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Is anyone doing the whole wedding planning by yourself w/ little or no support at all?

Message edited 7/20/2005 11:18:44 PM.

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Well I wouldn't say I'm doing all the planning alone. I get a lot of support from my mom and my sister (MOH). As for my FI, he's interested but he's not extremely involved. We live together so we talk about the planning. To be honest, there are way more things that I want "my way" that my FI doesn't even have an opinion on so his attitude is "whatever you want". I know when it's time to pick things like the menu or our HM he will be more involved.

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I agree

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Same thing here - FH wants to be involved in picking the vendors, but as far as favors, programs, votives on tables, guestbooks, etc. he could care less. Makes it easier for me - then I get what I want

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I have actually more support then I need... I have too many people are giving me there opinions !!!

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Posted by SIBride06

I have actually more support then I need... I have too many people are giving me there opinions !!!

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I'm a bit of a control freak - and I have selective hearing as far as all of the opinions go

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My MIL is helping very much as is my SIL , my sister and my MOH! Fh just really complains about all of the money we are spending! But he better help more when it comes closer!!

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FI and I are doing everything ourselves. We have almost no support from everyone else. Both of our familes ask questions, but noone is involved. FI has been great and has gone with me to every appointment.

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Posted by Swan06

Is anyone doing the whole wedding planning by yourself w/ little or no support at all?

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I stated to my FI would you be helping me? In return he stated well you have been waiting for this 28yrs so have fun. In my head i said fine then I do the Planning and he can't say a thing when I come ask for money.....LOL

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hopefully things will change as my wedding gets closer - but i know the feeling of "i have this whole thing to plan, and i have to do it all myself" - very overwhelming.

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Posted by hmpena

FI and I are doing everything ourselves. We have almost no support from everyone else. Both of our familes ask questions, but noone is involved. FI has been great and has gone with me to every appointment.

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I am planning everything by myself and FH kind of left everything up to me. But it becomes very frustrating when you need your FH's opinion and he tells you "Whatever you want dear" Well, I had to have a little talk with him and actually told him that if he doesn't step up to the plate that I will quit with the planning. Of course, he listened to me and yesssssed me, but the next time I wanted to talk to him about something I got the impression that again he wasnt interested so I told him that I quit (which of course I did not ). It did freak him out and he after a while he started asking me questions about it and eventually became more involved...sort of. But at least now he knows the deal.

As far as opinions go, people suggest things to me, but I flat out tell them either yes thats a good idea or no its not...Im not about to put on a front and deal with all this BS that some of you put up with...

By the way, did I tell you girls that I am PMSing today...holy crap-I feel like a totally different person...I think Im Elvira the Witch for the day!

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I am basically doing everything alone- My Mom passed away and my Dad comes to the appiontments where money is needed-

I wanted my FH to help- but he works till 8 or 9pm most night- and he really doesn't care as long as I am happy-

It does drive me a little crazy - b/c I get yessed alot also

Message edited 7/21/2005 9:55:34 AM.

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Posted by Beth1210

I am basically doing everything alone- My Mom passed away and my Dad comes to the appiontments where money is needed-

I wanted my FH to help- but he works till 8 or 9pm most night- and he really doesn't care as long as I am happy-

It does drive me a little crazy - b/c I get yessed alot also

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My FH only gives his opinions when needed. I am doing most of the planning myself. He is working on the house stuff. Since he decides not to really help me with much of the planning I dont help him much with the house stuff. Its only fair. That'll learn him.

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Well now that I think about it, my FH is ALWAYS doing something around the house (of course not cleaning-rather making a mess) but he is a Mr. Fix-it-All-By-Myself, and he is always doing something in the yard...so maybe I shouldnt feel so bad that I get to do plan it all by myself.

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My mom and sister (MOH) are interested - but they're not really involved at this time. I know they'll be super-involved when I need them - which will be the few weeks before the wedding.

FH just wants me to have whatever I want

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Posted by BEANS







hopefully things will change as my wedding gets closer - but i know the feeling of "i have this whole thing to plan, and i have to do it all myself" - very overwhelming.

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Posted by SIBride06

I have actually more support then I need... I have too many people are giving me there opinions !!!

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I've been doing pretty much everything with my mom. FH would really rather buy a house but he knows I want a nice wedding, so he's not getting in the way. I love planning, so I don't mind that he's pretty much left everything up to me. He gives me his thoughts when I ask and he knows he's in charge of music and tuxes, so he's been good in that respect. I'm not as close with my BMs as I'd like to be and my MOH lives in Brooklyn so she comes out sometimes but not as often as I know she'd like to. I think it'll all start to come together more as we get closer!!

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Posted by M&S Sept292006

Well now that I think about it, my FH is ALWAYS doing something around the house (of course not cleaning-rather making a mess) but he is a Mr. Fix-it-All-By-Myself, and he is always doing something in the yard...so maybe I shouldnt feel so bad that I get to do plan it all by myself.

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Posted by M&S Sept292006

Well now that I think about it, my FH is ALWAYS doing something around the house (of course not cleaning-rather making a mess) but he is a Mr. Fix-it-All-By-Myself, and he is always doing something in the yard...so maybe I shouldnt feel so bad that I get to do plan it all by myself.

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All mine does is make a mess- even after he knows I cleaned or the cleaning women came-
but he works alot harder then I do- to provide for me and our lifestyle -

Plus my Dad told him is only job is to show up- it is taking it very seriously!

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I am definitely doing the whole planning myself.
I will be the 10th child in my family to get married..although I am the last and the baby girl..they are all kind of like whatever about it.

My friends have been ultra supportive and that has been so great. I wasn't much help to them when they got married since I was pretty selfish a few years back so there support has been something I will remember forever.