IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

My flowergirl and ringbearer are my old bosses' kids.....they will know nobody at the wedding....and we are having our rehearsal dinner at a NYC restaurant that really doesn't work for kids....should I invite them to the rehearsal dinner with their parents since they are part of the wedding party? I just think it would be kind of awkward for everyone, and difficult because the kids are so young (2 1/2 and 4).

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

if they are participating in the rehearsal, i think you need to

i know its weird and they dont have to go (may be too late for the baby anyway) but if they are going to be at the rehearsal, its best to invite them

Message edited 11/2/2005 11:27:17 AM.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

I would definitely invite them.
Give them the option to decline if it will be weird or too late for them.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

I would invite them as well.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

forgot to mention...the rehearsal will actually be the day of the wedding, so the "rehearsal dinner" the night before is just a dinner with no rehearsal before it...does this change things?

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

If you are inviting everyone to this dinner that is a part of your wedding party, then I would still invite them. If not, then it would be like you are hosting a dinner as a thank you to everyone for helping with your ceremony, but leaving them out.

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I would still invite the parents as the children are so young, regardless of when the rehearsal or the dinner will be taking place.

ETA: Sorry, I thought you originally posted that you were inviting the FG and RB but not the parents, not that you were inquiring about inviting them and their parents. I think that if they are going to be involved in your BP, that they should be invited, but let the parents decide if it's too much for the children to be out that late and where, etc. Hope this makes some sense!

Message edited 11/2/2005 11:46:35 AM.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

I think you should definitely invite them. IMO it would be rude not to.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

You need to invite them! THey are part of your day, so they should be part of the rehearsal.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

I actually asked my aunt who's my FG's mother, and she said - no way, no need to invite the FG/RB and their parents to the Rehersal Dinner - it should be for "adults"

So, that being said - I'm having their parents come to the church to reherse, and then go on their way.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

I would definitly invite them

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

Our "rehearsal dinner" was more of a gathering of immediate family and the BP since we had our rehearsal 30 mins before the ceremony. We had a dinner the night before in order to spend quality time with those closest to us since the wedding day is too crazy and we'd be all over the place. If your dinner is more of an intimate gathering of close family and friends and you're not close with the FG and RB, I don't think you need to invite them. You should do what you want, but the parents might be offended if they find out that you had a dinner the night before and didn't invite them. If you're pretty sure they'd decline the invitation, it might be nice to just give them an invitation.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

yes, you should invite them and leave it up to the parents whether or not they want to come.

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

i think you should invite them... chances are, because the kids are so young, they won't come... but if they're gonna be a part of your day, i think you should at least invite them....the kids are gonna be spending a lot of time with the other people in the wedding party on the wedding day, so it will be good for them to have a chance to be around everyboyd a little bit more before that....

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

yes, you should invite them and leave it up to the parents whether or not they want to come.

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Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

yeah, even though the actual "rehearsal" isn't before the rehearsal dinner (i believe you said the rehearsal is actually before the wedding on the same day) - i'd talk to the parents and let them know what type of event it will be. They might wind up agreeing with you and saying thank you but they kids will be cranky, etc. You kind of do need to give them the option though. It's a tough one, maybe one of the negatives of having little people in the party:) I'm sure it will work out fine!

Re: IS it really rude if I don't invite FG / RB and their parents to rehearsal dinner?

I'd invite them, even though they might not go b/c of where it is or how late. It would be nice of you though.