Advice for my married friend...Please

What would you do if your friend called your FI/DH more than she called you???

The story...
My friend, who was recently married, has a problem with her MOH. The MOH kind of (flirts with?) her husband. She calls him & visits him at work. And she kind of flirts with him in front of my friend. Example... Puts her head on his shoulder, rubs his arm. It's a little wierd.

She called me yesterday bcz she doesn't know what to do... Her DH tells her it's nothing. I'm not sure what to tell her.
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Re: Advice for my married friend...Please

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

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It definitely sounds like more than "nothing" and I would have your friend speak to her MOH and ask her what's up, then speak to her husband. Sometimes a woman's intuition will tell you what's going on...she needs to listen to that.

for your friend because it must stink to deal with this.

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Posted by KarAnthony

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

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Posted by KarAnthony

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

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Posted by ChristineAE

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Posted by KarAnthony

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

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I agree. Nothing is usually something.

It's disrespectful in the utmost.

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Personally, I don't think that there is anything going on between them. I just think that the girl is single and craves male attention... I dunno.

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Posted by KerriSteve

Personally, I don't think that there is anything going on between them. I just think that the girl is single and craves male attention... I dunno.

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Message edited 9/15/2005 4:18:09 PM.

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Posted by KerriSteve

Personally, I don't think that there is anything going on between them. I just think that the girl is single and craves male attention... I dunno.

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I dont understand why he would let her act that way around him. Wouldnt your FH/DH be like..ummm why are you touching me??

It doesnt have to be mean, she should just tell them both it bothers her and they need to act appropriately. If they dont say sorry, didnt realize it, and fight her on it then somethings going on.

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Posted by ChristineAE

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Posted by KarAnthony

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

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I agree. Nothing is usually something.

It's disrespectful in the utmost.

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Posted by ChristineAE

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Posted by KarAnthony

hire a private detective

I don't mess around. Woman's instinct is too important to ignore.

JMO

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I agree. Nothing is usually something.

It's disrespectful in the utmost.

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Re: Advice for my married friend...Please

Your friend should be questioning HER husband!!!! Even if this woman has a crush on him or craves the attention of married men- especially for the challenge, I do believe it is HE that should NOT be letting this happen- He needs to be the one to set things straight- "if" there is really "nothing" going on- If she says something she comes off like the insecure wife but she should be discussing this with her husband and if doesnt want to put a stop to this disrespectful behavior- who knows maybe hes the one giving her the signals or craves the attention- I would def hire a PI without a doubt- always go with your gut!

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of course he is going to say "nothing" is going on. But in my opinion, most FH/DH's would think it was wierd if his FW/DW's MOH was coming to visit him, calling him, rubbing his arm. Isn't that a bit over the top for it to be "nothing"??

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I'd kick her A&$

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I would speak to the girl and tell her to stop seeing my husband and I would end the friendship. I can't be friends with anyone who does not respect my marriage. I would also sit my husband down and tell him that it is absolutely inappropriate for him to have a relationship of that nature iwth another woman.

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You know I had to read your post again and said to myself why the hell would you ask someone to be your MOH if they are flirting with your FH- then I said maybe the MOH started this after she was asked or after they were married, in any event I would be so pissed at my husband for allowing this to go on- AND after thinking some more yea I would confront her and end the friendship and give her a piece of my mind- THEN if DH was to seem upset or try to convince me to be friends with her still- oh boy there would be big trouble- the gloves would come out , that phone would be on my ear hiring a PI and then get him for everything for making me look like a fool- Im sure his coworkers are like whos that???????

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If it was me - the next time it happened, I would flat out tell her to stop or we are no longer friends. No conversation, then change the subject. JMHO.

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i'm sure the friend is ragingly jealous, and likewise wants her to feel jealous. it's totally disrespectful and caniving...not someting a real friend would do. i'd be more mad at my FH actually though, to let that happen. he has to respect his wife's feelings and avoid this kind of interaction with any other woman. it's just not right.

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OMG - I would confront this 'friend' - and tell her that her behavior is not acceptable and makes me uncomfortable. If it continued, I would end the friendship. Honestly, if any of my BM or MOH was all up on my FH rubbing his arm or putting her head on his shoulder, I would totally call her out at that moment.

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and God FORBID they are doing something...hair and balls would be flying! I would probably go to prison, not just because of the infidelity, but the WHO of the infidelity!

I really hope it's nothing.

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Posted by girlygrl33
Even if this woman has a crush on him or craves the attention of married men- especially for the challenge, I do believe it is HE that should NOT be letting this happen- QUOTE]

i completely agree.

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IMHO -- that friend is no friend at all. Yes, she should be confronted and yes, your friend should talk to her DH. But, your friend should also think about the fact that she should not have to tell her one of her BFs not to flirt with her hubby. That's f**d up regardless of what the girls rationale is. I don't think she can be trusted...

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Um no, not acceptable. I am pretty laid back. I know that people will flirt. Hell, I flirt, but that is not exceptable. I would have a dicussion with him because he needs to put a stop to it. Men can be naive about the ways of the desperate single woman, but we all know that there are woman out there that intentionally go after men that they know can make a commitment.

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unless MOH is way younger or severly DUMB
she should lay off her fh. MOH need to be TOLD.
i agree- private detective- or at lest have a friend she wont recognize find out the truth.

ugh i hate that stuff