Question about inviting people to the wedding

We invited some people to the engagement party that now we dont want to come to the wedding ( FI doesnt really talk to them anymore) I know that who ever is invited to the engagement party should be invited to the wedding. Is it really bad of us if we dont invite these selected few? Please Help

Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

It really depends on a few things:

1) Are they family?
2) How close were you with them before?
3) When was the last time you spoke with them?
4) Why don't you talk to them anymore?

Number 4 is definately the MOST important!

Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

Unless there was a huge falling out, these people should be invited.

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Not bad IMO. Usually they say if they are invited to the E-party they have to be invited to the wedding. But this is a different situation...you no longer want them there...so I wouldn't invite them. I know if I had a falling out with someone and didn't want them at the wedding I wouldn't invite them solely because they came to my e-party.

Ultimately, I believe..."If you don't want them there...don't invite them"

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1) No
2) FI is in the Vol Firehouse so just friends not soo close
3) We see them all the time
4) We still talk to them not as much as we did

Plus we are trying to cut down our list 360 people

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I think you have to invite them - especially if you still see them often.

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Posted by Mickey3722

1) No
2) FI is in the Vol Firehouse so just friends not soo close
3) We see them all the time
4) We still talk to them not as much as we did

Plus we are trying to cut down our list 360 people

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Posted by WedHead

I think you have to invite them - especially if you still see them often.

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Posted by Mickey3722

1) No
2) FI is in the Vol Firehouse so just friends not soo close
3) We see them all the time
4) We still talk to them not as much as we did

Plus we are trying to cut down our list 360 people

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Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

You should invite them if they are still a part of your lives and especially if your guest list has that many people on it. If they were important enough to invite to e-party but didn't make the first 350 invited to the wedding -what does that say? I don't mean to be mean but that is exactly how I would see it from their point of view. I'm certainly not trying to offend you but I think that would be most people's reation to not being invited to the wedding.

Edited to ask: Is the guest list 360 or are you trying to eliminate 360? I still think you should invite them either way.

Message edited 3/26/2005 8:47:55 AM.

Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

Unless you had a really bad fight, then you shouldnt invite them. Other tan that you kind a have to. You dont want to seem like a gready bridezilla.

Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

since you still see them I think inviting them is good idea

Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

I think you need to invite them. Esp since you always see them.


I was not invited to the wedding of someone that i was at the E-party for. I bought a very nice gift for the eparty too. We had no fight, no falling out, we just weren't as close anymore. She lived (and still does) in my town, so I have seen her - I think it's very rude and so did a lot of other people.

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You wedding list is already really big (360), I am sure a few more people won't hurt.

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I think it is just fine

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I think you have to invite them.


You invited them to the e-party. it's really not fiar to not invite them to teh wedding. This happenned to my sister once, and believe me she did NOT forget it.

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I also think you need to invite them.

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Posted by gNi1125

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Posted by Mickey3722

1) No
2) FI is in the Vol Firehouse so just friends not soo close
3) We see them all the time
4) We still talk to them not as much as we did

Plus we are trying to cut down our list 360 people

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It doesn't really sound like you guys had a falling out...I don't know now...if you see them all the time it might be tough not to invite them

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Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

Thanks girls :) I guess I have no choice.

Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

Yeah, I would say, yes you need to invite them. Since it's not like you had a falling out or something happened and you still see each other all the time, I would say you really should invite them.

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If you are trying to cut people off of your already LARGE guest list I think you should leave them out if you are not feeling them anymore and so forth.

I HAD a guest list of 160 people that I was trying to cut down b/c of the cost per person.

You know what, we couldn't and now we are on our way to Barbados to get married!

Listen do not invite people b/c u THINK u have to!! I had to go over my list countless times and say u know what this person doesn't need to be there sharing in a speciall part of my life when they are NOT a part of my everyday life.

Think about this as you go through ur list.

I wish you all the best on your upcomming marriage.

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Posted by MrsMichel07

If you are trying to cut people off of your already LARGE guest list I think you should leave them out if you are not feeling them anymore and so forth.

I HAD a guest list of 160 people that I was trying to cut down b/c of the cost per person.

You know what, we couldn't and now we are on our way to Barbados to get married!

Listen do not invite people b/c u THINK u have to!! I had to go over my list countless times and say u know what this person doesn't need to be there sharing in a speciall part of my life when they are NOT a part of my everyday life.

Think about this as you go through ur list.

I wish you all the best on your upcomming marriage.

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Re: Question about inviting people to the wedding

IMO-- The determing factor for me is -- if they DO come to the wedding, will I dread talking to them? If the answer is yes -- I am definately not inviting them. I'm not going to feel uncomfortable at my own wedding! That's my little "test" when deciding who to invite.