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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
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Hamlet Willow Creek
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UPDATED: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
So my boyfriend of almost two years, who I was anticipating proposing soon, just told me he thinks that we need a little break, to get some perspective....
how long of a break you ask? oh, about SIX MONTHS. Is he freaking kidding me???? This all started with a conversation thursday....where I told him that he didn't seem happy lately, and was it something that we could work on-he told me that he was sorry, that he knew he was distant, and that he didn't know what was on his mind. So I told him that we should take the weekend to ourselves, have some private time, and when he was ready to talk he should call me. I kept hoping that I would turn around and he'd be standing there with open arms. Well, today I walk into work, and that coward emailed me, at 2:30am, that he loves me, and that he wants us to be together but he thinks that this time apart is what we need, the whole if you love something set it free thing.....
I emailed him back that he was acting like a little boy, and that if this is truly what he feels, then lets discuss it tonight-can you believe that he hasn't written back to me yet-I don't know whether to laugh, cry or punch someone in the face.
The pathetic thing is that I love him....I know that we had some problems, but I didn't think I was that bad that he needs 6 months away from me.....
Here's the kicker-my family re-union is this weekend, my sisters wedding (I am the MOH) is 8/13/05, and a couple that we are close to is having thier wedding 8/27/05...lovely. I feel like such a D I C K.
Sorry I needed to vent.
ETA: Well, he never called, and I didn't call him. And he never wrote back to my email. So, I guess it's over-I think the six month thing was his way of ending it because he couldn't say "I want to break up".....
Thanks everyone for your hugs and support. I felt that something was wrong-I gave him an out, and he took it. I just have to get over it. I truly love him, and I really do want him to be happy-and I wish that being with me was what he wanted, but um....clearly it's not.
And I hope that one day he realizes what we had together.
Anyway, thanks guys. 
Message edited 7/12/2005 8:31:47 AM.
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Posted 7/11/05 3:22 PM 
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Shorty McBride
so done!
Member since 4/05 12783 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/23/2007 5:00 PM
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Winter Garden Pavilion, Fox Hollow
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Re: So I need a hug, but a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
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Posted 7/11/05 3:24 PM
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hbradio
Our board is gone :-(
Member since 11/03 9840 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/29/2005 4:00 PM
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Chateau Briand
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Re: So I need a hug, but a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Vent away!
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Posted 7/11/05 3:25 PM
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TreAnt425
Always and Forever
Member since 1/05 4435 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/27/2007 3:00 PM
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East Wind - Estate - A+
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
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Posted 7/11/05 3:25 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
why do boys stink????
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Posted 7/11/05 3:26 PM
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diamondgrlie
Board Princess
Member since 2/04 10473 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club - A+
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Men 
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Posted 7/11/05 3:26 PM
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BMD'sPeanut
Rock The Casbah!
Member since 10/03 8733 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/24/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I'll be your date 
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Posted 7/11/05 3:32 PM
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brooklynbridezilla
Ever After
Member since 4/04 6651 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/5/2005 12:30 PM
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
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Posted 7/11/05 3:33 PM
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Boop2704
It's A Sickness!
Member since 3/03 6050 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/7/2004 3:00 PM
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Stuart Thomas Manor A+++++++
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I am sorry. That was pretty sh1tty of him to say all that in an email. Definitely confront him face to face and see whats going on, why this recent turn of events. And you have to think hard for yourself, if this is what you want, if you are willing to wait a whole six months for him , without having any guarentees at the end of six months he'll be there with open arms. It's not fair to ask you to put your life on hold for six months. I hope everything works out for you!!
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Posted 7/11/05 3:34 PM
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Danielle&Scott
Mom, I will always love you.
Member since 8/03 8806 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/14/2004 7:30 PM
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by diamondgrlie
Men
Hey - I am a man and I wouldnt do that. I feel bad for what you are going through. I hope you can sit him down and get to the bottom of everything.
Scott
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Posted 7/11/05 3:34 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by BMD'sPeanut
I'll be your date
Thanks, it's entitely possible I'll be taking you up on that...I just feel so icky right now.....I can't beleive that he hasn't even emailed me back-how could that just happen??
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Posted 7/11/05 3:43 PM
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FeliciaDA
I'm a Mommy!
Member since 12/03 11599 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/25/2004 1:00 PM
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Thatched Cottage A+
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I don't even know what to say, just wanted to offer you some hugs and we're here if you need/want to talk
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Posted 7/11/05 3:45 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by Danielle&Scott
Posted by diamondgrlie
Men
Hey - I am a man and I wouldnt do that. I feel bad for what you are going through. I hope you can sit him down and get to the bottom of everything.
Scott
I want to know *** happened, but I really hate the idea of confronting him-I almost feel like what's the point, he obviously doens't want to talk to me...I don't know why, but I can't badger him into being with me. This really s*cks.
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Posted 7/11/05 3:46 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by FeliciaDA
I don't even know what to say, just wanted to offer you some hugs and we're here if you need/want to talk
Thanks.....I just have to wait until I am out of work and in my car before I let myself cry, I refuse to cry at work.
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Posted 7/11/05 3:47 PM
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ambersmom
What????
Member since 7/04 3842 total posts
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11/1/2009 12:00 PM
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I'm so very sorry...that was so chicken $hit of him to send an email to you, especially since you have all these upcoming major events happening. Some people are so self absorbed. I would nail him down and demand some answers. And no way would I go for this six months bit. If he wants out, there's the door (and nope, it's not a revolving one where you can walk back in when you get your poop in check). You deserve better, you deserve honesty. You deserve someone who is committed to you heart and soul. Please feel better
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Posted 7/11/05 3:52 PM
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diamondgrlie
Board Princess
Member since 2/04 10473 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club - A+
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by Danielle&Scott
Posted by diamondgrlie
Men
Hey - I am a man and I wouldnt do that. I feel bad for what you are going through. I hope you can sit him down and get to the bottom of everything.
Scott
Sorry... my sister's bf just did the same thing and I had to wait around for my DH for 6 years.
No offense to you Scott
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Posted 7/11/05 3:58 PM
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MonkeyLuv
It's An Obsession
Member since 8/04 4437 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/2012 12:00 AM
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booked
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I hope everything works out and that you are happy... but don't put your life on hold for him. You have to do what is right for you.
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Posted 7/11/05 4:00 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
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Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I know this is so pathetic and stupid to say, but it's just not fair-why do I love him? and why doesn't he love me? UGH!!!!!! I hate this feeling.
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Posted 7/11/05 4:03 PM
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Mrs. dleeny
My most beautiful day ever
Member since 3/05 12395 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2005 5:00 PM
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Swan Club A+
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
I hope you guys work it out.
but I agree with you on the coward comment. sending you an email was BS!
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Posted 7/11/05 4:04 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
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Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by MonkeyLuv
I hope everything works out and that you are happy... but don't put your life on hold for him. You have to do what is right for you.
You know what else s*cks-I don't even know if he wants me to put my life on hold-are we broken up, are we seeing other people, are we on a break, are we never speaking again, was that it-after two years, that's all, a f*cking email is all I am worth???? @sshole, I hope he gets a fungus
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Posted 7/11/05 4:06 PM
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MissingTheBGene
We're homeowners!
Member since 6/05 4547 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/2/2006 3:00 PM
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The Woodlands
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by MonkeyLuv
I hope everything works out and that you are happy... but don't put your life on hold for him. You have to do what is right for you.
I totally agree! I'm so sorry to hear this, Lauren! I agree he was a coward and I know it'll be hard but please please try to stay strong!
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Posted 7/11/05 4:09 PM
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ambersmom
What????
Member since 7/04 3842 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/1/2009 12:00 PM
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Good for you girl!! Get mad!!  He's not worth your tears if he can be this cruel. Leave you totally hanging. Look, his issues are just that, HIS! Either he's looking to step out, lost interest or some other phantom reason why he needs "time". If he was committed to you, he would not be looking for an out right in the middle of some big plans.
He totally doesn't deserve you
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Posted 7/11/05 4:13 PM
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heidla
Anyone care for a spot of tea?
Member since 10/02 5901 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2004 7:00 PM
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The Snuff Mill at the NYBG
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
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Posted 7/11/05 4:18 PM
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palebride
Intercourse knows no season...
Member since 6/03 12375 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/3/2004 12:00 PM
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Watermill
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
That's terrible that he did this to you over email.....shows his immaturity and lack of compassion...
But, don't blame yourself for loving him - it shows what a good person you are for being able to see the good in people
I hope he gets a fungus too
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Posted 7/11/05 4:18 PM
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LFitzy79
booked!!!!!
Member since 11/04 1543 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/13/2009 6:30 PM
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Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: So I need a hug, or a giggle if anyone has something fun to share....(long)
Posted by ambersmom
Good for you girl!! Get mad!! He's not worth your tears if he can be this cruel. Leave you totally hanging. Look, his issues are just that, HIS! Either he's looking to step out, lost interest or some other phantom reason why he needs "time". If he was committed to you, he would not be looking for an out right in the middle of some big plans.
He totally doesn't deserve you
thanks for the hugs...I hate having all these things I want to say to him that I can't-like "big fat f*cking coward momma's boy, I'm the best thing that ever walked into your life, and you're going to regret this forever!"
That's what my pride wants to say....
My heart wants to say "what was wrong with me?"
I need to go home and have a good cry and a glass of wine...and then figure out what to do about my friends wedding. F*ck....what do I do, call her and tell her I'm coming alone? I hate going to weddings alone.
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Posted 7/11/05 4:19 PM
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