Worries about what the Mom's will wear on the Big Day?! (Mother of the Bride/Groom)

Ok.. I don't know if anyone else out there is having this fear, but it is one of my biggest worries...

As I'm sure we all have encountered this, we often have very different styles and tastes than our mothers do.. are any of you worried about what dresses they will be choosing to wear on your wedding day?
My mom I think will be ok, but I am really concerned about FH's mom. I love her to death, but, she has recently become obsessed with wearing a hat to the wedding. I have to thank Camilla for this one, cause ever since she saw their wedding on TV, it's been her greatest love.
My family has always jokingly called me "the fashion police", and my dad still asks me if certain shirts go with ties, suits etc... but am I wrong to be concerned with what our moms will be wearing? I'm feeling really horrible about this, but FH tells me not to because he also thinks about what his mom will wear! lol...

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My concern is that both FMIL and my mom only wear black or navy blue because they are convinced they are fat and think that this will hide it - there are so many beautiul colors out there and i really want to see them wear something glittery or colorful - they would look gorgeous!! I convinced my mom to get a colorful or glittery jacket to wear on top of a dress but she still hasn't found anything she liked so we'll see - FMIL is still afraid of color - I'd love to see them in Lilac or royal blue or something in that family b/c they have the same skin tone and hair color and that would be great for them!

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It's ok for you to worry about it, you're gonna worry about everything anyway! If she really wants to wear a hat tho, let her. Everyone is gonna be looking at you and your FH, it won't matter that she's got a hat. Just ask her if she would please take it off for the pics so it doesn't cast a shadow on her face. I think that should satisfy both your ends.

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I'm not worried about what my mom will wear because she has great taste. Plus I will be with her shopping.
But I totally am with you on worrying about FMIL. I don't mean to sound mean. I just am hoping that FSIL helps her. I don't think she is up with style. Hopefully that works out. I have enough to worry about than trying o dress people. Now I know where FH get's it from. lol Now I know why I have to dress him. kidding
It's funny that you brought up hats. At my sister's wedding her MIL wore this hat that matched her dress. Fashion Police!
I know people have there own style, but sometimes all I can say is WOW!

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I can understand your concern...esp after being to a wedding of one of my cousins whose FMIL wore a bright green sequined dress - head to toe...it was a summer daytime wedding

I don't know if I am too concerend - I know my mother will look sophisticated and subtle...my FH's mother I beleive is the same way...I know neither of them will show up in anything over the top...I hope

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I'm glad I'm not the only one...
Both my mom and FMIL are concerned about their shapes...and my mom has considered wearing black, but I too think another color would be wonderful on her.. I'm hoping in the blue family, cause it would compliment her eyes so nicely! And plus it's a day wedding, so lighter colors would be better than black!

FMIL and Mom both want me to go with them to get their dresses, but.. how do you tell them nicely that a certain dress or color just isn't for them? I want them to look stunning, since both of them are overworked nurses and the closest thing to a nice outfit they own is patterned scrubs! I want them to feel their very best on our special day, cause it's their day too. They've waited a long time for it...

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I'm glad I'm not the only one...
Both my mom and FMIL are concerned about their shapes...and my mom has considered wearing black, but I too think another color would be wonderful on her.. I'm hoping in the blue family, cause it would compliment her eyes so nicely! And plus it's a day wedding, so lighter colors would be better than black!

FMIL and Mom both want me to go with them to get their dresses, but.. how do you tell them nicely that a certain dress or color just isn't for them? I want them to look stunning, since both of them are overworked nurses and the closest thing to a nice outfit they own is patterned scrubs! I want them to feel their very best on our special day, cause it's their day too. They've waited a long time for it...

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I am not worried about my mom, she has good taste.
I am a little worried about FMIL, she is not from LI, and things are totally different upstate. She is not the most fahionable person, but honestly, it doesn't really matter much to me. I just don't want her to feel out of place. Maybe when the time comes I can go up there to go shopping with her.

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I am more worried about what his mom will wear. The first time I meet her she had on bright pink lipstick and didn't exactly follow the lip line. I may volunteer and ask her if she wants me to go shopping with her.

My mom knows how to dress, thank god!

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I'm just worried because both my mom and fmil want to wear shorter dresses because they don't like how they look in longer styles. Are there dresses that length that are fancy enough? And probably neither of them want anything strappy because its not their style. I know they could do tank dresses with a jacket. Any other suggestions?

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My poor Erin...I am absolutely certain Mom will pick something stunning From what she has tried on already, she has done a great job!! Mom will take everything you say & know that you are watching out for her best interest!

No Brian's mom, I know you are REALLY worried...I know this is easier said then done, but I bet she is going to surprise you with something absolutely stunning...She has valued your opinions all the time so even if she tries something on that is ugly, tell her...She will be glad you were honest & did not let her embarass herself when she looks back at the pictures....

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My mom wants to wear the same color as my BM..which is like mint green/sage.. I really don't mind. My FMIL said she will wait for my mom to get a dress and then she will decide...its really not something I am concerned about

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Personally, I love the look of hats (and gloves!) at a wedding. It seems so proper to me.
But, if you KNOW you and FMIL do not have the same taste, offer to go shopping with her. And pick out some dresses for her to wear...and tell her how great she looks in them!

Ultimately, all eyes will be on you on the big day. I'm sure she will look great!