So my parents think a card box is a bad idea

They don't think it's "safe." Anyone else agree? My dad says I should have a bag or sac and keep it close by.

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I am not sure which I will do. I personally don't want to carry around a bag all night w/ cards.

A suggestion...if you do have a card box, maybe you can assign someone to be "in charge" of it. I would suggest an older family member or friend who may not be up and dancing all night.

At FBIL's wedding, FH's gramma was at the table most of the night and she was "in charge" of the card box.

Just a suggestion!

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I think I'll have someone keep an eye on it... I can't see myself carrying around a bag or purse either. Plus...I've been to plenty weddings where mailboxes, birdcages, etc. have been and thankfully no one has taken anything.
Ours is sealed shut...the only way someone can get inside it is if they have a screwdriver and well...God Bless ya if you're going to stand there with a screwdriver during a wedding!

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honestly, nothing is "safe". No matter what you have, there's always the remote possibility that an evelope could get stolen, or even just fall out and get lost.

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Posted by LilyOfValley

They don't think it's "safe." Anyone else agree? My dad says I should have a bag or sac and keep it close by.

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Posted by suven

honestly, nothing is "safe". No matter what you have, there's always the remote possibility that an evelope could get stolen, or even just fall out and get lost.

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I made the Picture Photo Cube for my sister, and they kept it right behing where the bride and groom sat. But my sister also had a bad, but the bag couldn't hold ALL the cards, so the & would go to the Photo Box and put the cards from the bag into the box. The box was pretty safe. The BM's table was right next to it....

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Some of the rental boxes, cakes, mailboxes, etc. have a lock with a key.

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Posted by suven

honestly, nothing is "safe". No matter what you have, there's always the remote possibility that an evelope could get stolen, or even just fall out and get lost.

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Ill have to have someone occasionally empty it. I always write checks out to the bride and/or grooms name. I would never write it out to cash or give cash for that reason.

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Just make sure the box is placed where it is visible to you and your family. Our was right next to our sweetheart table.

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Posted by LilyOfValley

They don't think it's "safe." Anyone else agree? My dad says I should have a bag or sac and keep it close by.

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I started to do the card "cage" thingy and my mom had a fit. I wound up just getting a bag and it worked out. I wasn't carrying it around all day and my day-of person helped me keep an eye on it (along with "hawkeye" mom).

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I heard a horrible story a wad of cash being stolen from the Father of the Bride's jacket pocket during their reception. I thought that could easily be done without anyone seeing. So, I had a card cage and it was placed in plain site where everyone could see. I figured no one would have gotten away with taking it. I also didn't want anyone to have to have the responsibility of holding on to them.

P.S. (When the Bride and Groom watched their video, they saw the Father of the Groom taking the money from the other Father's pocket )

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I was at a wedding recently and this HUGE card box was on their table. It was totally horrible. It was like a big mailbox. I think that there should be something that is not in plain site. People should have to make contact with the bride and groom when giving them their cards - not just drop it in a box.

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I think a card box or a cage is fine. My cousin just had a cage. When she walked around to say hi, a lot of people handed her cards and she put them in the cage.
I think as long as you have a lock on it, it will be fine. I think its easier to steal a bag with cards in it, then a mailbox.

That post about the father of the groom stealing from the father of the bride is crazy!!!

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my parents thought it was tacky. I'm doing a bag.

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We were faced with the same dilema. We didn't think it was safe to just leave it there.
So.. what we ended up doint, is asking DH's mom, to take the envelopes from the inside, every so often. After ceremony, cocktail. And we did have someone watching it - taking shifts - at all times.

Towards the end of the night, the box stood there empty and MIL had the envelopes.

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I never thought about someone stealing the cards!! I don't know what I am going to do with them now!!

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many brides don't do the bag anymore because they feel it seems tacky to walk around to the tables "asking" for the money cards. A card box is nice because if you don't get to a table, thye can drop it in whenever they like. Plus, they are so big, that it'd be hard to walk out of the hall with it unnoticed.

We were going to do a box, but ran out of time, I ended up using a plain old basket and it was next to our table, but also next to my parents table-my dad kept an eye on it and it was fine.

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Posted by btrflygrl
many brides don't do the bag anymore because they feel it seems tacky to walk around to the tables "asking" for the money cards.

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I would put the cards in the box, but give the money to someone you can trust like the best man, your parents, his parents, a maid of honor, BM, etc.. someone who won't lose it, or run off with it. You could also ask the place where you are having the reception if they have a safe to store it for you.

Message edited 6/20/2005 9:43:45 AM.

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See if the hall has a locked safe in the bridal suite. we had this and we gave the cards to our BestMan and he put it in the safe for us.
A side note, we went to a wedding were there was a card box, and the bride and groom did not go around to greet there guests. I guess they figured they did not have to because the gifts were bring put in the gift card box. I thought it was tacky they did not go around to there guests.
At our wedding we made it a point to say hello and greet our guests.
JMO

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Don't most people give you the envelope towards the end of the reception? I usually give the bride & groom their gift sometime after they cut the cake.

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Posted by wood2be

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Posted by btrflygrl
many brides don't do the bag anymore because they feel it seems tacky to walk around to the tables "asking" for the money cards.

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That's what we thought. Besides, as past brides know, it's very hard to get around to seeing everyone.

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