Where will your FMIL be on the morning of your wedding day?

MY FMIL is hinting around (and straight out asking at this point) if she can be with me, my bridal party, and my mom on the morning of our wedding.

I am getting ready in my hotel room in the city with my bridal party and mom.

I feel that I really didn't want ANYONE from his family seeing me prior to the Church... Other than his sister, who is a bridesmaid. Is it unreasonable for me to feel this way? Anyone else feel this way?

What's customary?

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It's totally your call, and understandable that you want to be with just family, and it's a little rude for her to push.
She should be with her husband and your FH in case the photographer wants to take pics of them before the church.
My sister got around this by giving her FMIL a gift certificate to get her hair/nails done the morning of the wedding. Just a suggestion!

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I can totally understand where you are coming from, I think she just wants to be close to you the morning off. My MIL came to my hair salon and hung out with me and my BMs for a little bit. She was so happy to see me before.

ps - I did end up sort of telling her she had to go - cause she kept making me cry (she cried almost the whole time she was there)

We laugh about it now.

It is completely up to you. I would tell her how you feel either way. Good Luck.

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I invited FMIL to come to my house and get her hair done with me and the bridesmaids that morning...She doesn't want to and that really made me upset because I thought she would want to be included...Oh well!

Message edited 9/14/2005 4:22:25 PM.

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I'm curious as to why she wouldn't want to be with her son while he's getting ready?

It's a little strange to me, but IMO, I agree, it's your call to make.

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Posted by LFitzy79

It's totally your call, and understandable that you want to be with just family, and it's a little rude for her to push.
She should be with her husband and your FH in case the photographer wants to take pics of them before the church.
My sister got around this by giving her FMIL a gift certificate to get her hair/nails done the morning of the wedding. Just a suggestion!

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Posted by MissingTheBGene

I'm curious as to why she wouldn't want to be with her son while he's getting ready?

It's a little strange to me, but IMO, I agree, it's your call to make.

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Posted by ladybug78

I invited FMIL to come to my house and get her hair done with me and the bridesmaids that morning...She doesn't want to and that really made me upset because I thought she would want to be included...Oh well!

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Good question, My MIL is deceased but I would think she would want to be with HER son getting ready and the guys too, in that case I would have sent a photographer to his house, but he and the guys and his dad got ready in the hotel. DH and I lived together b4 the wedding, so I was home with the girls and my family, but if my MIL wanted to be with me I would let her- trust me- there is so much commotion you prob wont notice her too much, I had my grandparents at the house and the mothers of the lil girls and jrbm's so there was a lot of people in the house. I couldnt even tell you who was where I was so busy! GL with your decision, I think I would let her in on this one- she may throw in your face when your pregnant and she wants to be in the roomat delivery too that you didnt let her in on the wedding day the "other" important day of your life!!!! this way if you just want YOUR mom and DH you can say I had you a part of my wedding day this is just for my mom, hope you can understand-

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Since I am getting married at the reception hall, My FIL's are going to meet us before the ceremony to take pictures. I think you should do what YOU want, no matter what anyone else thinks. It's YOUR day

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I invited her to have her hair & makeup done with me and my mom and the other BMs. I wanted to include her. Were great friends!

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Mine will be with the rest of the guests at the hotel where the reception is, I will not see her until I walk down the aisle.

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Mu MIL was with her son and husband...as well as the rest of "her side" of the BP. They all got ready at her house. I also invited her to come to mine and she declined...oh well!

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Posted by ladybug78

I invited FMIL to come to my house and get her hair done with me and the bridesmaids that morning...She doesn't want to and that really made me upset because I thought she would want to be included...Oh well!

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Message edited 5/29/2006 10:35:38 AM.

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Mine will be in her home with her husband and her mother and her 2 daughters fighting for shower time in a 5 bedroom house with only one working shower before they are LATE yes LATE for pictures to be taken at approximately 5 pm. I told FH if they are late for the pictures before the ceremony (at 7:30) then there will be no pictures of his family. We are paying too much to miss our cocktail hour because of bad time management skills.

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Posted by BHW

I think it's nice that she wants to be there with you and I can understand why she may not want to be around all of the guys getting ready.

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I think that everyone has different relationships with the FMILs -- we did not chose them, they are not like friends, we fell in love with their sons. I think you are very fortunate if you get along with you FMIL but, just as really close friends are hard to find, I think a close relationship with your FMIL is not an easy thing and should not be expected. (That was all in response to previous messages).

That being said, I think that if you want that time without her (and I certainly would not want my FMIL there -- although I have a feeling that will be a battle with my mama's boy FH) then just tell her that you kind of want to surprise her and her just to see the before and after, you know? Maybe you could have the FH drop a couple of hints like "My FW is soooo stressed... she just found out there are going to be soooo many people getting ready in her hotel room. She is practically in tears...etc." Good luck with you... and worst case scenario -- you will be sooo busy you won't even realize she is there

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No way no how would I have wanted my MIL with me getting ready. She should be with her son! That's just odd.

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I hope w/me. But she would probably want to be w/ her son

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she will get makeup and hair done with the girls but then she will go to hotel with her son

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Message edited 6/5/2007 8:13:33 PM.

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My FMIL will be at her house but she has seen me in my dress so if she wanted to be with me it wouldn't bother me...but that is a personal call.

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I invited FMIL to come to my house for makeup/hair. She only has 2 sons and will never the mother of the bride. She hasn't decided what she will do because it seems she would like both. I live 55 miles from FH's house, so she has to make a decision.
I would like to have her there because she's such a sweetheart. It will bring us good memories in the future.

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My FMIL will be right upstairs

FH is getting ready on the 2nd floor of his grandmothers house and Im getting ready on the 1st floor


im so excited we are getting ready seperately but kinda together as well

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It's your call, I only want to be with my family the morning of also. My FMIL and FFIL are going to be at there house with my FH, groomens and his family.