Are OOT guests invited to the shower?

My bridal party has asked for an invite list for my shower.

I have family in Seattle and Boston as well as fiends in New Hampshire and PA. Should they be sent a shower invite? I would love to have them there but know that they won't be able to come and I hate to ask them to travel 2x so close together. I don't want to seem like I am asking them for a gift and I would rather have them there to celebrate the wedding day anyway but I don't want to leave them out by not inviting them.

What did you do?

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I am asking them. All of FH's guests are OOT. If I did not include OOT guests, I would not be including anyone from FH's side. I am sure most of them are not going to come, but I think tHey should be invited, and they can decide wther or not they want to travel.

Message edited 11/3/2005 12:23:59 PM.

Re: Are OOT guests invited to the shower?

I am doing the same thing as Lauren. I want to give my OOT guests the option of coming.

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Though it's only Jersey, my FMIL elected to have a second shower with her guests. It worked well, I think.

But I do have friends in other parts of the country and they were all invited to the shower. Most of them didn't show up, which I wouldn't expect.

I say you should invite them because they could be insulted that they weren't invited. To be honest, there are a couple that were invited, didn't come and did not send a gift. I don't really care, but I don't think they necessarily see it as a call for presents.

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I plan on including them all-just out of respect.

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I invited everyone.....some people actually travelled from Florida to come to my shower, and it meant a lot to me....

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I would invite them all- it's up to them if they want to travel

maybe they would make a whole weekend out of it

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I definitely plan to invite OOT guests to my shower. Two of my aunts are OOT and already talking about their plans to come down for it - I think that many OOT guests would be insulted not to be invited (plus I really want them there!)

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my MOH came in from San Diego for mine so you never know.

Just a GF of a cousin from Chicago wasn't ivited, but she would have been if she lived locally. I had nothing to do with that, I'm sure it was mentioend to the cousin though.

All our other OOT was NJ & CT & they came.

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I am inviting all of the OOT guests to the shower.

I am also having my bachelorette party the same night so the OOT guests can be included in both.

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I will invite mine hopefully they will come. My maid of honor is in las vegas I pray she could come.

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My Mom and bridal party did not invite out of town guests except for my one friend in Boston who actually came.

I went to Florida for a shower but I'm a bridesmaid so that different. But that bride who was my bridesmaid did not attend my shower.

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

I am asking them. All of FH's guests are OOT. If I did not include OOT guests, I would not be including anyone from FH's side. I am sure most of them are not going to come, but I think tHey should be invited, and they can decide wther or not they want to travel.

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Re: Are OOT guests invited to the shower?

it depends on how many
if its like 40 people- cut it down

it they are close oot people, id invite them