powell
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by mava61
It sounds a little bit like your situation is a little more deep-routed than just "the engagement ring." I think it's safe to assume that when your fi proposed to you he did it out of love and the desire to spend the rest of his life with you. But if you are unsure of this - you need to speak with him. No one is judging you, just giving their opinions.
Personally, I adore my ring - but its the fact that my fi went out of his way to pledge his love for me. When I think back to the day we got engaged I think of the way I felt when I realized how lucky I was to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved more than anything - and to know that he felt the same exact way - the fact that we were about to "officially" begin our lives together - not the way the ring looked.
If you are going to display a post (especially one as controversial as this) you have to expect some adverse opinions. Consider it constructive criticism and take it for what its worth - all these people are trying to help you.
I never thought that this post would be so controversial.
IMHO I think there a lot going on apart from this ring which I think you should deal with first. I think there is alot of issues that are unresolved.
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Posted 11/11/05 11:05 AM
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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
winter already?
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by mava61
It sounds a little bit like your situation is a little more deep-routed than just "the engagement ring." I think it's safe to assume that when your fi proposed to you he did it out of love and the desire to spend the rest of his life with you. But if you are unsure of this - you need to speak with him. No one is judging you, just giving their opinions.
Personally, I adore my ring - but its the fact that my fi went out of his way to pledge his love for me. When I think back to the day we got engaged I think of the way I felt when I realized how lucky I was to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved more than anything - and to know that he felt the same exact way - the fact that we were about to "officially" begin our lives together - not the way the ring looked.
If you are going to display a post (especially one as controversial as this) you have to expect some adverse opinions. Consider it constructive criticism and take it for what its worth - all these people are trying to help you.
I never thought that this post would be so controversial.
IMHO I think there a lot going on apart from this ring which I think you should deal with first. I think there is alot of issues that are unresolved.
I agree with you It feel like the issues just get swept under the covers.
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Posted 11/11/05 11:15 AM
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Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by mava61
It sounds a little bit like your situation is a little more deep-routed than just "the engagement ring." I think it's safe to assume that when your fi proposed to you he did it out of love and the desire to spend the rest of his life with you. But if you are unsure of this - you need to speak with him. No one is judging you, just giving their opinions.
Personally, I adore my ring - but its the fact that my fi went out of his way to pledge his love for me. When I think back to the day we got engaged I think of the way I felt when I realized how lucky I was to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved more than anything - and to know that he felt the same exact way - the fact that we were about to "officially" begin our lives together - not the way the ring looked.
If you are going to display a post (especially one as controversial as this) you have to expect some adverse opinions. Consider it constructive criticism and take it for what its worth - all these people are trying to help you.
I never thought that this post would be so controversial.
IMHO I think there a lot going on apart from this ring which I think you should deal with first. I think there is alot of issues that are unresolved.
I agree with you It feel like the issues just get swept under the covers.
You both need to take the time and come to some resolution on these issues and it will make a big difference in your relationship. Good Luck!!!
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Posted 11/11/05 11:18 AM
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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
winter already?
Member since 9/05 2326 total posts
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by mava61
It sounds a little bit like your situation is a little more deep-routed than just "the engagement ring." I think it's safe to assume that when your fi proposed to you he did it out of love and the desire to spend the rest of his life with you. But if you are unsure of this - you need to speak with him. No one is judging you, just giving their opinions.
Personally, I adore my ring - but its the fact that my fi went out of his way to pledge his love for me. When I think back to the day we got engaged I think of the way I felt when I realized how lucky I was to be spending the rest of my life with the man I loved more than anything - and to know that he felt the same exact way - the fact that we were about to "officially" begin our lives together - not the way the ring looked.
If you are going to display a post (especially one as controversial as this) you have to expect some adverse opinions. Consider it constructive criticism and take it for what its worth - all these people are trying to help you.
I never thought that this post would be so controversial.
IMHO I think there a lot going on apart from this ring which I think you should deal with first. I think there is alot of issues that are unresolved.
I agree with you It feel like the issues just get swept under the covers.
You both need to take the time and come to some resolution on these issues and it will make a big difference in your relationship. Good Luck!!!
Thank you!
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Posted 11/11/05 11:33 AM
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stephanief
It's fun to be ONE!!!!
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by JanuaryBride06
Posted by Jen2999
She didnt ask for an opinion thats the thing....she asked if everyone likes THEIR ring... not for people to judge hers
I've been reading this thread for a while too and I think that you are right on the money for both of your posts.
I did ask if everyone like their ring.
Yes, you asked if we like our rings, you are correct. And then you went on to say that you hate your ring cause it is from walmart and it just seems like the ring is the most important thing to you. That is what people were reacting to. I think this post did get controversal but that is what happens on a public forum. People will say what they will, don't take everything so personally, that is my 2 cents 
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Posted 11/11/05 11:44 AM
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Blu-ize
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by stephanief
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by JanuaryBride06
Posted by Jen2999
She didnt ask for an opinion thats the thing....she asked if everyone likes THEIR ring... not for people to judge hers
I've been reading this thread for a while too and I think that you are right on the money for both of your posts.
I did ask if everyone like their ring.
Yes, you asked if we like our rings, you are correct. And then you went on to say that you hate your ring cause it is from walmart and it just seems like the ring is the most important thing to you. That is what people were reacting to. I think this post did get controversal but that is what happens on a public forum. People will say what they will, don't take everything so personally, that is my 2 cents
While I agree with this, sometimes it's hard to come right out and say what's really going on. Now that we know that there are some other things in play-we understand better. She will work them out and hopefully the "ring" won't be the issue anymore.
I have to say-that I am not a snob, but I would be insulted if my FH didn't put the time and thought into the ring. I would like to think when my DH picked out my ring-he thought about how it would look on my finger-the look on my face when he gave it to me...etc..I also think it's a matter of pride for the guy too. MY DH wanted to get me a bigger one or a better one, but he picked out the best one he could afford and I love it because he searched for it and took the time and made the decision.
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Posted 11/11/05 12:06 PM
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weddingbunny
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by Jen2999
Sorry to intrude on this board as an 06'er but I had been following this thread and I do feel the need to state my opinion.
Now.. I dont think she is "all about the ring"...the issue is that he is not taking their relationship seriously. I think that a lot of you girls are kidding yourself when you say that after all the fighting and the issues with a relationship FH finally gave you a ring from walmart, thatd youd be perfectly happy..
YES.. I would be happy IF it were an issue where we really didnt have a lot of money and he was just dsperate to marry me, HOWEVER I do not think that is the case here. I think she just wants her FH to finally stand up and commit to more than just "the ring" but to the entire relationship and take it seriosuly.
I think what you are all trying to say is that it is the thought that counts, however, if you read her comments, there doesnt seem to be much thought. If there WAS thought and effort behind all of it, I think she would feel very differently about ANY ring that was given to her.
I realize I am being a bit presumtuous about her situation, but I think you are ll a **tad** to defensive about the topic instead of putting yourself in her shoes. It is easy to say.. well who cares about a walmart ring, but maybe there is more to it than that.
Hope I dont get flamed for this.. but I just felt the poor girl was drowning among the posts.
I really have to agree. I think people are too quick to jump to the conclusion that if somebody is openly disappointed about their ring that means that they are being shallow or selfish or putting the ring ahead of the guy. It's not as if she said "I hate my ring, and I keep telling my fiance that he needs to get me another one but he just won't because he's so mean."
I can totally understand her feelings... to me buying somebody something, especially something like an engagement ring, is not about the money but about the effort and thought that was put into it. You wear your engagement ring your whole life, and when you tell people you're engaged they always want to see it and fuss over it, so if it's not something that you're happy with and proud of, I can imagine that would be really tough.
And then there is the fact that this is clearly about more than a ring, but rather about her feeling like her fiance didn't put in a whole lot of care or effort into the choosing of it, which may represent a general feeling about more than the ring. That, to me, would be heartbreaking.
That said, to answer the original question, yes, I do love my ring very much. And no, my relationship is not perfect at all, I'm just lucky in that my fiance is a very thoughtful person about things like this, and somehow instinctly knew exactly what I wanted.
To the original poster - I'm sorry you feel attacked by all this. I hope that maybe it's at least encouraged you to talk to your fiance and think about what's really bothering you. And I hope that things get better for you soon, it sounds like you've had it tough.
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Posted 11/12/05 2:19 AM
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Ser29
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
I am done with this topic. Sick to my stomach to be honest. Good Luck to all of the great people here! And for those that are making love, and marrying their rings, remember this when you see a starving kid on TV, or a homeless person on the street. All this BS over a diamond! No morals at all!
Message edited 11/12/2005 2:22:47 AM.
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Posted 11/12/05 2:22 AM
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Hamptonsbride06
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by stephanief
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
I was just curious if everyone likes their engagement ring. I am not to fond of it. It's cute It is a heart shape diamond and silver but I know it is from Walmart. I just feel like he should have saved up alittle while and got something else. All of his other friends have rings that cost in the thousands. Then when I come with my walmart special it just doesn't look right.
Also I feel we have broken engagements before. So Many fights I think a fresh start which what we are having with the new date maybe a new ring
I want everything right this time.
Wow, this post shocked me. If the ring is that important to you then you should say something. BUT, I think it is kinda mean what you said. A ring is no indication of whether your FH loves you or not. A happy marriage does NOT need a fancy, expensive eng. ring
JMHO
Good luck
Mean?
You do not know what I have been through in the last nine in a half years. To love someone so much and to keep that love in your heart every time you want to run out the door.
I am tired of people judging me on this internet. I even got yelled at by a man. Try living with you MIL and she can yell at you wish you die, then when she needs you she is your best friend. SIL's that never call when their mother says bad things about you to hear your side. They only hear a part of the truth.
What is wrong with me wanting to do things right? I am sure all of your relationships are not that perfect and you are not willing to open up like i did
What does an engagement ring have to do with that?!?!?!?!?!?!? We have all had our issues..nobody has had the perfect relationship. A ring isnt what makes it right, its what you two have that makes a marriage what it is. Honestly you are very selfish, who cares what his friends spent, its not about anyone else but you two, so what if your ring didnt cost a lot of money, now you can have the wedding of your dreams. What would you do if fh took out a loan to buy you a ring? Then what? Are you two supposed to be broke all the time because you are sporting a huge diamond?
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Posted 11/12/05 9:57 AM
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Luke&Lau
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
I think we should all stop this post because it is getting redundant and catty. Lets move on.
FutureBrideToKeith,
I do not think you are a bad person and I do not think you intended this post to get so much attention, however, I do think you have deeper issues than the ring and you need to vent to someone or talk about it. My suggestion is to talk you your closest friend, mother, or FI about it because as much as we are all great on this board, we are all relatively strangers and cannot possibly understand your specific situation. I think you will feel better about everything, including your ring, when your concerns are worked out.
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Posted 11/12/05 10:53 AM
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toddlerteacher
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
wow, this post is really upseting to me. why would u even post something like this? it shouldn't matter where your E-ring is from or even what it looks like. I feel that the only thing that should matter is that you are in love with you FH and are so happy to be spending the rest of your life with him. To me it wouldn't matter if my FH got my ring a walmart, the fleemarket or Tiffany's it wouldn't matter to me if he didnt even get me a ring..just hearing those words "will you marry me" and knowing that i am going to be spending the rest of my life with this man, is worth so much more than a ring. Good luck and hope everything works out!!
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Posted 11/12/05 11:11 AM
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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
winter already?
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by Luke&Lau
I think we should all stop this post because it is getting redundant and catty. Lets move on.
FutureBrideToKeith,
I do not think you are a bad person and I do not think you intended this post to get so much attention, however, I do think you have deeper issues than the ring and you need to vent to someone or talk about it. My suggestion is to talk you your closest friend, mother, or FI about it because as much as we are all great on this board, we are all relatively strangers and cannot possibly understand your specific situation. I think you will feel better about everything, including your ring, when your concerns are worked out.
SORRY I HAVE NO FRIENDS MY MOTHER DIED WHEN I WAS 6. THIS WAS MY ONLY WAY TO TALK TO SOMEONE
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Posted 11/14/05 2:04 PM
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FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
winter already?
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by toddlerteacher
wow, this post is really upseting to me. why would u even post something like this? it shouldn't matter where your E-ring is from or even what it looks like. I feel that the only thing that should matter is that you are in love with you FH and are so happy to be spending the rest of your life with him. To me it wouldn't matter if my FH got my ring a walmart, the fleemarket or Tiffany's it wouldn't matter to me if he didnt even get me a ring..just hearing those words "will you marry me" and knowing that i am going to be spending the rest of my life with this man, is worth so much more than a ring. Good luck and hope everything works out!!
THANK YOU!
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Posted 11/14/05 2:05 PM
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Luke&Lau
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by FUTUREBRIDETOKEITH
Posted by Luke&Lau
I think we should all stop this post because it is getting redundant and catty. Lets move on.
FutureBrideToKeith,
I do not think you are a bad person and I do not think you intended this post to get so much attention, however, I do think you have deeper issues than the ring and you need to vent to someone or talk about it. My suggestion is to talk you your closest friend, mother, or FI about it because as much as we are all great on this board, we are all relatively strangers and cannot possibly understand your specific situation. I think you will feel better about everything, including your ring, when your concerns are worked out.
SORRY I HAVE NO FRIENDS MY MOTHER DIED WHEN I WAS 6. THIS WAS MY ONLY WAY TO TALK TO SOMEONE
I'm very sorry to hear that. Good luck with everything. I'm sure it will work out.
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Posted 11/14/05 3:26 PM
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lilred13
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Re: Does everyone like their engagement ring?
Posted by lilred13
I agree isn't it more about staring a life together, creating your own family, and spending the rest of your life with your best friend?!? I love my ring even though it is the complete oppisite of what I picked out lol. He put time into getting it made and the proposal was over the top! I am just very happy to being spending the rest of my life with someone who loves me the same as I love him. It is like the others said..you can always upgrade later on. Just enjoy the relationship.
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