Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

OK, so a friend I barely speak to, but invited to our wedding because we WERE close in college and b/c I run into her at other people's weddings, emailed me yesterday and said she wanted to know if she was invited with a guest... she said she just wondered cuz it didn't say on the envelope but she was looking into coming and getting a hotel (cuz she lives in FL and the wedding is in NY)... and she said she's living with her ex-boyfriend now and wouldn't know anyone at the wedding.

We're honestly trying to cut down on numbers AND she and I never talk except at other people's weddings a few times a year... But if she's coming from out of state, I feel bad - so do you think I should just let her bring a guest???

thanks!!!

ETA: she DOES know a few other people at the wedding actually... a couple of our other good friends... but 2 out of the 3 people that are coming that she knows do have fiances that will be attending.

Message edited 9/23/2005 4:08:39 PM.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Id say yes if she doesnst know anyone else that'll be at your wedding.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Wow, this is a tough one. IMO, and I know I might get reamed out for this, you should always give someone the option of bringing a date to the wedding. That is just my personal opinion, so I voted that YES you should allow her to bring a guest.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I would tell her NO....Just say that you're very sorry, but you really have to keep your guestlist tight. Make sure you tell her that you still hope she can come because you'd love to see her. That's what I would do.

On second thought...I just realized that you wrote she was from another state, so I probably would let her bring a guest since she is willing to come from Florida to be at your wedding!

Message edited 9/23/2005 4:54:50 PM.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

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Posted by Soon2BMrsA

Id say yes if she doesnst know anyone else that'll be at your wedding.

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Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I only say yes because she is coming in from another state-

a guest = a flying buddy and someone to stay with after the party..

who wants to be alone in another state

is she were here I would say NO

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Posted by tracy2246

I only say yes because she is coming in from another state-

a guest = a flying buddy and someone to stay with after the party..

who wants to be alone in another state

is she were here I would say NO

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Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I would do what my friend did, she told a guest that she has a specific number that she doesn't want to go over but she hasn't received all of her replies but as soon as she does recieve them and if there are regrets then of course she can bring a guest.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

If the other people she knows are bringing people, I would let her bring people too. IMO it woudl suck to sit alone for most of the party...

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Posted by 12-3Princess

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Posted by Soon2BMrsA

Id say yes if she doesnst know anyone else that'll be at your wedding.

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I just edited my post... she DOES know a few other people at the wedding actually... a couple of our other good friends... but 2 out of the 3 people that are coming that she knows do have fiances that will be attending.

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Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I feel that every adult should invited with a guest. It is not fun being at a Wedding with no one to dance with, watching all the other couples have fun.

If the person is close enought to invite then they should be invited with a guest.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I voted for her bringing a guest. She will have someone not only for your wedding but also to come here from another state.

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Posted by jilmadison

I feel that every adult should invited with a guest. It is not fun being at a Wedding with no one to dance with, watching all the other couples have fun.

If the person is close enought to invite then they should be invited with a guest.

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Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I say yes. A friend of mine who is coming from Ireland is bringing a girl she works with. I've never met this girl, but I would rather my friend has someone to hang out with while I'm busy.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I would let her have a guest since she is traveling from out of state, and since she won't know that many people at your wedding.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

The only people we invited with guests were people who were living with or engaged to people. All of the other single guests know at least half a dozen or so more people. We have no b-list. Everyone has their reasons. Whats right for one may not be right for another. I have gone to weddings alone not knowing people and I did just fine. I know how to be social. I didn't consider it rude or innappropriate that I was invited alone either.

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Posted by Goldi1021

The only people we invited with guests were people who were living with or engaged to people. All of the other single guests know at least half a dozen or so more people. We have no b-list. Everyone has their reasons. Whats right for one may not be right for another. I have gone to weddings alone not knowing people and I did just fine. I know how to be social. I didn't consider it rude or innappropriate that I was invited alone either.

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Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I'd say no. You WERE close in college. Its not like you ARE close now. I would just say sorry and if she doesnt come... thats one less to pay for.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I would if she is out of state.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

especailly since she is travelling a long distance to see u i think you should allow the guest.
i personally wouldnt travel by myself that for if i was by myself. i know it sux but i think a guest invite would be a nice gesture

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Considering she is coming from out of state I would let her bring her boyfriend. Not only for the sake of the wedding, but otherwise she will have to stay in a hotel room by herself.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

Hi! Ok, I think if she is from NY then she comes alone, there is a reason why you invite someone with or without guest. But because she is already being nice enough to fly here and spend the extra expense to attend your wedding then I think that you have to say ok.
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Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

I would invite her with a guest only because she's coming out of state to go to your wedding. I think it's the right thing to do.

Re: Friend I barely speak to wants to bring a guest . . . HELP w POLL

This is a tough situation. Because you are not close now, I would be inclined not to make an exception for her. Because she is coming in from out of town, I would be inclined to make an exception for her.

Ask yourself if you really truly want her to come, and whether or not she will still fly to NY without a guest. Will telling her no, put the final nail in the coffin of your friendship? Do you care if it does?

Another consideration, you said she told you she is now living with her EX-boyfriend. I assume that is the guest in question. Do you know him? Do you like him? What do you know about their break-up and subsequent make-up? Is their relationship likely to become an issue with the people you would seat her with?

I did really like the idea someone else posted of telling her you need to wait for other RSVP's to keep within your budget before you can give her a definate answer.