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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
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please cheer me up-with update
Message edited 6/22/2006 12:51:55 PM.
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Posted 9/18/05 4:33 PM 
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gNi1125
Caught my lobster!
Member since 1/05 6243 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/4/2006 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on The Bay
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Re: please cheer me up
 OMG!! That is horrible!! Please stop crying though it's not going to help you any right now. I really don't know what happened or what FBIL said to you...but I do know that under NO circumstances is your FMIL in any position to tell you if you're cancelling your hall or if the wedding is off. She's just wrong on so many levels. I hope everything works out...don't worry about her and FBIL. Just take care of you and FH. 
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Posted 9/18/05 4:43 PM
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Wintersbride
Congrats to my sis and new BIL
Member since 7/04 3241 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/20/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Country Gardens A+++++++
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Re: please cheer me up
It seems like this is more of an issue between you and FMIL not you and FH (because you two made up)...so there is no reason to call off the wedding. It actually seems immature on FMIL's part to butt in like that. I hope FH steps up to the plate and put her in her place.
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Posted 9/18/05 4:43 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
Message edited 6/22/2006 12:52:15 PM.
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Posted 9/18/05 4:46 PM
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gracie1030
Board Enthusiast
Member since 7/05 79 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/8/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Lombardis on the Sound
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Re: please cheer me up
Thats horrible. I feel so bad. Just try to relax and let things settle a bit. Its probably just a fight that got blown out of proportion. Dont say that the wedding is off. Who cares what FMIL says you're not marrying her. have you heard from FH since?
heres a hug feel better
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Posted 9/18/05 4:47 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
I used to think i had such a great FILs, but i dont feel that way anymore.
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Posted 9/18/05 4:48 PM
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BKtoLI
Some things just never change
Member since 6/05 8519 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2006 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace - A++
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Re: please cheer me up
Calm down and relax. I wouldn't worry until you hear from your FH about the result of what happens after he talks to her. His family has no right to treat you that way, but what is more important is that your FH is standing up for you!!
She is probably upset that she is losing her son. A lot of mothers have a hard time dealing this fact. And as for his brother, he has no right to put you down, especially in your presence!!!
I understand you said his family was paying for some portions of the wedding, and therefore you may not be able to stop her from cancelling the hall, if they were the ones who placed the deposit. But it will work out in the end, even if it means the wedding is postponed to allow you to pay for it yourselves.
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Posted 9/18/05 4:49 PM
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gNi1125
Caught my lobster!
Member since 1/05 6243 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/4/2006 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on The Bay
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Re: please cheer me up
Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006
Well see they are payinf for half of the wedding and have been making the first set of payments so she decided she was calling it off. FH said her exact words were she was calling the hall to call it off because i'm too immature to get married, but excuse me your son says **** he shouldnt say and you expect me to be ok with it. i dont care if hes joking or being sarcastic its uncalled for.
That's nice of them to pay for half of the wedding but that doesn't give her the right to hang it over your head and cancel it altogether. After all, YOU are the bride. Cancelling the wedding is YOUR call. If she doesn't want to pay for half anymore then that's her call and you might have to work around that. Sorry you are dealing with this...Good Luck
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Posted 9/18/05 4:49 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
Message edited 6/22/2006 12:52:37 PM.
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Posted 9/18/05 4:51 PM
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MrsStefan
We're MARRIED!!!
Member since 1/05 5990 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2006 10:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's A++++++
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Re: please cheer me up
Oh please stop crying!! It sounds to me like FMIL is WAY to involved in this situation. FMIL needs to back the **** up!!! If you and FH are fine then I dont see any reason why you wouldnt get married. Its about the marriage, not the wedding!!! From what you are saying, it sounds like you and FH can work things out. I am sure that he is talking to his mother and maybe he even has a few choice words for her as well. I hope that things work out!!
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Posted 9/18/05 5:04 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
i don't know, all i know its been now over 2 hours and i havent heard from him and i have a feeling i wont. i told him before i got on train what if she makes you choose and hes like i dont know. this is so stupid and petty and i cant believe shes being like this :(
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Posted 9/18/05 5:06 PM
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CTarantino
04-28-06
Member since 11/04 2451 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/28/2006 5:00 PM
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Re: please cheer me up
I am so sorry!!
I can't stand my FIL's and I am like you I keep my mouth shut and don't usually say anything but I said something to them and got into a tiff and have not been back to them months, I know what you mean and so sorry about the argument, You totally did the right thing and got outta there...give it time to blow over and I am sure FH will come running back to you and clear it all up with his mom.
Good Luck and I hope all works out!
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Posted 9/18/05 5:09 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
Posted by CTarantino
I am so sorry!!
I can't stand my FIL's and I am like you I keep my mouth shut and don't usually say anything but I said something to them and got into a tiff and have not been back to them months, I know what you mean and so sorry about the argument, You totally did the right thing and got outta there...give it time to blow over and I am sure FH will come running back to you and clear it all up with his mom.
Good Luck and I hope all works out!
thank you. this is so hard for me right now, mystomach is killing me because i'm so stresssed and cant believe this even happened. I never had problem with the FILs and now i'm so upset. and waiting is making it worse.
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Posted 9/18/05 5:11 PM
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GsCM4EVA
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 2/05 2838 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/13/2006 12:00 AM
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Re: please cheer me up
Why dont u wear the ring around your house/his house?
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Posted 9/18/05 5:16 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
i'm a clutz and when i sleep i dont wear it.
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Posted 9/18/05 5:18 PM
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july06bride
Happy First Anniversary to Us!
Member since 12/04 7796 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 2:45 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Estate
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Re: please cheer me up
Dont let your FMIL rule the wedding...LET HER cancel the hall if she wants, then you dont have to worry about her or inlaws at all...youmay have choose a different hall, but if doing it on your own means NO FMIL involved I would do it, BUT dont let her tell you that you are cancelling the wedding how does this woman really think she is???? FH will call! Dont worry!
Message edited 9/18/2005 5:54:15 PM.
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Posted 9/18/05 5:53 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
its been over 3 hours and stillno call from FH
he would have called by now.
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Posted 9/18/05 5:59 PM
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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
stewart manor country club
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Re: please cheer me up
how are you the immature one?? she's making a scene in public...not cool. i say let him deal with is mother, don't get involved there.
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Posted 9/18/05 6:05 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
yeah but wwatch she'll still probably twist it on me even though she blew it out.
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Posted 9/18/05 6:06 PM
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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
stewart manor country club
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Re: please cheer me up
Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006
yeah but wwatch she'll still probably twist it on me even though she blew it out.
but i'm sure your fh knows that its her and not you. i mean, from reading this it seems like your fbil started in on you. and i know how hard it is to argue with a stubborn person
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Posted 9/18/05 6:10 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
yea, but regardless of how it started its how it finished thats scaring me now. FH would have called by now
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Posted 9/18/05 6:11 PM
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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
stewart manor country club
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Re: please cheer me up
Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006
yea, but regardless of how it started its how it finished thats scaring me now. FH would have called by now
call him..does he have a cell phone? call him on that....take some control here,girl.
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Posted 9/18/05 6:13 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: please cheer me up
unfortuntely he lost his cell phone last week, isnt getting new one until tomorrow and i cant exactly call his house
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Posted 9/18/05 6:15 PM
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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
stewart manor country club
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Re: please cheer me up
thats why i said the cell, i wouldn't want to call his house either.
sorry, hang in there
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Posted 9/18/05 6:16 PM
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EmberLynn
Keeping it real!
Member since 11/03 3483 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/6/2006 2:00 PM
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Re: please cheer me up
Honey, if he really loves you he will stand up to them all and stick by your side. If he doesn't, then he isnt' worth even your tears! You see a man takes a wife, he is now a man and can't have his parents and sibblings run his life. And you don't a huge wedding to be man and wife, and heck if she cancelled the hall, then look at it as good now you don't have to invite her or any of her guest. Again lets see if your FH is ready to be a man and stand up for you! Have strength. I know its hard, but be stronge. You deserve to be treated with respect and if they can't treat you with it and he doesn't stand up for you, then he is not mature enough to be married.
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Posted 9/18/05 6:24 PM
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