It got even worse! Mom arguement updated

I was printing a sample program at my parents house yesterday and my mom asked me what i was doing. I made the MISTAKE of telling her and she went ballistic. She said she's never heard of programs for the wedding and that I've turned this wedding into a circus. She wants a traditional wedding and Im making a spectacle of it.
OK cowgirl........cool your horses. First and foremost weddings here in america are different from weddings in Guatemala. Second of all, I AM having a traditional wedding with traditional customs. And third of all this is my feckin wedding, not yours!!!
Whatever, I said nothing to her. Later on, when I finally got home, my sister (MOH) called laughing hysterically saying mom done lost her marbles. Although she made me feel a lot better, she also warned me not to share so much with my mom. She explained to mom that programs are normal. But I told her it was a darn shame that I cant share all the excitement of wedding planning with my own mom like everyone else does.
At least I have the understanding that my mother is pycho and its not me.
Vent over!!

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Message edited 5/26/2005 10:43:44 AM.

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Sorry Jenn! Your wedding is going to be fabulous and in no way a circus.

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I'm sorry,
.....you're wedding will be wonderful, and your mom will love it!

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She'll come around when she sees how beautiful things turn out!

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AHAHAHAHHA...ok cowgirl..cool your horses...ahahahah hysterical

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Posted by gtsgirl

AHAHAHAHHA...ok cowgirl..cool your horses...ahahahah hysterical

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Poor baby! I am sorry she is treating you like that

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Wow, your making programs are turning your wedding into a circus??? That's a new one!

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AWW don't fret...your wedding will be fabulous!!!

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Sorry DB....youre not the only one though Moms do indeed suck! Feel Better

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I'm sorry diva!

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wow programs!! your wedding is sooooo elaborate!!

kidding - but its funny that she thinks a program makes a wedding a spectecle.

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Posted by gtsgirl

AHAHAHAHHA...ok cowgirl..cool your horses...ahahahah hysterical

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Hey Diva, it sounds like our moms are very much alike!

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Oh NO Jenn!!! I am so sorry. Just stick to you guns. You know what you want for your day....and I bet she'll see when the big day comes how wonderful it all is and how your guests are going to enjoy themselves and YOU & your DH!!!!!!!!!!

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I wish my mom would get more involved in my wedding planning also....but its probably better that she doesn't...If she was more involved there would probably be alot for drama

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All I want to do is give you some

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Can I just tell you it got even worse..... Im not speaking to my mother because we had it out the following night.
I was checking my email on my dad's computer and nosey came into the room to see what I was doing. She said that she needed to talk to me about something. I said I know what it was about and I dont want to hear it. She said that she just wanted to give me her opinion, and again I told her I didnt care for her opinion and that I didnt want to hear it. She still goes on and tells me that what I've done to this wedding has become ridiculous, she had never heard of a program and quite frankly, programs belong on broadway, not a wedding. She proceeded to tell me that her customs are not like that and that Im not having a traditional wedding, Im having a show. She said that people were all ready talking sh!t about my wedding and that when her friends and family see the programs, they will be appalled. That she was only telling me "the truth" because no one else would. She said everyone was just telling me what I wanted to hear.
Everything that has been building up in me exploded. I told her that Im not getting married in Guatemala, Im getting married here. I was brought up here and follow american customs. I am having a traditional AMERICAN wedding. I told her since the very beginning of this planning, she has had nothing nice to say. Every choice I've made, she disagrees. Every dress I've picked or idea I've liked, she's hated. I told her how she broke me when she told me how fat I looked in my dress. She quickly changed her tune and told me it shouldnt matter what she thinks. I told her with everything, I went to her as a daughter looking for her mother's approval. I didnt want her advice or her opinion, I was just looking for a pat on the back. And like always, she never stands behind me on anything that I do. Unlike all the other girls that get to share with their mothers the joys of planning a wedding, here I was avoiding talking to my mother about it. She said that at least she told me how she felt and walked away. She left the house and left me crying my eyes out. I cant tell you how upset I am.
My sister called later that night and calmed me down, but I still feel awful. She makes me doubt myself and everything that I do. Is it so hard to reassure your daughter, instead of putting her down? Is it so hard to just tell a little white lie knowing you would make someone feel better? What little faith I had in my mother is now gone. I dont know what to think anymore.

Message edited 5/26/2005 10:44:33 AM.

Re: It got even worse! Mom arguement updated

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Your wedding will be beautiful no matter what she says.