Some advice needed about close friend

Need some advice.....I've been really upset latley...one of my closest friends who is a BM is just growing further and further away from me....and I think it's by choice (hers not mine). There is no talking to her about my feelings - First of all she hardly answers my calls and if she does call me back she's busy doing something else and can't talk for very long. I did the email thing but my words got taken out of context and she thought I was attacking her and it just made things worse. I just don't understand...I know that everyone has there own lives and that they have things going on too - but I know she can make time to talk to other friends of mine. It just makes me really sad especially with my wedding 18 days away-this is the time I need her the most. I've known her practically my entire life I just dont understand why she picks now to decide not to be apart of it. She is still in the wedding - but I am worried that it will be awkard - and i dont want that - I just dont know what to do about it...

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

I say continue to call her, or drop by her house.
When u write an e-mail, it can always be taking out of context, because u don't know the person's tone.
Speak in person, eye to eye!

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i had the same situation not too long ago. One of my friends/BM after being friends since grammer school decided that our friendship was making her unhappy & unhealthy & that the only time I would talk to her would be about the wedding which wasnt true of course--but at times there would be silence and I would try and fill it with things going on in my life. Sometimes it is really hard but sometimes you just grow apart and your lives go in different directions or something is going on in their life anf they don't want you to be a part of it. I would try and call her for the next few weeks until after the wedding but honestly it seems that you are making all the effort and she is making none--in that case it might be best for you to let the friendship sizzle--maybe she will come around--but unfortunately sometimes things don't turn out the way you want. I haven't spoken to my "friend" in over 2 months and honestly I am upset & find myself wanting to call her sometimes but in teh end she hurt me and she is the one that ended it w/ an email saying good luck on the bar exam and my wedding. Sorry this is so long but I thought maybe you would want to hear from someone that is also going through the same thing.

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Im going through the same thing. My best friend since childhood has been very withdrawn since I announced the engagement. I can count on one hand how many times we've communicated in the last 17 months. As much as it upsets me that its come to this, I CANNOT and WILL NOT blame this on myself. Just like you, I have reached out to her, but to no avail. Im hoping things will change after the wedding, but if they dont I have no choice but to part ways with her. Know that this is not your fault and sometimes friends arent meant to last forever. Dont beat yourself up for someone else's inconsiderate behavior. Give it one last shot and then make your decision.

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Posted by divabride

Im going through the same thing. My best friend since childhood has been very withdrawn since I announced the engagement. I can count on one hand how many times we've communicated in the last 17 months. As much as it upsets me that its come to this, I CANNOT and WILL NOT blame this on myself. Just like you, I have reached out to her, but to no avail. Im hoping things will change after the wedding, but if they dont I have no choice but to part ways with her. Know that this is not your fault and sometimes friends arent meant to last forever. Dont beat yourself up for someone else's inconsiderate behavior. Give it one last shot and then make your decision.

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Re: Some advice needed about close friend

Nothing beats talking face to face. Show up at her house and take her for a long drive. Go to an old hang out, but somewhere you both can talk, and let it all out. It might be just a simple misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up.

18 days away you should be feeling like not like

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Posted by Dama88

Nothing beats talking face to face. Show up at her house and take her for a long drive. Go to an old hang out, but somewhere you both can talk, and let it all out. It might be just a simple misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up.

18 days away you should be feeling like not like

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Re: Some advice needed about close friend

I am in the same sorta situation. My best friend for years and I have drifted apart in the last couple of months. It took me a while to understand that her life and mine are on two different pages right now. I am getting married and just bought a house and she is still on the dating scene and living at home. I love her dearly and we talk as much as possible but I finally realize now that know matter how much our lives take us on different paths we will always have our great friendship. Maybe your friend just misses you and what you two shared. I would go out to lunch with her and talk about it. I am sure you two can work things out.